work in garage vs wife

[twostory]

I have been married for six years. My wife & I built the new garage mostly by ourselves. There is a reason it has two stories. My wife is a professional wood worker and the second story is her work shop (1,100 sq ft). She spends more time per week in the garage than I do.

So the orginal poster's problem will never be my problem. If anything, I need to spend more time in the garage working on my stuff and not finishing off my wife's "wood shop"

Oh, did I mention the nice 10x30 ft attic storage area has been taken over for a "wood storage" area. Wood worker are very reluctant to throw away any bits of wood, no matter how small.

 

[ScaldedDog]

Love - Having the object of that love be more important to you than you, yourself, are. As a Christian, I believe that Christ modeled this for us (the whole dying on the cross thing) and I think the good marriages in this thread exemplify this principle.

I can spend an entire weekend in the garage without a word from my wonderful wife, because she knows she's more important to me than anything we might own or do. I tell her that and I show her that, and she does the same for me. Neither of us are perfect, or anywhere close, but we love each other.

If you're in a marriage that is not this way, and if *both* of you are committed to fixing it, then there can be much happiness ahead. If you're not yet married, having a genuine understanding of what love really is can go a long way toward predicting, and ensuring, your success.

[/preaching]

Mark

 

[The Muffin Man]

"Entertain" her? What are you, her personal PSP? If she's bored, tell her to get her @$$ in the kitchen and make you some biscuits. And not those damned whoppin' biscuits, either; make 'em from scratch like the good Lord intended. And if she doesn't know how, then she can sign up for some cooking classes at the community college, and challenge herself to something more than polishing her nails and eating bon-bons while she watches daytime soaps. And while she's at it, look into some classes on how a damned vacuum cleaner is used. And how to wash a freakin' plate.

Oh, wait. Maybe I'm projecting.

You are the Model American

 

[duderjay]

I have been spending a lot of time in there since the garage was put up. My wife leaves me alone

I was able to put in electrical, insulation, drywall and now mudding and taping

she may get pissed tho when she finds out the main reason for the garage was to ummmm do some crazy stuff to my camaro to blow the doors off my nieghbors rides

 

[autoace]

Entertain her... I know exactly how you feel. If she hits the road because your in the garage, so be it. You only live once, dont spend it in hell. Go find a women that wants to be with you in the garage from time to time. Naked... with big mellons... Live in heaven.

Just a thought..

My woman WAS like that, after having your children a strange "woman genetic" thing occurs, and you wonder what body snatcher took your woman away.

 

[mmg440]

My woman WAS like that, after having your children a strange "woman genetic" thing occurs, and you wonder what body snatcher took your woman away.

Yes, How things change,

 

[rcleaver]

Everyone has different wants and needs. That's why marriage should be a negotiation. She may not need entertaining -- she may need to know you care.

My approach is to tell my wife in advance what I plan to do about once a day. Then she tells me what she plans to do. So then we can determine how to proceed. But sometimes she wants me to modify my plans and most often I do, after telling her the effect of the delay. The result is she will modify her plans for me just about anytime I ask.

This is just MY approach but it may be useful to others too. I can't guarantee that because I still don't understand women

You should watch Bill Engvall (Blue Collar Comedy) talk about his wife signalling the mood for *** by touching his shoulder -- "touch means go, push means no" -- hilarious.

 

[Kevin54]

I can't guarantee that because I still don't understand women

Don't ever, ever, try to understand them. Because if you get close to doing it, they change their gameplan. It will only drive you nuts. Next thing you know you are on meds, wearing a bib, and drooling like a one year old.

 

[rcleaver]

Don't ever, ever, try to understand them. Because if you get close to doing it, they change their gameplan. It will only drive you nuts. Next thing you know you are on meds, wearing a bib, and drooling like a one year old.

I still try even though I know defeat is inevitable.

Hey, I'm already drooling.

 

[Dave88LX]

Easy. I held out for the right girl the first time around, who knew what she was getting into.

Let me justify this response with pics.

Oh yeah...she cleans up pretty good too.

