work in garage vs wife

[mmg440]

All I can say is when I was married I couldn't do anything in my garage without being called at least every half hour.I didn't mind doing things around or in the house for her except she only wanted me to when I was busy in the shop.She even went as far as buying walkie talkies.I put up with that **** and other things for almost 10 years.I am not perfect by any means but it's a shame when your buddy says you should just get a dog.I got a divorce and still no dog.But I am extremely happy.Besides My 9 year old daughter loves to help.

Neal good to here you a happy now. It sounds like she was almost jealous of you going out to the garage. Welcome to the board!. You can see some other the other members found woman that are not that way. I have a relationship that has been working for me were we are both happy. I think if I didn't normally do everything myself anyway she would be out there with me more often. We just brought another load to a future home this weekend ( left IL thursday afternoon). I had a leaf spring break on the front axle of the trailer about 20 miles from St. Louis. I was able to use a timber and come along on a hyway onramp to keep everything good enough (hold the axle location and stop the rubber from rubbing and smoking) to get here with the load. Instead of quickly patching the spring with a plate to get it back to IL. I just spent 6 hours finding a way to lift the broken trailer onto another I had previously brought down. She came down to the garage about every 2 1/2 hours with a drink and to make sure I had not gotten hurt or something. Then goes back up to the house and does her thing. I might not have one that wants to participate. But she always leaves me to my thing with out pulling me away. We are not actually married though but have lived together for over 5 years now. We have things pretty well worked out were we both are able to understand what needs to be done and work with it. I think she likes me going to the garage or even the pole barn I always have a better attitude with some accomplishment and satisfaction from mechanical labor or even tinkering and also gives a break from one another.

 

[Jaguar Fan]

I retired... but my wife still works. This is the life.

 

[ddrewyor]

When we wre dating, I told my girlfirend (now wife) that if she was going to drive the race car, she would have to wrench for maintenance or repair. A week later we were swapping out the trans and she was right there dragging her pony tail through the ATF on the floor helping with the swap. I knew she was a keeper and 18 years later she still comes out to the shop and helps. Now that we have kids it's less. The other part is that when we built our house, I talked her into taking the funds for having the upstairs of the house finished and building my shop instead. My part of the bargain was to complete the upstairs the way she wanted because I had a shop to build\fabricate whatever she wanted. Finished the upstairs and it made the downstairs look lame so I worked that over some and she was ecstatic. She nevers give me a hard time about working in the shop because she knows it saves us money, keeps the kids busy, and the house and cars in good shape. Just compromise and it should work out. By the way when I built my new work bench she came out when it was finished and helped make sure it was strong enought to support the two of us Great wife
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Portable Vaporizers

 

[nobrakes]

I guess I'm just lucky, my wife thinks old trucks are cool and is really supportive. If I see an old truck or car she tells me to buy it if I want. The wife and kids all like to help in the garage when they can. It makes me love her even more!

 

[Vinko]

She nevers give me a hard time about working in the shop because she knows it saves us money, keeps the kids busy, and the house and cars in good shape.

There's something to be said for that

 

[6768rogues]

Sit with her in front of the TV and use the remote to change channels every couple of minutes. She will beg you to go to the garage. I go out there to watch TV and my wife likes to stay in the house and control her own remote.

 

[raccoon]

Awww come on you guys, your wife doesnt have to like everything you do, work in the garage when you feel like it.

We all know spending too much time apart from our partner is never a good thing.
Im sure most of you guys here hate doing the things she does.
We all got our own thing

if you spend lots of time in the garage, make the time you spend with your wife incredible or bring her in to do something fun.
Maybe build something (with her) she would use in the house.

Im a girl who loves helping out in the garage, so i dont really have that problem. hehe
i think every women loves getting dirty once in a while.. and having her husband tell her she still looks pretty good covered in oil.

 

[nissan_crawler]

you think way to logically for a 17 year old female.

 

[raccoon]

you think way to logically for a 17 year old female.

is that a good thing ro a bad thing?

yeah..i dont think i was meant to be born in the 90,s haha.
Or in canada for that matter. ah well!

 

[garfunkle24]

is that a good thing ro a bad thing?

yeah..i dont think i was meant to be born in the 90,s haha.
Or in canada for that matter. ah well!

Of course, from your age I could have figured out you were born in the 90s, but it still makes me feel really old.

What's wrong with being born in Canada, does that make you automatically illogical?

 

[raccoon]

Of course, from your age I could have figured out you were born in the 90s, but it still makes me feel really old.

