TD.......One thing want to say.....don't get in a rush and end up with a money pit. It's only been month since you first put an offer on a house. Now you have put bids in on quite a few only to be shot down. Sit back, relax, give it some time, get a game plan together, then go from there. For one, winter is a very bad time to buy a house. I would hate to see you and momma get overly anxious, only to find out you got screwed on a deal.
Other than a house for momma, and a garage for you, make out a list as to what you both want. How many bathrooms, how many acres, how many bedrooms. I see that you have one little one in your avatar......are you planning any others.
What are your intentions for a garage? To just park, to wrench, to woodwork,, storage?
Do you guys entertain a lot. Do you want and open space, do you want closed in rooms, what size of house are you looking for as far as square footage? Do you want an upstairs (bad thing with little ones) Are you looking for a basement?
The reason I ask this is like I said, you've put an offer on almost everything you looked at. That tells me that you are in a huge hurry to get into a house of your own.. But in doing so, that is where a lot of people make a lot of mistakes. Your house is out there, and it will find you before you find it. Just a daily drive will let that house find you.
Find a GOOD Realtor. One that will work with you. Explain to her what you are looking for, and let her do some of the legwork. When the wife and I found the house we have now, our Realtor sold our house in MAYBE 3 weeks if that. The house we bought was on the market for almost three months. We made a low offer and got it. One thing to think about, if a house is setting empty, either the owners have already found their other house,, or are building a house. That puts the ball in your court. In our case, the owners were building a new house out of state, so needed this one sold rather quickly. Our house was in a decent neighborhood, and I had just built a new garage and did some landscaping. We lived there a year and a half, bought it for $52,000 and sold it for $89,000. Our current house, they wanted $125,000 and we got it for $93,000 because they needed it sold due to their new house being built.
So don't get in a hurry. You will find that dream home, or that dream home WILL find you