Chris, considering how much we paid to bail her out of the local Humane Society facility and the regular vet visits, I don't feel all that guilty. I do worry the badge might be an unfair warning sign to the iguanas. Maybe I'll just buy myself an Iguana Hunter T-shirt.Well Bob, he is trying to spend your money not his.
As a guilt trip, Jasmine is worth it right ?
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Chrisb62
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Sorry to hear of the passing of your cousin.
From one fellow sailor to another......I salute him.
From one fellow sailor to another......I salute him.
gearhead1960
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Condolences Bob.
xtremek
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Bob, sorry to hear about your loss. It's a wicked disease.
mybigwarwagon
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Sorry for your loss.
Lyndon
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Bob
Condolences on your family's loss...... Though it sounds like it ended the misery.
And yes - we are here for a good time, not a long time!
Lyndon
Condolences on your family's loss...... Though it sounds like it ended the misery.
And yes - we are here for a good time, not a long time!
Lyndon
Grizz1963
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As always, not a nice thing to lose loved ones or even people you get on with.
I trust you will be able to celebrate the good times and remember what they meant.
Sorry for your loss Bob.
I trust you will be able to celebrate the good times and remember what they meant.
Sorry for your loss Bob.
harley jim
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My condolences Bob, remember the good and celebrate the life
PugetDude
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Condolences, Bob. Lost my MIL to ALZ this spring after a 6-year ride.
It's a terrible disease.
It's a terrible disease.
I should have replied sooner but I was going through old photo albums and picking out pictures of my cousin so his son and daughter-in-law could include them in a memorial tribute to be held next Wednesday. I'll be attending on line because a trip to Wisconsin isn't real attractive at this time of year. Projects are on hold while I do some reflecting and appreciating what I have. My broken and unfinished stuff can wait.
Guilt trip aside, spending $99 on a trinket for Jasmine would not go over well with some people. I paid $50 for Liane's gold wedding band back in 1962 and she doesn't believe in inflation.
I've never had any idea how much time I have left but I have known each day is precious since I turned 21.
Chris, Uncle Willie's third job is encouraging other people to spending their money. His first job is scrapping and second is sales rep for Stryker Trailers.Well Bob, he is trying to spend your money not his.
As a guilt trip, Jasmine is worth it right ?
Guilt trip aside, spending $99 on a trinket for Jasmine would not go over well with some people. I paid $50 for Liane's gold wedding band back in 1962 and she doesn't believe in inflation.
Thank you Chris.
Thank you Mark.
Kirk, I appreciate the condolence and I agree it's a terrible disease. Spending your last days with strangers is terrible but a whole different level when everyone is a stranger.
Thanks Uncle Willie.
Lyndon, to some degree my memories keep me going and fill me with happiness. If it all went away I would be just a lump of meat.
I've never had any idea how much time I have left but I have known each day is precious since I turned 21.
Rian, he and I will be laughing together as long as I live. This is how I remember him -- the day the restoration shop returned his 1963 Corvette Split Window Coupe. He bought it in 1965 with the money he saved while working in a deli -- that was in 2010.
Thank you Jim.
Scott, my mother's dementia was tough enough to deal with. She knew who I was and spending time every day with her in her final years gives me peace. Having all her treasures surrounding her probably helped as well. She spent time going through her and her mother's photo albums and until her final year wrote down some of her childhood memories. I share a lot of my memories here just to confirm a few pockets of the gray matter are alive.
tj675
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Bob,
That’s a great picture in the split window. You can just see the joy in his face.
That’s a great picture in the split window. You can just see the joy in his face.
jon72vega
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Bob,
I'm a little late here, but sorry for your loss.
I'm a little late here, but sorry for your loss.
TJ, he and I felt the same way about Corvettes. I was jealous in 1965 because a Corvette was a dream for me. Best I could do was to buy a new '68 GTO because we had kids. My college graduation present (took 15 years) to myself in 1977 was a '69 Big Block 4-speed Corvette convertible. It put us on a somewhat equal footing. A forgiving wife kept me in the game after I wrecked the '69, letting me replace it with the '72 Big Block automatic coupe (I suspect it was because she couldn't depress the clutch pedal in the convertible).
