Yes, messing with high density connectors is a pain in the ***. For sure; for all of us.
Connectors are the number one reason for system intermittencies or failures. They gotta be rite.
They do indeed sell all of the tools to do them correctly.
It's hard to believe that thin wall is going to take the torque required to get old plugs out. That is prolly why the $140 ones command that much money.