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sparky1562

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I bought her four horses. She spends all her time in the barn. I spend mine in the garage.:thumbup:

We meet up on Saturday night for dinner and the grocery:)
 
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What wife?


Actually, i had more free time when i WASN'T single. Now that i am, it just means i have twice the amount of **** to do. Although it is much quieter....i dont eat as well. I gotta find me a new one

Bread and cold cuts, while not the best meal, are a hell of a lot cheaper than the 2nd wife you may get hitched to....:lol_hitti:beer:
 

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Mrs Identaltech knows where I'm at.
she comes out every once and a while to make sure the car has not fallen on me.
she keeps the insurance paid up.
my youngest boy has started to come out with me to help.
where stripping the middle sons car down.
I break the bolts loose and he removes them all.
having the best time of my life.
 

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My wife is great. She lets me hang out in the garage all I want and will even bring me food and beer. Usually my Saturdays are yard work and then hanging out in the garage working on my car.
 

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:sad:Holy ****, I don't know what to say! I thought I was the only one going through some $hitty head games. To those of you who have an understanding mate, 'God Bless'; to those of you who don't, 'God Help You, and Welcome To The Club'. The only thing I could add to the wisdom given by others is that if you are young and single, you SERIOUSLY need to take the time to CLEARLY AND CONCISELY share with a potential mate what each of you expects of the other and of yourself! If you can't be brutally honest with each other, THEN GET OUT BEFORE ITS TOO LATE!:soapbox:
 

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Having been someone who had the b!tch from hell on my first marriage and the women of any mans dreams for the second....I can relate to both sides....

Life is really good for me....I could spend 24 hours a day, 7 days a week with my wife and never have an issue....we both have our own things we do, and do a lot together....mutual respect for each other and their wants.....

With that said, here is my formula for determining if a person is a good prospect for a long term relationship....

1. Get them drunk - If they have a bad side, it will come out....if it does, walk away and stay away....it' won't get better with time....only worse.

2. Road Trip - Take a 5-7 day road trip....this is like a condensed 'trial marriage'. If at the end of the road trip you say to your self, "I'll never do that again"....then you damn sure had better not marry them.....but if you both want to jump back in the car and keep going....hey....she is a keeper....

3. Money - If you have money issues with each other while dating.....it will be 1000x worse when married.

Bottom line....if you are asking yourself "Am I doing the right thing?" before you say "I Do", then you are NOT doing the right thing.....walk away...unless you want to be one of the above horror stories.....

Or you might luck out like E-Tek and I....laying in bed, cuddled up with our wife....looking at her and knowing that you would gladly marry her again...and again.....
 

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My wife doesn't mind me being outside and away from her. Today I spent the better part of 10 hours outside washing/waxing and cleaning my truck. The only time she came out to tell me to come in was when dinner was ready. Granted, she came and went throughout the day herself. We're pretty much self sufficient but we both were a little older when we got married(Both in our 30's).

My advice, work in the wife for awhile, then go out and work in the garage.
 

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Dave 88LX

A little off the subject. How does she keep that shirt looking white and clean while changing oil on a diesel
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And are your sure it's your garage and not her's :bounce: :headshake :bounce:

Dude - her garage and not his???!!!!! That is against Man Law, ain't it??? My wife claimed to love hunting, fishing, camping, golfing, softball and *** when we were dating. She has done all of these 1 time in 21 years since then with the exception of one..... She lied.....
 

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We have a fair and balanced home.

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His and hers.
 

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Having been someone who had the b!tch from hell on my first marriage and the women of any mans dreams for the second....I can relate to both sides....

Life is really good for me....I could spend 24 hours a day, 7 days a week with my wife and never have an issue....we both have our own things we do, and do a lot together....mutual respect for each other and their wants.....

With that said, here is my formula for determining if a person is a good prospect for a long term relationship....

1. Get them drunk - If they have a bad side, it will come out....if it does, walk away and stay away....it' won't get better with time....only worse.

2. Road Trip - Take a 5-7 day road trip....this is like a condensed 'trial marriage'. If at the end of the road trip you say to your self, "I'll never do that again"....then you damn sure had better not marry them.....but if you both want to jump back in the car and keep going....hey....she is a keeper....

3. Money - If you have money issues with each other while dating.....it will be 1000x worse when married.

Bottom line....if you are asking yourself "Am I doing the right thing?" before you say "I Do", then you are NOT doing the right thing.....walk away...unless you want to be one of the above horror stories.....

Some excellent advice right there!
I have had all these experiences with Mrs E-tek many times. It's the kind of stuff that makes you FRIENDS with your lover, which I think is VERY important. The hard part is to remain FREINDS thoughout the next 10, 15, 20 years. It certainly helps if you and she can remember to treat eachother as friends and NOT to take the rediculous liberties people do with eachother once the friendship dies.