He jumped ahead again in 1984 when he bought a second Corvette. He was certain the '84 coupe would be an "investment" that appreciated like his '63. I responded in 1991 with our friendly competition when I bought the '87 Corvette convertible. He was as happy for me as I was for him that we both had two Corvettes. He gave the '63 to his son and the '84 to his daughter right after his disastrous visit to Florida in 2016.
Jon, thank you.
Ford52PU
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sorry foryour loss. Remember the good times.
Grizz1963
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“Rian, he and I will be laughing together as long as I live. This is how I remember him -- the day the restoration shop returned his 1963 Corvette Split Window Coupe. He bought it in 1965 with the money he saved while working in a deli -- that was in 2010.”
Bob,
That is the perfect response and reply.
You will be fine my friend, if a bit bruised.
I still laugh at and with my parents, both gone 26 and 13 years ago.
A perfect tribute and the way to do it imho.
Bob,
That is the perfect response and reply.
You will be fine my friend, if a bit bruised.
I still laugh at and with my parents, both gone 26 and 13 years ago.
A perfect tribute and the way to do it imho.
mybigwarwagon
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Close. My main job is sarcastic comments. Second is dispensing bad advice. Third is giving Steph money to go to the grocery store. Everything else is a jumbled mess after that. And NEVERBUYAStryker trailer.
Rian, I lost my brother 58 years ago when I was 19 and focused on grief. When my grandfather, father and one of my uncles died over the following 5 years, I realized their deaths were events, not the essence of their lives. You can let grief take over your life and taint everything you say and do. I am even learning to deal with the loss of a pet in a positive way.
Uncle Willie, do you have degrees in those skills? Feels like you have a Master's in sarcasm but only an Associate's degree in bad advice. My Bachelor's was a major in English and a minor in Useless Information. The English part of the degree is honorary (I didn't learn the language).
mybigwarwagon
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Yes, I have a masters in sarcasm, but a black belt in bad advice. Giving Steph money is an honorary degree, because she says I should be honored to so it.
I only speak redneck with a smattering of yankee, so I can't help you with English.
I only speak redneck with a smattering of yankee, so I can't help you with English.
EDIT: I wrote this this morning but failed to post it....
Woke up in the dark to 42°F outside. It's a clear and sunny day so now it's 50°F on the North side of the house and 54°F on the East side.
Next year I have to give our daughter some suggestions for Christmas presents. In the absence of any hints, she gifted us a hydroponic indoor herb garden with LED grow light. I plugged it in and tested the light and realized it isn't meant to be indoors. I moved it out to the covered patio and set it up Christmas day. I set it to turn the light on at night and it's bright enough to attract an alien spacecraft. The thing has six holes so they provided five different seed packs: Basil, Cilantro, Italian Parsley, Oregano and Thyme. I made labels so I wouldn't have to guess what's growing where. I put some ~40-year-old Cilantro seeds in the sixth position to see if they would grow as well as the provided Cilantro seeds.
Tomorrow will be the one month anniversary and we have Basil and Italian Parsley with a hint of Thyme growing. The Oregano started to grow but apparently wasn't happy with the humidity and turned black. After I took the picture I removed all the clear domes. Their is no sign of life in either Cilantro pod. Because the Basil has taken off, I raised the light a few inches. I'm going to let this hydroponic garden do its thing for now but I suspect it's going to a local thrift store to join the giant air fryer we received a few years ago. It was supposed to sit on our kitchen counter but took up as much room as the range (which has a convection oven).
Woke up in the dark to 42°F outside. It's a clear and sunny day so now it's 50°F on the North side of the house and 54°F on the East side.
Next year I have to give our daughter some suggestions for Christmas presents. In the absence of any hints, she gifted us a hydroponic indoor herb garden with LED grow light. I plugged it in and tested the light and realized it isn't meant to be indoors. I moved it out to the covered patio and set it up Christmas day. I set it to turn the light on at night and it's bright enough to attract an alien spacecraft. The thing has six holes so they provided five different seed packs: Basil, Cilantro, Italian Parsley, Oregano and Thyme. I made labels so I wouldn't have to guess what's growing where. I put some ~40-year-old Cilantro seeds in the sixth position to see if they would grow as well as the provided Cilantro seeds.
