Fiance' says garage is too big.....

[mikey531]

Fiancee' says garage is too big.....

Here is my story, I had a 24 x 26 and a 30 x 30 garage at my house in Maine. I sold my house and moved in with my future wife in southern New Hampshire. Our plan was to find a house with a big garage or land enough to build one. Everything we looked at was still priced way too high. So I decided to see how big of a garage I could build onto her house. The lot is grandfathered and I can build a 36 x 40 garage and meet all zoning codes. Now she is having second thoughts about the garage being too big? I didn't know you could build a garage too big? I have taken some pictures of garage styles and found one she likes but I think if I could find someone who could do a rendering of her house with the garage so she could see it would look ok. Any thoughts, comments or ideas?
Thanks
Mike

 

[UpstateNY]

Re: Fionce' says garage is too big.....

What's a fionce' ? Male version of a fiance' ?

 

[mikey531]

I knew it didn't look correct, all fixed now Thanks

 

[Crusty Nut]

uhh, buy your old house back?

 

[ElectroLight]

Tell her to deal with it, just as you will deal with her **** being "too big" in the not too distant future

You could try Google sketchup for your rendering, it's a handy application and fairly easy to learn.

 

[kornjulio]

I'm sure an architect can put together some drawings reflecting the proposed addition...never done it, so I have no idea what's involved nor the cost.

So right now you have no garage, is that correct?

 

[930dreamer]

I see trouble down the road.

 

[uhohjim]

Time to look for a new fiance......once you compromise on the garage.........it will all be downhill.........LOL

 

[ratdoggy]

Then her closets are too big

 

[Jimmy_B]

Time to look for a new fiance

^^^^This^^^^

 

[Mr.Mix]

Too...big? Some girls just don't get it I suppose. It's like us saying they have too much jewelry!

 

[djjsr]

Size is a relative thing. Most women know this.

What you need to do is lay out plans for something around 60 x 100. Show her how everything will be arranged and get her opinion. Then, when she really ******* about it, settle for the 36 x 40.

 

[ElectroLight]

What you need to do is lay out plans for something around 60 x 100. Show her how everything will be arranged and get her opinion. Then, when she really ******* about it, settle for the 36 x 40.

^ Genius!

 

[Toymeister]

More detail is needed, What she may be saying is the gargae is too big relative to the house, or too big that close to the house. Approach this as a team building exercise (with all women) rather than a problem to solve.

Try this: Hmm Honey, how do you think I can handle my projects with a smaller garage? Do you think I should have two smaller buildings? Or have the garage further away from the house?

 

[Nighttrain]

djjsr has it right!

That or is the soon to be wife happy with the kitchen? If not do a remodel of it for her to distract her from the garage.

 

[green.bubbly]

 

[hockey88fan]

Definately do the scaled architect drawing. Some people don't like if the the garage is bigger, or just bigger looking, than the house. Me on the other hand....

 

[Viriiguy]

What you need to do is lay out plans for something around 60 x 100. Show her how everything will be arranged and get her opinion. Then, when she really ******* about it, settle for the 36 x 40.

This is exactly it.. You should have started with the 60 x 100 though
When I used to run a computer shop, I wanted my customers to buy a quality computer that I would not be fixing all the time.. They wanted to buy the cheapest piece of **** on the market..

So I would always do the same thing.. 3 quotes.. A Monster machine.. A pricey machine and then the lowest priced quality computer I could supply them. They pretty much always bought what I wanted.. And were happier for it in the long run. Even if they did not know they were.

 

[Aberdale]

Great comments so far . . . . but what if she's right? Just because you can build a 36x40 doesn't mean it's the "right" size for the property, and may negatively affect the future property value. At this point, none of us know what you are proposing (for the garage, not to her), what it will look like, what the current house looks like, how big the property is, etc., so we are all just guessing. And on this forum we are all a bit biased towards "bigger is better" when it comes to garages.

A 36x40 sounds nice, (I have a 40x60 myself, but it's on 77 acres so it doesn't look too big on the property), but a 36x40 on a 1/3 acre lot may be way too big. We have been considering a move to North Carolina, and have been looking at properties with a shop already on it. A few we have rejected because the shop actually was too big and detracted from the rest of the property and neighborhood.

Just something to think about.

Dale

 

[A**holes Garage]

 

[Kevin54]

Here is my story, I had a 24 x 26 and a 30 x 30 garage at my house in Maine. I sold my house and moved in with my future wife in southern New Hampshire. Our plan was to find a house with a big garage or land enough to build one. Everything we looked at was still priced way too high. So I decided to see how big of a garage I could build onto her house. The lot is grandfathered and I can build a 36 x 40 garage and meet all zoning codes. Now she is having second thoughts about the garage being too big? I didn't know you could build a garage too big? I have taken some pictures of garage styles and found one she likes but I think if I could find someone who could do a rendering of her house with the garage so she could see it would look ok. Any thoughts, comments or ideas?
Thanks
Mike

There's the problem. It's HER house, so it might be the case that what she says, goes. Will it always be her house or will it be both of you two's home?

Just sayin'

 

[A_Pmech]

The idea that the house must overpower everything else on the property is an American idea.

