Chick Needs Some Help!

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Double D
Please check with the installation JAG (legal office). Your situation is probably covered by the Soldiers and Sailors Relief Act. I am not sure what the Marine/Navy offers, but the Army has a program called Army Emergency Relief (AER)...this program is funded by Soldiers for Soldiers and provides no interest loans and free grants as needed to give emergency help to military families. The Red Cross is another source of assistance as well as many military based organizations such as the American Legion, Noncommissioned Officers Association (NCOA), etc.

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[Uncle Buck]

Same to you, Uncle ****. Did I offend you somehow?

I should have known, usually guys like you have your head stuffed so far up your ring muscle you cannot see the light of day and your thinking becomes clouded and foggy as it has with regards to your opinion on the direction this thread has taken! Simply too ignorant or self serving to be able to have compassion for this young ladys difficult situation. If you have nothing but snyde juvenile **** to add to the dialogue why don't you zip your lip and crawl back under your bridge you TROLL!

 

[Vicious_Cycle]

I should have known, usually guys like you have your head stuffed so far up your ring muscle you cannot see the light of day and your thinking becomes clouded and foggy as it has with regards to your opinion on the direction this thread has taken! Simply too ignorant or self serving to be able to have compassion for this young ladys difficult situation. If you have nothing but snyde juvenile **** to add to the dialogue why don't you zip your lip and crawl back under your bridge you TROLL!

That's quite an ignorant perspective you have there, Uncle ****.

As for my original comments that got your ******* in a wad... my point was that the house easily can be saved if she is 3 or less payments behind, yet she seems totally prepared to walk away from it.

If she's more than three payments behind, then she started this thread AFTER having already thrown in the towel on the idea of keeping the house. If somebody started a thread saying,

"My Corvette is Getting Repossessed; I'm Gonna Have it Repainted First",

would that make any sense to you? Does it make sense to fix up the garage attached to a house that you've already decided to give to the bank? Before you come back spewing more of your mindless garbage, think a little bit.

 

[2DoubleDs]

Okay, alright. Let's not start fighting. I'll tell you right now, I am not scamming anyone. I have proved it by not accepting any money from anyone, nor will I. All I ever asked for is advice, and you guys have happily given that in abundance. Thank you still. Everything you're saying is giving me hope that maybe we could fix this.

 

[PAToyota]

Hang in there and don't give up the fight! I can understand not wanting to take handouts, but moral support and advice often get you pretty far on their own.

I'm in the process of paying down my own mortgage to the point of getting rid of it entirely. But I have been following the whole ARM situation and the California housing situation. It is easy to say all you want about reading the fine print, but it is all to easy to get sucked in to those deals and too many people just don't have the financial sense needed to understand it all - plus the idea of "everyone's doing it, it must be ok" sort of thing.

2DDs, don't give up the fight. Explore what avenues you have available and see what you can work out. We'll all be here rooting you on!

 

[duggie]

2DD's ... Keep your head up and things will get better very soon !!!

If you decide to accept our offer for a donation on behalf of everyone here ... please count me in for a small donation !!!

 

[HOTFR8]

Okay, alright. Let's not start fighting. I'll tell you right now, I am not scamming anyone. I have proved it by not accepting any money from anyone, nor will I. All I ever asked for is advice, and you guys have happily given that in abundance. Thank you still. Everything you're saying is giving me hope that maybe we could fix this.

I was just thinking of pointing out how degrading a forum can get when arguments start and the lady beat me to it. Hope all is going well

 

[Uncle Buck]

That's quite an ignorant perspective you have there, Uncle ****.

That's Mr. Big **** to you Gomer!

 

[1320stang]

So his user name is apt?

 

[safetyfast]

Been years since I looked at it, but check out the Soldiers and Sailors Civil Relief Act. It limits what collection actions can be had against an active duty soldier.

 

[Palf]

Been years since I looked at it, but check out the Soldiers and Sailors Civil Relief Act. It limits what collection actions can be had against an active duty soldier.

The act was amended a year or so ago for provisions specific to the folks serving in Iraq and Afghanistan.

Your base legal or the local VA should let you know if they can legally proceed with the foreclosure or not. I had a troop I work with that they were going to try and kick them out of their place but got a grace period until after his return from Afgan. His was for rent /utilities though, but I am pretty sure it applies with mortgages also.

 

[justinking060310]

DD - I pm'd you..


SafetyFast is correct, one note though - it must only be in his name to be applicable and I am not sure it works for a mortgage.

 

[drmarkr]

bump...any updates??

MR

 

[Uncle Buck]

bump..............

 

[bigd]

Any updates?

 

[PhantomEB]

At the very least if she had to tell him about the Home Depot credit reason I hope she knows that a picture is a thousand words... Honey the Home depot balance is this and heres the pics of WHY.....

I know that I am not married yet but every time my fiancee does something special behind my back for me, I always come close to breaking down as I know every little thing she does for me means the world to me. Hell.... SHE means the world to me.

 

[edl]

[...]

An honest to goodness STRIPPER POLE!

[...]

I think after some heavy duty sanitizing...this could be awesome!!

2doubleDs - what follows is CRUDE HUMOR and is meant only to throw a little laughter into your current situation...BUT, if it is not too late...DO NOT SANITIZE THE POLE...put it on ebay...and some sick pup will end your problems pronto!!!

ok...i said it was crude!

good luck and count me in on any help campaign that you are willing to accept - Ed

 

[mattgg1]

This is my first post, although I've been a member for a few months and regularly visit this forum. I have recieved lots of useful information and hope to be a worthy contributor in the future. With that being said, I must ask...