 

[jay50]

Dave,
You lucky dog; you got a "Keeper" with that wife

Some folks have all the luck.....

 

[Dragster Racer]

The legs crossed thing while shooting kills me! She's still a woman! Looks like she doesn't mind being one of the boys though. Really cool.
One thing that is echoed in this thread is the dads whose kids come out to the shop...get to go out to the shop. Mom needs a little time to herself, and if the kids and hubby are in the shop, good for her. They get burned out of being Mom too.

 

[Virago9577]

The part about that look ....Seems eerily familiar! Worse when I get caught on ebay...almost as bad as if I were cheatin!

 

[autoace]

Dave 88LX....Has she had your children yet????See my above post.

 

[e-tek]

Dave - ya think the wife will be OK with you posting up the **** shots???

Mine doesn't know!!

 

[goodfellow]

Easy. I held out for the right girl the first time around, who knew what she was getting into.

Good for you Dave -- that girl is a "winner"!!!

PS -- don't do ANYTHING to "screw-up" that relationship

 

[rickairmedic]

We have 5 children between us 13-23 all LIVING AT HOME and 2 grandsons 2YO and 2 weeks also did I mention LIVING WITH US . I must say usually she doesnt even know I am missing for hours till she wanders out to the garage/smoking area. I usually get must be nice . I remind her theres a lock on her office door .Been working this way for 14 years so far .

Rick

 

[Dave88LX]

Dave - ya think the wife will be OK with you posting up the **** shots???

Mine doesn't know!!

Dude...wow.

AND you have a Challenger IIRC?!? You da man!

 

[Dave88LX]

My woman WAS like that, after having your children a strange "woman genetic" thing occurs, and you wonder what body snatcher took your woman away.

Dave 88LX....Has she had your children yet????See my above post.

Actually we just had a baby girl about a month ago. We're in a "new" to us house that we're renovating, no chance of even thinking about working in the garage right now until I give her a kitchen. Hopefully she doesn't change too too much!



Not to get TOO off-topic, but here's my little girl.

 

[mmg440]

Dave 88LX

A little off the subject. How does she keep that shirt looking white and clean while changing oil on a diesel

And are your sure it's your garage and not her's

 

[autoist]

Dave - you need to buy that woman some nitril gloves!

 

[Dave88LX]

Dave 88LX

A little off the subject. How does she keep that shirt looking white and clean while changing oil on a diesel

And are your sure it's your garage and not her's

That's a great question! I don't know how she did it! It got dirty somewhere along the way though.

I've got some gloves now in the basement that are used now...I didn't have any at the time. Good suggestion.

And NO, definitely not her garage.

 

[Gath3r]

34 Married 7 years... I feel divorced. I think. I atleast feel like we are just room mated raising children... I guess that just my onw private hell though..

 

[Gath3r]

, only a divorced guy would spout that stuff....and get away with it...

34 years ld. Married for 7 or them. I feel divorced.. well worse, I feel like I have a room mate and we are raising kids. Just my own private hell I guess..

 

[Gath3r]

lol.. double post. Oh well. Thank the lord for beer and internet I guess.

 

[autoace]

Actually we just had a baby girl about a month ago. We're in a "new" to us house that we're renovating, no chance of even thinking about working in the garage right now until I give her a kitchen. Hopefully she doesn't change too too much!



Not to get TOO off-topic, but here's my little girl.

Congrats, you will love your child enough to overlook the "changes" Best of wishes

 

[ddawg16]

I'm another lucky one.....but my first wife was the b!tch from hell....she had to be 'entertained' all the time...didn't mater that I had been working all day. Still expected to be taken out to dinner....that was 20 years of pure hell...

Much better now...been married almost 9 years...never had a fight...the garage is as much her's as mine...in fact the second story is going to be her art studio....so she is anxious to have it finished.

We have a pretty good system....we take turns taking care of the kids....when possible they come out into the garage with me....when it comes to yard work, we do it together....