Tomorrow will be the one month anniversary and we have Basil and Italian Parsley with a hint of Thyme growing. The Oregano started to grow but apparently wasn't happy with the humidity and turned black. After I took the picture I removed all the clear domes. Their is no sign of life in either Cilantro pod. Because the Basil has taken off, I raised the light a few inches. I'm going to let this hydroponic garden do its thing for now but I suspect it's going to a local thrift store to join the giant air fryer we received a few years ago. It was supposed to sit on our kitchen counter but took up as much room as the range (which has a convection oven).
Grizz1963
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Gifts are a real problem for me too.
Some of the best gifts have been half tubs of used nuts, bolts, and offcuts of materials.
And the worst, AFTER telling the person not to buy it, was a foot spa. WTaF ?
I am often more happy with a simple card and well chosen words than some random impractical item.
Last year Sally and I chose not to do silly big presents……. Just a few frivolous things like a box of home made fudge for me, some **** foaming shower gel for her and a bottle of chutney.
So the best present she got me……. A rain meter for my garden.
I absolutely love it, my previous two eventually succumbed to ultraviolet light and disintigrated.
Your basil looks happy though
Some of the best gifts have been half tubs of used nuts, bolts, and offcuts of materials.
And the worst, AFTER telling the person not to buy it, was a foot spa. WTaF ?
I am often more happy with a simple card and well chosen words than some random impractical item.
Last year Sally and I chose not to do silly big presents……. Just a few frivolous things like a box of home made fudge for me, some **** foaming shower gel for her and a bottle of chutney.
So the best present she got me……. A rain meter for my garden.
I absolutely love it, my previous two eventually succumbed to ultraviolet light and disintigrated.
Your basil looks happy though
gearhead1960
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....the best gifts are the ones I get to pick out or buy myself. I've gotten a nice collection of M12 and M18 tools that way..... madison069
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That's about the best we can do while we're still on this earth. My grandmother on my dad's side passed away 3 weeks ago, and I picture her being greeted by her three boys. I'm sure my Dad has been keeping my uncles in line for her. I look back on the pictures and remember the good times we had.
But enough of that, as for gifts I would say my wife enjoys her "air Fryer" which is an oversize toaster oven. I can't convince her that's it's a toaster oven either, she hated toaster ovens cause her ex used them and she never understood the need for it. But when her mother got this "air Fryer" she had to have one and so I got her one. If you buy those mail delivered meals from hello fresh, it's a perfect size cooker for the meal too and it cooks faster then using the bigger oven.
We got something like that greenhouse light thing you got, but ours was just a stand that holds a light basically. You had to provide the pots, dirt, and seeds. It was used one time and then it got taken apart so it store flat on a shelf. It's been in the same spot for 4 years cause every time I go to throw it away, I get told that they will use it this year. But it never gets used.
You reminded me of an email my grandfather sent to his children one year stating they were out of wall space and didn't need any more lake/fishing memorabilia. Instead what they wanted for Christmas was 1/2 cord of firewood.
Later after we visited and chopped up some downed trees he updated his request to 1/4 cord of firewood.
My condolences about your brother. The post where you described him getting lost and the week around that must have been incredibly stressful.
Later after we visited and chopped up some downed trees he updated his request to 1/4 cord of firewood.
My condolences about your brother. The post where you described him getting lost and the week around that must have been incredibly stressful.
Dan in Pasadena
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Bob, I'm VERY sorry to hear about the loss of your cousin. My sincere condolences. So terribly hard particularly when a cruel disease like Alzheimers takes their consciousness before their physical loss.
We just lost my brother-in-law last week. My sister, niece & nephew are going to pick up his ashes today. I cannot remember before he was in our family because he was dating my sister by the time I was 8 and I'm 67 now. He was the best man at my wedding. He was diagnosed with an inoperable abdominal aneurysm years ago and told he might live as long as 5 years. He lasted into his 7th year. He'd been pretty healthy for a life long smoker until about 10 years ago and EVERYthing started going south. COPD, eyesight, hearing, then the aneurysm.