What's wrong with being born in Canada, does that make you automatically illogical?

nah, im sick of living in quebec actually. i wouldnt mind going to toronto or saskatchewan. id prefer london, ireland or scotland. if i ahd a choice

i dont like the french canadian attitude at all.

youre not old! haha

 

[nissan_crawler]

is that a good thing ro a bad thing?

yeah..i dont think i was meant to be born in the 90,s haha.
Or in canada for that matter. ah well!

Oh, nothing bad meant at all, just the opposite. I'm just not used to hearing something mature from *most* your age. I'm 26 and still think most women my age are too immature.

Of course, knowing moose, it shouldn't be a surprise, really.

 

[raccoon]

Of course, knowing moose, it shouldn't be a surprise, really.

what shouldnt be a surprise?

 

[garfunkle24]

nah, im sick of living in quebec actually. i wouldnt mind going to toronto or saskatchewan. id prefer london, ireland or scotland. if i ahd a choice

i dont like the french canadian attitude at all.

youre not old! haha

IMHO Saskatchewan is a better place to live than London, Ireland or Scotland. I lived in London for a year and have family in Edinburgh, Scotland and Cork, Ireland. All nice places to visit, wouldn't want to live there.

We do share a dislike for Quebec though and I'm only there 1 week a year!

You should move to Saskatchewan and then drag Moose over here. I'd happily hire him as a tech!

 

[raccoon]

IMHO Saskatchewan is a better place to live than London, Ireland or Scotland. I lived in London for a year and have family in Edinburgh, Scotland and Cork, Ireland. All nice places to visit, wouldn't want to live there.

We do share a dislike for Quebec though and I'm only there 1 week a year!

You should move to Saskatchewan and then drag Moose over here. I'd happily hire him as a tech!

I,ll keep it in mind and get back to you in a couple years!

 

[garfunkle24]

I,ll keep it in mind and get back to you in a couple years!

It's a deal!

 

[nissan_crawler]

what shouldnt be a surprise?

that you're sensible/mature

 

[raccoon]

that you're sensible/mature

Dunno what he's telling you, but im such a goofy girl =P
I never get any jokes, always gotta ask him questions about stuff.

Usualy i act dumb around people cause its cute
I never had to with him. its just natural..

im just someone whos been through some rough patches, and a freak about mental health and psychology. si i catch on the smart phrases to look interesting

 

[garfunkle24]

I never get any jokes, always gotta ask him questions about stuff.

I think half of that is the British humour/terminology. My wife is getting better, but still doesn't catch half my jokes.

 

[e-tek]

I retired... but my wife still works. This is the life.

You sir, are living a charmed life....I have exaclty 13 more years until I can get myself into the same position!!!!

 

[ddrewyor]

My wife is 2 weeks late.........

That's sad, especially if she is bringing the beer - where is she coming from anyway?



Congrats in advance!
Dave
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[Big_Grizzly]

"Entertain" her? What are you, her personal PSP? If she's bored, tell her to get her @$$ in the kitchen and make you some biscuits. And not those damned whoppin' biscuits, either; make 'em from scratch like the good Lord intended. And if she doesn't know how, then she can sign up for some cooking classes at the community college, and challenge herself to something more than polishing her nails and eating bon-bons while she watches daytime soaps. And while she's at it, look into some classes on how a damned vacuum cleaner is used. And how to wash a freakin' plate.

Oh, wait. Maybe I'm projecting.

I know this is old...but I had to quote it. "Whoppin' biscuits"...gotta love Jerry Clower. I'm 28 and grew up listening to him with my dad. You mention that name to a group of my friends and no one knows who I'm talking about lol.

 

[marty_p]

I'll second that!

I much prefer a natural woman -- the kind that can help you move furniture...

 

[HOTFR8]

Dave88lx and E-tek have the right idea. Ask them to help you in the Garage. I spend equal time in the house and my works but then my work is in mine.

 

[DCortez]

How do you guys get time working in the garage or yard without the wife busting your balls? I could work out there all weekend, but I get a vibe from her that she'd rather me entertain her.

She sounds young or newly married. I don't think most people that have been married a while have this situation. Hopefully you can find some common ground and share a hobby or interest that involves the garage.

As Chris Rock says, if a couple wants to stay together, they have to share an interest. If she's a crackhead, you have to be a crackhead, if she goes to church, you have to go to church.

 

[TAMPAGT07]

I think what it comes down to is that you have to make her feel welcome in the garage, and do things as a couple. Try putting an ironing board and iron out there. That should solve your problem. Also tell her you will keep the garage door shut, and she is always welcome to iron in the ****.