Besides the fact that she has bought maybe a 1/3rd of my tools....I can send her to HD for materials and tools and not worry about her bringing back the wrong thing....if the item is too heavy....just a little extra clevage and guys are falling over each other to load up the vehicle....

Life is good....

 

[autoace]

34 years ld. Married for 7 or them. I feel divorced.. well worse, I feel like I have a room mate and we are raising kids. Just my own private hell I guess..

You are not alone, amazing what a man will tolerate, because he loves his kids.

 

[jay50]

That's a great question! I don't know how she did it! It got dirty somewhere along the way though.

I've got some gloves now in the basement that are used now...I didn't have any at the time. Good suggestion.

And NO, definitely not her garage.

The best part of getting dirty in the shop together....is the shower later together

 

[e-tek]

Dude...wow.

AND you have a Challenger IIRC?!? You da man!

Just lucky I guess...but thanks!

 

[mrsleeve]

I used to get sent to the garage when I got in trouble, till she figured out I like it out there and that's where 90% of my toys are

 

[1984GP]

I have people pay me money to work in the garage....

ditto. seems to help!

 

[1atom12]

Words of wisdom from some of the greats.
The best way to get most husbands to do something is to suggest that perhaps they're too old to do it. (Ann Bancroft)

I think men who have a pierced ear are better prepared for marriage. They've experienced pain and bought jewellery. (Rita Rudner)

Keep your eyes wide open before the wedding, half shut afterwards. (Benjamin Franklin)

By all means marry; if you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher. (Socrates)

A husband is like a fire, he goes out when unattended. (Evan Esar)

My wife dresses to kill. She cooks the same way. (Henny Youngman)

My wife and I were happy for twenty years. Then we met. (Rodney Dangerfield)

A good wife always forgives her husband when she's wrong. (Milton Berle)

I was married by a judge. I should have asked for a jury. (George Burns)

I bought my wife a new car. She called and said, 'There's water in the carburettor'. I said, 'Where's the car?' She said, 'In the lake'. (Henny Youngman)

I love being married. It's so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life. (Rita Rudner)

Never go to bed mad. Stay up and fight. (Phyllis Diller)

All marriages are mixed marriages. (Chantal Saperstein)

There's only one way to have a happy marriage and as soon as I learn what it is I'll get married again. (Clint Eastwood)

 

[JCQuick]

I married mine young and trained her well...

That said she does have her honey do's and I try get em'done.

another plus is she does well behind the wheel of the tow vessel on those long road trips

 

[Vicegrip]

Your not kidding and I only have 2 kids.

2 here as well, almost 4 boy and 5.5 girl Kids are the most massive time and money consumers ever invented and for the most part well worth it. They hang out in the shop and come and go. They knock and yell through the door "Daddy are you welding?" If no they come in. My wife works hard raising the kids and keeping house, doing the bills, laundry making food and all the other things a right out of the 1950s family needs. I shlep off to work and earn money, keep the cars running and the house from falling down around us.

I have it good. Last thing I am going to do is gripe.

 

[ddawg16]

My wife is 2 weeks late.........

 

[nickdup1]

I used to get sent to the garage when I got in trouble, till she figured out I like it out there and that's where 90% of my toys are

lol same here, it took me a while but then I started to go out there voluntarily and we've been much happier ever since.

 

[79schaefer]

Amen to that. In the same boat. 35, married 7 years.

34 Married 7 years... I feel divorced. I think. I atleast feel like we are just room mated raising children... I guess that just my onw private hell though..

 

[Neal]

All I can say is when I was married I couldn't do anything in my garage without being called at least every half hour.I didn't mind doing things around or in the house for her except she only wanted me to when I was busy in the shop.She even went as far as buying walkie talkies.I put up with that **** and other things for almost 10 years.I am not perfect by any means but it's a shame when your buddy says you should just get a dog.I got a divorce and still no dog.But I am extremely happy.Besides My 9 year old daughter loves to help.

 

[autoist]

& I built an office into my garage - well, my workshop specifically.....so, my computer & everything is there...I do my taxes, email, everything from my garage office....she's now thinking about how to reuse the office I had in the house....so, we both win!