You are SO right. Our time here is incredibly short. The "best revenge is living well" is kinda true. For me, living well means appreciating every tiny thing you've been given. Not "things" per se, but every breeze you feel on your face, every laugh, etc. Ok, gotta get off this subject before I tear up. My best to you friend-I've-never-met. -Dan
We just lost my brother-in-law last week. My sister, niece & nephew are going to pick up his ashes today. I cannot remember before he was in our family because he was dating my sister by the time I was 8 and I'm 67 now. He was the best man at my wedding. He was diagnosed with an inoperable abdominal aneurysm years ago and told he might live as long as 5 years. He lasted into his 7th year. He'd been pretty healthy for a life long smoker until about 10 years ago and EVERYthing started going south. COPD, eyesight, hearing, then the aneurysm.
You are SO right. Our time here is incredibly short. The "best revenge is living well" is kinda true. For me, living well means appreciating every tiny thing you've been given. Not "things" per se, but every breeze you feel on your face, every laugh, etc. Ok, gotta get off this subject before I tear up. My best to you friend-I've-never-met. -Dan
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Mr. Roboto
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Sorry Bob, I am a bit late, but very sorry for your loss. What a wonderful photo of him in the Corvette, he looks genuinely happy there!
Rian, I tell my friends and relatives that I have everything I ever wanted or needed so buying me more stuff just means a bigger dumpster day when I'm gone.Gifts are a real problem for me too.
Some of the best gifts have been half tubs of used nuts, bolts, and offcuts of materials.
And the worst, AFTER telling the person not to buy it, was a foot spa. WTaF ?
I am often more happy with a simple card and well chosen words than some random impractical item.
Last year Sally and I chose not to do silly big presents……. Just a few frivolous things like a box of home made fudge for me, some **** foaming shower gel for her and a bottle of chutney.
So the best present she got me……. A rain meter for my garden.
I absolutely love it, my previous two eventually succumbed to ultraviolet light and disintigrated.
Your basil looks happy though
Marc, you and me both. Last year I asked for a small M12 battery because I buy my Milwaukee tools without the battery and charger (I have 3 Milwaukee chargers). There was mumbling but the look on my face when my request was honored was apparently priceless.
Cody, sorry to hear about your grandmother. I had a really good time going through the old family album for my cousin's memorial. Every picture of us together was laughter or big smiles. I'm going to miss his visits but I expect he will stop by in my dreams.
I'm going to leave the hydroponic garden outside and will probably forget it's there. I do plan to snip a few pieces of basil and maybe some fresh parsley.
Legendcc, if I could run the Air Conditioning on wood I would make the same request.
My brother's death was terrible but was also a great learning experience. The way we handle death is unbelievable. I'm sure there are caring and compassionate funeral directors but there's a special place in the ground for the ones who prey on people in that moment. They told me I was missing the point of all the fancy extras -- to make my parents feel better -- not to bump up the price.
My casket will be the cardboard box they provide to transport my wet lump to the oven. Turns out there are some stupid rules about Glad bags and appliance boxes.
Dan, I am sorry to hear about your brother--in-law and you know you have my condolences.
I feel better than I have a right to at 77 and as you say, I enjoy the little things I come across every day.
Mr. Roboto, I appreciate the kind words. I will miss him but I'm glad his misery is over. I haven't seen him since the episode when he tried to come for a visit and I am glad I didn't witness his decline.
Made some progress today. Decided to open the panel in the workshop/shed. Turns out a crimp connector on the hot leg of my power cable overheated itself to death. Re-did all the connections with copper sleeves crimped on with a hydraulic crimper and then filled the connections with solder. Power is back on, nothing caught fire and I didn't electrocute myself.
4 FN 27
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A good day!!!
Completely agree on the above re: cardboard box. My wife and I are of the line of thought.