 

[IHI]

I think somewhere there is a break down, before i got serious with my now wife of 14 yrs, when we were at the stage of being serious i honestly sat her down and said look, I will do what i want, when i want, that's just how it's going to be. I want you to do what you want, when you want to; we'll just meet in the middle. So you can either hold onto my belt loops and come along for the ride, or we should probably end this now since your not going to change me and the way i do things....like i said, 14yrs, and everything is peachey overall. many buddies are jealious and live a "typical" married life where the woman rules the roost, and think i'm lucky having a wife so laid back that i do as i please. I just tell them, nope, i did'nt settle and i dont give in, but i try to respect her so it's not like i'm a total jackazz.

And like mentioned above, she's told me multiple times, "I'd rather have you out in the garage tinkering vs sitting in a bar somewhere being a loser and wasting all your money and then ******* it away" which all any of us have to do is look around, the freinds we have that live that bar rat lifestyle typically dont have a darn thing, are never happy, relationship is rocky....

You either do what you need to in order to keep yourself happy, or your going to grow bitter the longer time goes on since your leash is tight...the choice is yours, we all get ourselves into our own perdicerments, so i have zero sympathy for anybody that has the ability to make a choice with how they live their life but has nothing, is nothing, and is going nowhere...that's on them.

 

[Dragster Racer]

The worst is when a couple gets married before they have it worked out. Everyone thinks they can work it out after they get married. Big mistake. Be honest with your other and yourself from the get-go and you are off to a good start. My wife and I work very hard to be fair to each other. We both have our things that we like to do apart, and things we like to do together. But not all couples need to be like us. They just have to come to an agreement from the beginning.

 

[IHI]

The worst is when a couple gets married before they have it worked out. Everyone thinks they can work it out after they get married. Big mistake. Be honest with your other and yourself from the get-go and you are off to a good start. My wife and I work very hard to be fair to each other. We both have our things that we like to do apart, and things we like to do together. But not all couples need to be like us. They just have to come to an agreement from the beginning.

Well said

 

[fabman_52]

Well just the other day my wife wanted me to take her some place expensive to eat so we went to the gas station, She really enjoyed her Chips and coke!

No really, been married 35 yrs and she has never once complained about be being out back. I'm the one always bitchin that she never checks on me to see if I'm on fire or something! I have been out there 12/14 hours at a time and never see her.
Although, if I'm out there longer than that she will open the door wall and load the slingshot with a pork chop bone and aim it at my head.
She's a good wife like that, always making sure that I'm well fed! Here is her pic, isn't she Beautiful? Also a pic of my kids, they really are my Pride and Joy!
George.

 

[Fidget]

At least I'm not alone. Mine changed after we got married. She knew I was a car geek. Now she seems to have a problem with me doing anything that isn't in her presence.....like sitting on the couch, or me watching the kids while she sits on the couch. However, nothing gets done if I don't do it. I pointed that out to her. If she wants to have a nice looking house, yard, deck to have the kids play on, a running vehicle, etc, I have to do it. I won't pay someone to do those things. The last time she got mad at me for 'hiding in the garage', I was re-stringing the week eater, I asked if she'd like to go pick up the dog ****, edge the yard, and pull weeds? Of course she declined and left me alone. Like everyone said, try to get her involved. If she doesn't, that's her decision and at least you tried.

 

[hetkind]

At least I'm not alone. Mine changed after we got married. She knew I was a car geek. Now she seems to have a problem with me doing anything that isn't in her presence.....like sitting on the couch, or me watching the kids while she sits on the couch. However, nothing gets done if I don't do it. I pointed that out to her. If she wants to have a nice looking house, yard, deck to have the kids play on, a running vehicle, etc, I have to do it. I won't pay someone to do those things. The last time she got mad at me for 'hiding in the garage', I was re-stringing the week eater, I asked if she'd like to go pick up the dog ****, edge the yard, and pull weeds? Of course she declined and left me alone. Like everyone said, try to get her involved. If she doesn't, that's her decision and at least you tried.

I had a wife like that once...I remember days I would go to work, and come home 12 hours later, her and the kids dirty breakfest and lunch dishes would be on the table still, and she would want to go out to eat, since she was too lazy to cook. Then she would want the kids who were toddlers to stay up to 11pm so they (and she) could sleep in, while I would be up at five to be at the plant (I was a Safety Engineer at a VERY high risk nuclear facility) by seven when first shift started. Then, she sit on the couch all evening, watching yet another man bashing movie on lifetime.

Now my child support is the only thing that keeps her (and her boyfriend) out of poverty. She is a "customer service rep" for dickies work pants after quiting her job at the mall taking pictures of children, while the boyfriend is a night part-time for fed-ex. Since she has sucked up all the available money, my 19 year old has to pay her own way through college. The $1,500/month that supports her lazy @$$ could do a lot more helping the daughter in school.

Don't know what to say, but I would bring the wife down to the doctors to be examined for depression. And if the meds don't help, marital therapy. You have got to fix this lazy and spoiled wife problem NOW.