Or you might luck out like E-Tek and I....laying in bed, cuddled up with our wife....looking at her and knowing that you would gladly marry her again...and again.....

You got it all right tonight DAWG!!!!
 

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well I'm glad a lot of you have decent wives and girlfriends.

Sadly a lot are like myself and are having a total nightmare.

Right now I'm at my sisters house cooling down after yet another load of **** from her. If it wasn't for her greatest weapon, my just over 5 month old daughter then I would have kicked her out long ago and probably kicked her in the head a few times as well.

A horrible situation I am in and tbh theres no real way out of it, if I leave then I won't see my daughter,as after all the courts always side with the mother no matter what, which is ridiculous.

But I need to do all the dishes, wash all the clothes, vacuum, clean ajnd so on or it would never get done, also I have to look after the baby for a few hours each day which wouldn't be an issue aside from teh fact if the baby sees her mum leave she screams non stop until she returns, babies can cry for 4 hours non stop and more. So I have to leave the house before she goes out and stay out with the baby, get soaked come home do dishes or whatever since she can't do them.

Same when she was pregnant, when she became pregnant it meant I had to do everything, away workign 10 hours a day come home do everything then lost my job, still not got another.

Living hell as someone else said
 

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well I'm glad a lot of you have decent wives and girlfriends.

Sadly a lot are like myself and are having a total nightmare.

Same when she was pregnant, when she became pregnant it meant I had to do everything, away workign 10 hours a day come home do everything then lost my job, still not got another.

Living hell as someone else said

My wife and I recently had a talk about the level of cleaning done in the house since she's been staying home with our son who is 10 months old. I explained that she was spending too much time on other activities and not getting the house stuff done. So when I got home from work I would do stuff around the house and not get to play with my son very much. I explained that if she didn't have the house work done I was going to need to do it and I couldn't play with our son like she wanted me to do.

The key there is that I'm working and she's staying home with the kid.

If you're not working right now then you should absolutely be doing dishes, laundry, vacuum, etc....without complaint and spending time with the kiddo too. Until you get another job. Then it's back on her for the housekeeping but you've still gotta spend a couple hours playing with the kid.
 

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so its ok for her to sit on the couch all day with the baby in her walker whilst I do all the housework, go out get shopping, go out and do some work here and there to pay the bills and buy food (yeah I don't have a full time job but I'm still out to 3am changing clutches at the roadside sometimes) and then look after the baby myself for a ferw hours solid each day?

Not to mention the fact I have to decorate the house as well, then theres cutting the grass etc etc. WHilst she sits on her fat **** all day, shes in bed just now cos shes tired, yeah I'd be tired after watchign a full season of one tree hill before bed whilst I done the cooking, changed the baby, done the dishes and fitted an a/c condensor to a clio tonight.

I know no other person that has to do that **** all on their own.
 

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well I'm glad a lot of you have decent wives and girlfriends.

Sadly a lot are like myself and are having a total nightmare.

Right now I'm at my sisters house cooling down after yet another load of **** from her. If it wasn't for her greatest weapon, my just over 5 month old daughter then I would have kicked her out long ago and probably kicked her in the head a few times as well.

A horrible situation I am in and tbh theres no real way out of it, if I leave then I won't see my daughter,as after all the courts always side with the mother no matter what, which is ridiculous.

But I need to do all the dishes, wash all the clothes, vacuum, clean ajnd so on or it would never get done, also I have to look after the baby for a few hours each day which wouldn't be an issue aside from teh fact if the baby sees her mum leave she screams non stop until she returns, babies can cry for 4 hours non stop and more. So I have to leave the house before she goes out and stay out with the baby, get soaked come home do dishes or whatever since she can't do them.

Same when she was pregnant, when she became pregnant it meant I had to do everything, away workign 10 hours a day come home do everything then lost my job, still not got another.

Living hell as someone else said

Chammy...this is not directed at you personally so don't take it that way. This is just directed to some of the men in general. WHO THE HELL TOOK YOUR BALLS :wtf: Life is to short to live miserably. When you said "I do" did she not agree to the same things? Equality? Maybe if some would "man up" and stand up for your rights then she would quit putting you down. If you're sitting around someplace and some guy came up and started belittling you...you'd punch his lights out. But when a wife starts in, either the guy takes it and doesn't say a word, or it turns into an argument that never ends. The arguments always escalate until the guy gives in. I could go on and on. I work with quite a few that is like that. Constant complaining but afraid that if they say anything, they will get yelled at :headscrat Don't get me wrong, I'm not against doing dishes, laundry, making the bed, etc........but for craps sake, if you do all of that and then get yelled at for going out to the garage............Look at it this way, if everytime you leave the house you get accused of having a girlfriend on the side...then why not get one? You're in trouble for it already. If everytime you go out to the garage, you get yelled at for not spending time with her.....then just tell her that is probably the main reason that you are going to the garage. I pretty much know what I am talking about. I grew up with two parents that did not get along at all. After 70 years of them being married, I have seen my father pretty much beat down.:( When I was home it was daily arguments about one thing or another. I swore that I would not piss my life away with a marriage like that. That is why am thankful for the marriage I have today.
 

