[QUOTESo, I'm not getting rid of everything.
I am judging what time I have and what I can do. I am asking for and will get (Even if I have to pay for it), the help I need.
I have reached a watershed moment and am disposing of way more than I ever thought I would.
Of necessity, but that's OK.
And there are contradictory demands from this group.
You don't want me to take time to post. Claim it is grandstanding, and wasting time, yet you want photos...WTF?
And you think it takes just minutes to do things, I am just lazy, it should all be done in a few days, yet the mess is so monumental that I should just abandon the place..again, WTF?
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Bill.....A lot of it is not about the posting itself, but it has to do with the amount of postings you make a day about moving this and moving that. When that is done, and in most peoples minds, on one hand, you want support, yet on the other hand, you're posting about petty little items which makes it look like you're spending more time on the computer than you are taking care of business.
Also a lot of the criticism comes from what people followed for a long time on the Grunge Garage thread. You were doing the same thing today as you did back then, and you are using the same excuses today as you did back them.
Along with that, you want support for purging ruined items, yet you go out and buy tools and such. In doing that, how can you expect to get positive comments? You have had a problem with water, sewer, and so on. You refused help to get it fixed, you could have paid to have it fixed, but instead you posted about buying another pop up camper when you already owned a dozen. And you wonder why you don't get positive feedback. You've needed your roof repaired for quite a while now, but instead, you chose to spend money in other places. You had a job and said you quit. You and Julie were going to the dentist, but in your own words, you said you both quit going. You say you are 63 and Julie is 70. You quit your job and she is still working. With all of that, what sort of positive comments do you expect? Do you expect people to say "Great job Bill, keep up the good work".
People cannot give positive comments when they are led on only to be disappointed. I realize hoarding is a sickness and is a mental problem. You toss the word around freely, and rely on comments on here and rely on 49 other "hoarders" to help you overcome your problem? If you realize in your mind that you have a problem, that is a good portion of the help that you need. But if you are bright enough to realize that you have a problem, then why can't you see the other part of the equation and get some professional help? You are a very smart man Bill. I can tell that you are by the way you explain things to others that have problems they run up against. But at times, I also think you're smart enough that you are bullshitting people at times to get them to buy into your plight.
You said yourself up above that while you are throwing things away, you are thinking of ways to keep it. And as intelligent as you are, and intelligent enough to explain complicated solutions to other peoples problems, then how can you not be wise enough to know that you can't store drywall outside for weeks, months, or even years?
Pictures you showed of your house in the Grunge Garage thread, you got to the point where a couple rooms were cleaned out. Yet in this thread, you said that you had to clean the rooms out again. On one hand you're smart enough to do it, post about it, and you did get many positive remarks by many members. But you let the members down, yet still want positive comments. This thread is nothing more than a continuation of The Grunge Garage. Quite a few members have offered to help you in the past, but you turned them away. You have made up excuse after excuse, after excuse for NOT doing things.
It was asked above in this thread, once by me, and maybe by a couple others......I never did see an answer, but what about the hangar that you have? At one time you were moving stuff into it. What about the property where you keep your pop-up campers? How many of those do you still have?
And as intelligent as you are Bill, have you ever set down and actually figured how much money that you two have just pissed away? You know in your mind that you don't use or take care of what you have, and probably never will. You've bought tools that you know you won't use, you've found tools that you didn't remember that you have. You shop Thrift Stores to buy someone elses throw aways, then put those purchases in tubs, under tarps, outside. In pics of the Grunge Garage, you had outdoor items in the house, and inside clothes and such stored outside. If you can figure out and explain architectural problems to people, then why can't you figure out something simple like.....clothes go IN the house. And yet you want support from people. Hoarding can be used as an excuse for a lot of things, but then again, so can laziness. At times Bill, you have worked very hard at doing nothing. Once the Grunge Garage thread was locked, you then stopped doing what you were setting out to do. You stopped the purging of trash, you quit your job, you quit going to the dentist, you probably quit going to the doctor. But you never quit buying. Why? Because it's more fun to play around like that, than it is to do what is necessary. What is necessary is too much like work. Just screwing around all day, or going around and cleaning up the neighborhood is more like fun, because you can walk away from it at any minute on any day. Everyday is something different. But when it comes to your own stuff that is basically the plight of the neighborhood, you choose to ignore it because fun, then becomes work, which you choose to avoid.
Like I said earlier, when the Grunge Garage got locked, you felt a relief, because all posting came to a halt. It started out that you were getting a lot of positive comments, but a few months into it, people saw it for what it was, and the positive comments came to a halt and the negative comments started. Now we are in a new thread a few years later, but the ingredients of the thread make up the same recipe of the last thread. There are more negative comments, and you wonder why not so many positive comments. When you make comments along the lines of "Doing what I am doing takes time, and it can't be done in a few hours or a few days". Well, no it can't. But you have had a few years. You're still carrying buckets of water, you still have the yard trashed, you still aren't working and Julie is STILL working, you are still screwing around cleaning up neighborhood properties (or was up until a few weeks ago), and it's still the Grunge Garage thread with a different name. I really don't think you'll get to many positive comments or a lot of support Bill until you actually take charge of things and prove to the ones that you really DO WANT CHANGE. You've let quite a few members down before and this is just a rerun. Somehow, you'll pay the fine that has been imposed on you, this thread will eventually be locked, and in another year or so, we'll see another thread start up that will be a continuation of the Grunge Garage, The Great Little Garage, only with a different name.[/QUOTE]
Kevin,
Most, if not all, of the points you make above are valid. But to me, right now, they are irrelevant. They are in the past. Something no one can do anything about. All I can do is learn from it and work with what is in front of me right now.
And one other point. I am not here to make sure members are not let down. I know there is a group investment in threads here. And the group helped me along on the original thread, until I didn't move fast enough for them and posts got negative. When the thread closed, I was let down more than anyone. I didn't have your support and I just gave up for a while. I started up again because I have to get this done, and I NEED your support. I want to get the yard and house cleaned and the utilities and house fixed so that I can then start the real "Great Little Garage" thread. That will finally be a garage thread like you all have to show off!
You two really need to seek out some medical help. That's not ********, that's the straight up truth Bill. Most couple's in life haven't owned 40 bins of clothes in their whole life. And with the way you type it, the bins were sorted already, now it's going to happen AGAIN???
