Very similar situation as you. 33 years old, two kids.
Low and behold, yes. I have regretted building my shop a few times here and there. But I do not now and do not foresee regretting it anymore in the future.
It was a push against the Mrs. for quite a while. Then one year for Christmas she told me she’s come to terms with it and that I have permission to build one.
I wanted the shop for the same reasons as anyone else; a place to work and piddle around that is away from the house and not inside our attached garage. We use our garage for the vehicles and bicycles, etc. When we started the build we had an 18 month old and knew #2 would be on the way soon. So we were planning for the future to purchase an SUV as the family vehicle. The wife and I came to an agreement that we both want to keep the truck and the sports car because we can surely afford it. So we’ll just add a third vehicle. She convinced me that the fam vehicle needs to stay in the garage and that her sports car should too. So I was left with keeping my truck outside. Call me a snob, but I really wanted to avoid that because I keep my truck waxed and spotless as much as possible. So there’s even more reason to build a shop now where I can keep the truck indoors.
So with the Christmas permission, We did the whole pacing it out and setting up ropes for the outline to vision the size of shop I want. We parked the truck on the grass in the outline to finally decide on a 30x40. I also wanted insulation, a 10 ft covered porch, three roll up doors, two walk in doors, three windows, and ridge vents. The thing was definitely getting expensive. Feeling the push back again I stopped all plans. I never said anything. A couple months went by and the Mrs. asked why we were not pursuing the build. She thought that I would have been all over it. Basically telling me I still had permission. So I pursued again. We went the cheapest route for concrete by going through a friend of a friend of someone’s former co-worker. That’s where things went south. The concrete job was horrible. I paid a man to do the forming and rebar laying and pouring/spreading, but he left me with purchasing and setting up the delivery of the concrete. Big mistake. It was a battle from hell to get the pouring crew to line up with available delivery times. I think four tries and the stars finally aligned. The concrete company was a joke. Trucks showed up hours after the previous, one driver smashed my metal gate on his way out and another got pulled over in my neighborhood. There was a gathering of three cop cars all with lights on. That guy was finally arrested on my property before that whole fiasco was over. Told myself right then and there, never again. Needless to say, that was a regretful moment.
Over the weeks of planning and coordinating for a company to erect the building I encountered many friends and co-workers claiming they’d come help put it up. “No problem”, they said. “Metal buildings are easy.” Wrong. But the worst thing is that my wife jumped on board with all this big talk and she’s thinking we’ll just erect this building over a weekend at the price of a few hot dog dinners for anyone who helps. What I’m realizing is that you could have 100 friends all tell you they’ll help, but they’ll never all be able to come over at the same time and honestly, all any would ever be able to give is a few hours every other weekend if you’re lucky. I would have had to rent a fork lift and kept it on my property for months at that rate which adds up quick. So I convinced my lovely wife that paying a professional building erector company is the way to go. Add that to the total expense.
Then I found out during the build that the erector company does not install the roll up doors or windows. So that was a big blind siding issue that I had to figure out. After the building was up I mounted all the tracks and brackets for the doors on my own which took me a day. Then I was able to get friends who had access to a scissor lift come over and hang the doors which took about three hours for three doors. Skated by that curve ball.
The building is up now and it is fabulous. Anyone who sees it, even the crews who erected it were very impressed with the quality of the building and the overall layout of the doors, windows, etc. It made me proud to hear those things because I did design the layout all on my own. It’s a Mueller building by the way.
I’ve since had a 125A panel put out there, which was another expense that I expected but the wife did not. So she just keeps seeing the dollar signs and I keep feeling the guilt.
The shop has been up for almost a year now and all I’ve really been doing is still “setting it up”. I’ve painted all the red iron beams white to match the insulation. It looks pretty sharp. I’ve got lights and receptacles in there. My air compressor is up and running, just no permanent lines installed yet; only the 50 ft hose is drug around to anywhere I need it. I’ve finally got my big awesome tool box out there too which is slowly being filled up. Next plans are to epoxy the floor and I want to build a 10x10 room with a loft on top in one corner and maybe someday install a flush mount scissor lift in the middle. I’m also going to bury a pex pipe line across my yard to have a sink out there.
My wife will tell you that one thing we did do right was we built the shop at the EXACT right time in our lives. 3 months after it was complete we had our 2nd child and purchased that 3rd vehicle. So my truck and 4 wheeler got the boot from the attached garage and they live out in the shop now. The 30X40 space fills up quick as I knew it would.
So do I regret having the shop now? No. I use it and like it. I think the wife likes it too. Was it worth it though? I won’t dare tell you the total final price, but it’s more expensive than I ever thought. Oh well, many lessons were learned. But we afforded it comfortably because we are blessed and well off I guess. The biggest issue is that the learning curve was tremendous for a first timer putting a shop on his private property. I think that’s where all the discontent came from in the beginning. So much so that I don’t think I’d ever do it again. Seriously.
At this time I still feel a little like I would have been out there more often, but kids do occupy a lot of time and I would not miss any of that for the world. They’ll continue to occupy more time as they get older and start school and sports. I’m prepared for that. At this time my daughter loves riding her tricyle in there. She loves coming out there with me and she does her thing while I do mine. Keeps her out of the house when the Mrs may be trying to rest. So there’s a bonus. My wife also does arial acrobatics (like the cirque de solei fabric dancers) from a legit dancing sheet that I hung from a sheave in the rafters. My daughter loves swinging around on that thing. Of course there’s a pad on the ground under it. I can’t wait to see everything that my son comes up with to do in there as he grows up.
So to sum it up, so far for 9 months it’s been a whole lot of fun setting it up all on my own at my own pace. I’ve learned many new things about construction and window installation and wiring up lights and receptacles. And I plan to continue on this path of DIY for everything which is how I’ve always been anyways. Like many have said on here already, it’s a long term investment with a long term return to be measured. I know better than to measure my shop’s worth in just the first 9 months of it being up. The kids will likely play in there more and more. I certainly do not think it was a waste or even an overall bad decision to put one up. If I HAD to do it again I’d go with the exact same size and layout but would have found a cheaper building considering what I actually use it for and I would have used a professional concrete company who does everything. Those are really my only woes to date; the concrete disaster and I admit I did pay too much. But it’s up, it’s staying and it’s good.