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well I put my daughter above my masculinity maybe I'm an idiot but she done her **** and I told her to take a wlk, eventually after 3 weeks of her noty letting me see her and me selling some personal items to get a lawyer to try and get access I had to buckle.

Maybe you lot don;t care for youir kids but I do so yeah I may be gettign treated like a ***** but tbh its oinly as long as needs be before I can grab my daughter and get the hell out of the country with her.
 

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Not to stop the ***** session, but my second, current and hopefully last wife is wonderful...She has been working her tail off, lately it has been 19 days straight, 3 days off for a rush trip (and missing two nights sleep) for my brother's wedding, and now back on 12 days straight.

And she is funding fully half of the cost of the shop...a 34x70 pole barn with a 20' eve height. My schedule right now is a tad more flexible, so I am outside doing more of the construction work...

It is wonderful having an equal partnership.

Howard
 

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My wife is great, I spend all the time I want out in the shop at night when I get home. She even encourages me to get out of the house and go do stuff. She knows it relaxes me and gets my mind off things. I have 4 boys between the ages of 4 months and 12 years. You just gotta know when your help is needed inside, and be willing to help. If she pages me when I am out there, I come right in, help out and then return to what I was doing. Fortunately they are all great sleepers and are all asleep by 8 every night! I am now able to include some of them in jobs and projects we do around the house and in the shop.



Tim
 
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so its ok for her to sit on the couch all day with the baby in her walker whilst I do all the housework, go out get shopping, go out and do some work here and there to pay the bills and buy food (yeah I don't have a full time job but I'm still out to 3am changing clutches at the roadside sometimes) and then look after the baby myself for a ferw hours solid each day?

Not to mention the fact I have to decorate the house as well, then theres cutting the grass etc etc. WHilst she sits on her fat **** all day, shes in bed just now cos shes tired, yeah I'd be tired after watchign a full season of one tree hill before bed whilst I done the cooking, changed the baby, done the dishes and fitted an a/c condensor to a clio tonight.

I know no other person that has to do that **** all on their own.

There's just no accounting for some lazy *** BEE-ATCHES!!! I'd kick that ho to the curb and just see if she can go without your $$$ coming in!! She sounds too lazy (probably fat too:wtf:) to get herself a job, so I'd bet she likes living off you and running you down.
Never mind your holier-than-thou BS. If you divorced her you'd be in heaven. She'd get less money that she's taking now. You'd see your daughter on weekends (sound about what you're getting now) and she'd HAVE to either get a job, or give you some respect!!!
No way I'd stick around for that!:shocking: [Where's that "kicking-some-fat-chicks-***-smilee" when you need it??] ;) ;)
 

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Proverbs 21:9 (KJV)
It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.


I have been married to my best friend for 5 years, and we have been together for 9. She is better than I deserve, that is for sure. We have one on the way, and life is good for us. God has blessed us immensly. I spend most of my time outside working on the ranch, or in my shop. She always has projects for me to build for her, so as long as I incorporate her jobs with mine, and get one finished everynow and then, she stays pretty happy.

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Hunting & Building my shop....
 

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I'm glad I'm not the only one with this mindset.


"Entertain" her? What are you, her personal PSP? If she's bored, tell her to get her @$$ in the kitchen and make you some biscuits. And not those damned whoppin' biscuits, either; make 'em from scratch like the good Lord intended. And if she doesn't know how, then she can sign up for some cooking classes at the community college, and challenge herself to something more than polishing her nails and eating bon-bons while she watches daytime soaps. And while she's at it, look into some classes on how a damned vacuum cleaner is used. And how to wash a freakin' plate.

Oh, wait. Maybe I'm projecting. :lol_hitti
 

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Not reading all 8 pages of this cause it will likely just make me mad. But I have myself a true rare find. She cooks, I clean the kitchen. We both take turns washing the dogs, cleaning up the house. She has house projects to match my garage stuff. She is refinishing a 100 year old library table to be our dining room table. She gardens, and wants to reach self sustainability on veggies in about 2 years. Of course, this means extra projects for me (gutters, rain barrels, deck, shed, garden beds) but she will help and learn how to do this stuff as well.

However, we are both pig headed and have learned we don't work the same way, so when we are both learning something new, we can't do it the same time.

Oh yea, and she's smart as &%^ and she's 5'4", 115lbs :D
 

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She knows it relaxes me and gets my mind off things.