Around the time this photo was taken the man who lived in this house employed 35,000 people and the shop complex covered 5 square miles. His private railroad, part of which runs past the front door, had 53 miles of track:

 

[sooperdave]

I've never seen a garage that was too big

 

[puttsy]

I second the Google SketchUp suggestion. If you learn how to draw a garage and house in it, when time comes to outfit your garage with cabinets, toolboxes, work benches, etc... You'll be able to draw that up and design it how you want. You will also avoid those moments of 'it looked better in my head' where seeing is needed to really know what works.

 

[OccupantRJ]

djjsr has it right!

That or is the soon to be wife happy with the kitchen? If not do a remodel of it for her to distract her from the garage.

No, do a remodel of the kitchen AFTER you get the garage.......

 

[DodgeZ]

at least you aren't married yet. You better get a prenuptial.

 

[NUTTSGT]

Tell her the ring on her finger is too big, that you want to take it back and get her a smaller one.

 

[buzz4041]

Run as fast as you can man. You have already lost. She got you to sell your place now she has got you.

 

[jhelrey]

There's the problem. It's HER house, so it might be the case that what she says, goes. Will it always be her house or will it be both of you two's home?

Just sayin'

X45678465783468756348

I agree 100%. You can never be successful moving into something SHE owns. It will always be hers, and you will always be a guest. Trust me, I've seen relationships end due to this. I've also seen both sides sell everything and buy a new house together. That way, it is theirs.

Legally as well, she can kick you out, etc. Any and all $ you put towards the house is hers being that her name is in the deed. If you build this garage and something happens, I feel you maybe out of big bucks.

Not trying to ruin your parade but I've seen it go bad quick, esp. if she is a neat freak, semi controlling, etc.

Then again, I don't know your relationship so I am just going off of the surface.

 

[AuroraSC]

If you have drawings detailing your house, land , shop etc. I might be able to help you. I do basically what you are asking from time to time for people who want to conceptually what something would look like.

Send me a PM if you might be interested.

Michael

 

[bobadame]

X45678465783468756348

I agree 100%. You can never be successful moving into something SHE owns. It will always be hers, and you will always be a guest. Trust me, I've seen relationships end due to this. I've also seen both sides sell everything and buy a new house together. That way, it is theirs.

Legally as well, she can kick you out, etc. Any and all $ you put towards the house is hers being that her name is in the deed. If you build this garage and something happens, I feel you maybe out of big bucks.

Not trying to ruin your parade but I've seen it go bad quick, esp. if she is a neat freak, semi controlling, etc.

Then again, I don't know your relationship so I am just going off of the surface.

This. And it's more than this. Building a life together is much more than adding on to an existing house.

 

[GirlnAgarage]

Have you asked her WHY she thinks it's too big? Looks? Function? Lot size? Cost?

Figure out why then we can tell you better on how to go about countering that. Or at least I can give you a married woman's perspective on what you can say and be successful at getting the garage. You don't need to be so quick to start an argument and end up in a fight to get the things you'd like to have.

Also, take a pic of the location/house you want and you can put tat into Google sketchup. It'll give you a good idea of what you'll encounter going forward.

 

[OccupantRJ]

You may want to buy half her house from her, and have your name on the deed. If she balks at this, you better do some serious thinking. Also, would she be contributing to the cost of the garage? I have a good friend who did what you propose, spent a lot of money on her house, now things are not so rosy, and she OWNS him. He no longer owns his own car. She had extra cars, so he sold his older one to save money. Can't even leave if he wanted, unless he was willing to walk everywhere.

 

[Drunken Yak inc]

Re: Fionce' says garage is too big.....

What's a fionce' ? Male version of a fiance' ?

Fiancé is the male version of the word... Fiancée is the female counterpart.

 

[GMCAMARO]

Its about your happiness, my wife and I try to make each other happy. We currently have 5 bays. At our last house which had 2.5 bays I said I wanted more she was all for it. She is not for you. I understand the drive for love and ***, but garages are more important.

Get out before it costs,.

 

[Hephaestus29]

I agree with some of the other posters above, you better keep the future in mind because if you spend all this money now on a garage on her property that could be a big problem for you if your relationship takes a sour turn.

I think I would consider buying a piece of property together or buying half or hers now if she doesn't like either one of those ideas she could be setting you up to take you.

 

[6t7gto]

Register here...
http://www.yellowbullet.com/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=11

and ask the guys there..
They will definitely tell you how to handle this situation.

 

[USMCdodge]

ya man GTFO while you still can. Next its gonna be. your tool box is too big. You have too many things in your garage.

 

[54stude]

I would go after this a different way.

You are building that big garage for your family. She will know where you are working, you and your kids will be right outside the house working on projects if she needs your help with something, etc. It costs very little more to build it right versus building it small, and this will prevent you from renting a shop away from the house later. You are building this new structure for the whole family (including her future offspring)

 

[SeattleKent]

Marriage is about talking and education. You have good reasons for wanting a shop that big. Talk with her and educate her as to those reasons. At the same time have her educate you on why she thinks it is too big. If you both have an open mind this should be pretty easy to resolve.