Howard

 

[Keep]

I am one of the lucky ones that has a Wife that is also a car person. Though she is a Vette person I don't hold it against her

She knows if I say tools, cars or garage, I am most likely out for the day!!

 

[Uncle Buck]

I had a wife like that once...I remember days I would go to work, and come home 12 hours later, her and the kids dirty breakfest and lunch dishes would be on the table still, and she would want to go out to eat, since she was too lazy to cook. Then she would want the kids who were toddlers to stay up to 11pm so they (and she) could sleep in, while I would be up at five to be at the plant (I was a Safety Engineer at a VERY high risk nuclear facility) by seven when first shift started. Then, she sit on the couch all evening, watching yet another man bashing movie on lifetime.

Now my child support is the only thing that keeps her (and her boyfriend) out of poverty. She is a "customer service rep" for dickies work pants after quiting her job at the mall taking pictures of children, while the boyfriend is a night part-time for fed-ex. Since she has sucked up all the available money, my 19 year old has to pay her own way through college. The $1,500/month that supports her lazy @$$ could do a lot more helping the daughter in school.

Don't know what to say, but I would bring the wife down to the doctors to be examined for depression. And if the meds don't help, marital therapy. You have got to fix this lazy and spoiled wife problem NOW.

Howard

Boy can I relate to this! You been spyin on me jr?

 

[rsanter]

well, it used to be that I could find garage time anytime my daughter wanter to go out and play. that way I was watching her and getting something done.
as of late she does not need so much watching.
if the wife is buisy doing something then I have no trouble working in the garage so I can get my stuff done. otherwise if I am working on something for the house she dosent complain much. currently I have a side job going doing some machining, this equates to extra money so I have not heard any complaints about that.

a few years back I was selling off alot of the car parts that I had and didnt want. had some really cool stuff like Ford HIPO and 428CJ parts, delux trim..etc. I was working to try to get her through school and all. the wife was complaining that I spend too much time on the computer and not enough time with her. I told he I was doing EBAY and that didnt seem to mean much, so I quit for a month or so and then she complained 'why dont we have any money in the checking account?'.
hey you remember about a month or so ago when I stopped doing EBAY because you said I was spending too much time on the computer....
in that moment you could see that she then and only then "got it"

bob

 

[e-tek]

At least I'm not alone. Mine changed after we got married. She knew I was a car geek. Now she seems to have a problem with me doing anything that isn't in her presence.....like sitting on the couch, or me watching the kids while she sits on the couch. However, nothing gets done if I don't do it. I pointed that out to her. If she wants to have a nice looking house, yard, deck to have the kids play on, a running vehicle, etc, I have to do it. I won't pay someone to do those things. The last time she got mad at me for 'hiding in the garage', I was re-stringing the week eater, I asked if she'd like to go pick up the dog ****, edge the yard, and pull weeds? Of course she declined and left me alone. Like everyone said, try to get her involved. If she doesn't, that's her decision and at least you tried.

Man I feel terrible for you and some of the other guys in that boat.

"Men marry women hoping they won't change - but they do.
Women marry men thinking they can change them - but they can't."

But the advice given about deppression, or marriage counselling or one-on-one counselling is very good. At the VERY LEAST, say it loud and clear, but just make sure you're being fair.
As good as Mrs. E-tek is (and I think I have the better end of the deal by far!), I try my best to do things for her, with her, lots for and with the kids, make sure she feels good or I help ease some stress (mmmhmmm!), etc. etc. It' s a two-way street and that goes for her wanting you to be happy as well as helping her to be happy - but neither should be REPSONSIBLE for the others happiness.
Hope that makes sense! Good luck.

 

[Tarheelgarage]

Well just the other day my wife wanted me to take her some place expensive to eat so we went to the gas station, She really enjoyed her Chips and coke!

No really, been married 35 yrs and she has never once complained about be being out back. I'm the one always bitchin that she never checks on me to see if I'm on fire or something! I have been out there 12/14 hours at a time and never see her.
Although, if I'm out there longer than that she will open the door wall and load the slingshot with a pork chop bone and aim it at my head.
She's a good wife like that, always making sure that I'm well fed! Here is her pic, isn't she Beautiful? Also a pic of my kids, they really are my Pride and Joy!
George.

George, your wife is a baby-doll; you are so lucky.

 

[pipehack]

I wonder what Drew Peterson does? Oh wait... Never mind.

 

[NRChopshop]

What wife?


Actually, i had more free time when i WASN'T single. Now that i am, it just means i have twice the amount of **** to do. Although it is much quieter....i dont eat as well. I gotta find me a new one

 

[fasteddie24]

My wife is just glad to know where I am, and likes to see me happy.