We were fortunate in our dealings with the funeral director for my wife's brother who passed about 3 weeks shy of his 50th birthday. He (and us) wanted cremation and the funeral director explained the option of a "witness" cremation. Simple cardboard box, you go with them right to the oven and say your final good byes. They allowed my wife to press the "Start" button too. Sounds creepy but it does give you a sense of closure and certainty that it really is your loved one and only them being cremated.
Condolences on your loss. Dementia is such a sucky thing. Went through it with my mother - I hate that disease.
BTW... Completely different takes on services.... My mom wanted the whole nine yards - Fancy casket, Catholic mass, motor ****** to the cemetery, etc. So, we did the whole deal for her - you have to respect their wishes.
msharley
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Mr. Roboto
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Alzheimer's is a devastating disease, not only for those who have it, but for those around them as well. I've had a few family members suffer from it, and some friends parent's as well. Seeing someone who is otherwise perfectly healthy slip away is absolutely heart breaking, and I don't wish it on my worst enemy. May he rest in peace.
1967ChevyRagtop
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Our mother crossed over at midnight after 6mos of surgical torture in a hospital 2hrs away from her home, so my brother and I waited at the Hospital for her local funeral home to arrive. At that point she had only hospital clothes.
In reviewing her funeral coverage funeral vulture added $1200 for a burial gown. My brother asked "Can't we bury her naked?" Funeral guy kinda wobbled.
xtremek
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Wait, what? People do electrical repairs without getting shocked? That can't be right.
Pat, I've had 28,255 of those good days.
Roger, thank you for the condolences. I suspect there are more than a few of us pushing back on the final expense business.
Your experience with your wife's brother proves it can be done in a sensitive and caring way.
Your respect for your mother's wishes match mine. When my mother died, I held off on her church service for a month to give her friends time to adjust their calendars (she was 95 and most of her friends were close to that age). My aunt had her husband's body buried in the cemetery right next to my brother so my mother requested cremation with her ashes interred in my father's site. It's a private family cemetery so I dug the hole and put her urn in the ground with my aunt's family in attendance. Both my mother and aunt have their stones set at the foot of their husband's graves.
Mark, thank you very much.
Mr. Roboto, turns out the disease was first identified as such in 1906. Probably witchcraft side effect before that. I don't know if it's the worst way to die but it's pretty horrible to watch. Wife and I have talked about alternative strategies for treatment but best not to elaborate here. The downside is my failure to recognize her after a spa treatment could have fatal consequences.
Bill, they tried that special suit thing for my brother's funeral so I went home and got his Sunday suit out of the closet. Back in 1964 it was only $300 for a backless jacket and pants (I did ask for a discount because he didn't need pants with the million dollar silk casket liner covering his private bits. I may lack the respect for the dead the funeral director guilt-trips you into paying for but after you've paid their ransom it leaves a bitter and angry taste. I'm only a little less resentful of the florists who carry on the $$$$$ tradition. We set up a scholarship in his name at Middlebury College and the money spent on flowers (that used to help cover the decomp smell) would have helped quite a few students avoid debtor's prison.
Kirk, you have a valid point. I watched an old electrician who dried his fingers before testing live wires.
madison069
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Beware of the shipping cost of a body. To transport my Dad back to Odessa where he had a partial paid funeral plan, it was gonna cost $2,500 for 352 miles travel. They were not impressed with my question about just wrapping him up and throwing him on the top of the car.
Instead I found a local cremation place, sent him there for 1/10 of the funeral cost, and had a service with pictures of dad. Then he traveled through the USPS for $45 to PA after they cremated him.
My dad always told me, "don't give them vultures anymore more money then you have to", and so I did as I was told.
PugetDude
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A good friend who passed recently always used to say he didn’t believe in leaving inheritances- enjoy your money while you can- the last check you write should be to the undertaker- and it should bounce.
xtremek
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Just got back from a funeral. She was 95, had 9 kids, 23 gkids, and 12ggkids. She was loved. Since everyone we knew is at least 55, so we talked about this. If I had my way, they'd dig a trench out back, and dump my body into it.
ODIS
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We send our condolence to you, Bob.