This is the most important thing that MANY women don't seem to get. I can have a **** day, and she will tell me to go start something projectwise, and I will hmm and haww and say no, then go do it, and make something and come back completely refreshed. Hell, even mowing the lawn calms me down.

I do entirely white collar work all day, so its all head/brain (I dont move much beyond my hands) and it's real easy to take it home since we all have computers everywhere too... going outside forces the option and makes me do some nice manual labor (usually not terribly left brain, more right brain) and it helps a LOT.
 

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I'm kinda in the same situation as chrislehr. Do my share of housework, yardwork, etc., but get to blow off steam in the garage. My wife is pretty good with it until I start grinding or hammering at midnight. Then she gets pissed.

I also thinks she likes it when I'm out in the garage because I ain't buggin' her for some action between the sheets.
 
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At year 5 I felt the same way. I was in heaven, married to my best friend, have a new born, finally recovering from some medical bills, I had the world. Now I am at 8 years married, and I feel like a g**& damn outcast in my own home. I still am not sure what went wrong. I havent changed. Oh well, we will see where this ride ends up at.

Steve S.
To many to list.


Proverbs 21:9 (KJV)
It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.


I have been married to my best friend for 5 years, and we have been together for 9. She is better than I deserve, that is for sure. We have one on the way, and life is good for us. God has blessed us immensly. I spend most of my time outside working on the ranch, or in my shop. She always has projects for me to build for her, so as long as I incorporate her jobs with mine, and get one finished everynow and then, she stays pretty happy.

EDIT....A few pics....

Hunting & Building my shop....
 

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"She likes to garden...I don't...I will do all the heavy work for her gardens but refuse to weed them...she likes company while gardening...so sometimes when she is weeding I pull up a lawn chair and have a beer....I think the neighbours think I'm a lazy sob...but it's funny"

The guy neighbors probably want to know how you trained her to do that and they are thinking that is awesome.
 

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At year 5 I felt the same way. I was in heaven, married to my best friend, have a new born, finally recovering from some medical bills, I had the world. Now I am at 8 years married, and I feel like a g**& damn outcast in my own home. I still am not sure what went wrong. I havent changed. Oh well, we will see where this ride ends up at.

Steve S.
To many to list.

Steve, do I have to tell you your best years of marriage are behind you? Welcome to the club....with a shop to hide in....:beer::lol_hitti
 

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Problem I have is she'll complain sometimes cause I'm doing stuff in the garage, and not in the house with her (watching her watch tv or reading a book), then when I'm in the house, she complains that I haven't got stuff done yet (that would require me to be OUTSIDE DOING IT!)

One possible solution I came up with that works sometimes, is (when there is room), I'll drag a little TV out to the garage for her to watch while I'm working.. I also picked up a scroll saw, and have been trying (with mixed results) been trying to get her interested in making craft projects for gifts or to sell...

Just have to be creative. :)

One plus for me is that I got to get an Eastwood powder coat setup for something she wanted me to make.. :)
 

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Well my problem is the opposite. Hubby spends all his time on the couch in front of the tv and wants me next to him. After almost 19 years of marriage, I *want* him to go out in the garage and work on projects!!! I need some alone/hobby time!!! :)
 
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I showed this thread to my wife.
It may not have been my smartest move to date.

Her reaction? She didn't have much to say. :bitchslap:
 

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I showed this thread to my wife.
It may not have been my smartest move to date.

Her reaction? She didn't have much to say. :bitchslap:

:wtf: Oh-oh!!!!! She is probably afraid you will be influenced and manipulated by other men and they will undo what she has worked so hard to do. :thumbup:
 

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Why the hell would you live like that ??? That sounds like a living hell, ....I was in the same boat and all my friends and my "stupid" brother told me to leave the witch, but no I didn"t listen and wound up wasting 13 years of my life.Life is 2 short to be miserable with som evil broad...I don't regret my kids but I do regret every moment I spent with her...I said I would never do it again until I met my wife...wasn'y even looking,,like hitting the lottery
 

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My wife loves the garage. She is helping me tile, paint, install cabinets and work benches, etc. She has always been a "car gal" so everything works out fine. If she wants to do something else, or I do, we go our separate ways and do our own thing. It just takes compromise on both our parts.
 

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Thats what everybody thinks...Bullsh*t
My kids are much happier now...living with 2 parents who can't stand each other is crappy for the kids and the adults...think about it ..when the kids are all grown up and move away ,what are u gonna have? A empty house with a woman you can't stand for the rest of your life...time to dump the nag and find somebody else..
 

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The *** end of the deal was poor from day one, : This should have been a red flag; it only gets worse after you have seen hicked.


how I had 3 kids with her I will never know! You answered your own question....too full of a load.

Yup, marraige does ****:lol_hitti!
I agree; best just to shack up:thumbup:
 
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