Why is everyone so willing to hand over your hard-earned money to this lady?

2DoubleDs seems like a very nice, well-intentioned woman, and I wish her & her family the best in this difficult situation she finds herself in.

However, from everything I have read, her situation was a long time coming. It appears to be a direct result of poor money management and bad decision-making.

I have the highest respect for those serving in the US Military and consider them true heros. However, it seems like most on this board are excusing 2DoubleDs very poor decisions because her husband is in the military. The fact that her husband is honorably serving our country seems to have little or nothing to do with this situation.

Being in (or very near) foreclosure means that she has been in trouble for several months, at the least. Even though she was not able to pay her mortgage, she decided to spend thousands of dollars on a garage makeover!!!

How can anyone not find this to be completely ignorant and even insulting!?!?!?! Why would everyone here be offering to send money to someone who obviously doesn't take her own situation seriously?!?!?!

Knowing she was in a financial crisis, 2DoubleDs still decided to spend lots of $$ on something frivilous, and you reward this behavior with offers of cash!!

A more generous offer would not be money, but a meeting with a credit counselor or financial advisior.

 

[whiskytango]

This is my first post, although I've been a member for a few months and regularly visit this forum. I have recieved lots of useful information and hope to be a worthy contributor in the future. With that being said, I must ask...

Why is everyone so willing to hand over your hard-earned money to this lady?

2DoubleDs seems like a very nice, well-intentioned woman, and I wish her & her family the best in this difficult situation she finds herself in.

However, from everything I have read, her situation was a long time coming. It appears to be a direct result of poor money management and bad decision-making.

I have the highest respect for those serving in the US Military and consider them true heros. However, it seems like most on this board are excusing 2DoubleDs very poor decisions because her husband is in the military. The fact that her husband is honorably serving our country seems to have little or nothing to do with this situation.

Being in (or very near) foreclosure means that she has been in trouble for several months, at the least. Even though she was not able to pay her mortgage, she decided to spend thousands of dollars on a garage makeover!!!

How can anyone not find this to be completely ignorant and even insulting!?!?!?! Why would everyone here be offering to send money to someone who obviously doesn't take her own situation seriously?!?!?!

Knowing she was in a financial crisis, 2DoubleDs still decided to spend lots of $$ on something frivilous, and you reward this behavior with offers of cash!!

A more generous offer would not be money, but a meeting with a credit counselor or financial advisior.

This is nothing that wasn't already said. If people want to give someone money its none of your business - its not your money. Nice intro knucklehead.

 

[comp]

This is nothing that wasn't already said. If people want to give someone money its none of your business - its not your money. Nice intro knucklehead.

it wasn't a nice first post

 

[carlosh]

MATT was just wanting to stir the pot...

Hope that this has worked out for them.

 

[wildman]

Wow what a read!!!

I just got done reading this whole thread. DD, I like everyone else hope that this all works out for you.

And I sure wish I would have had a wife like you when I went to Iraq. Mine instead blew $50,000 before I had computer access and could stop her. Of course when I did I also found out about the guy living at my house. We won't go into all that.

I am glad I joined this board and look forward to learning from everyone here.

 

[Homebody]

Man, this is like watching a TV show and the cable just went out!

 

[Bad Brad777]

Just in case you haven't been told this enough...you're a champ for doing this for him. My prayers go out to your whole family, including your husband, for all of your sacrifices while your husband is away.

 

[1320stang]

Matt (the Tinman) never figured out that she never asked for help, only reported it. In fact, if he'd read further he'd see she refused any money from this board. Maybe he's jealous that some people here have a heart.....

 

[Uncle Buck]

MATT was just wanting to stir the pot...

Hope that this has worked out for them.

No, Matt was just showing himself to be an an A-Hole!

 

[shopforeman]

Nice first post there Matt... Talk about kicking somebody when they're down.

 

[mattgg1]

I must say, I'm extremely surprised at all of the negative remarks regarding my post. I expected a Garage forum to be filled with mature, grounded, secure men. When in fact, most are reacting like emotional children over my comments..

Everyone is whining about my post, but no one has disputed the validity/accuracy of it. I'll address a few of the comments...

"You're a champ for doing this for him" - Why in the world would you consider a lady who made financially reckless decisions a champ? Knowing that she couldn't afford it, she decided to waste thousands of dollars on a garage makeover instead of paying her mortgage. Don't you think her husband would have preferred that she be frugal with her money, AND PAY THE MORTGAGE, instead of losing the house and ruining his credit over a garage makeover.

"Matt (the Tinman) never figured out that she never asked for help, only reported it. In fact, if he'd read further he'd see she refused any money from this board." - I read every post and understand that she was just reporting the facts and never asked for money. I'm simply questioning why people are so willing to throw their money at this situation instead of offering real long-term help to this woman. I suggest you re-read my post.

"No, Matt was just showing himself to be an an A-Hole!" - Could you please point to a specific part of my post in which I showed myself to be an A-Hole? What did I say that was untrue or mean spirited?

Why is everyone supporting this lady's decision to forgo paying her mortgage and instead spend lots of $$ on a garage makeover (which her husband will never be able to enjoy)? Because of this decision, they will have lost their home and ruined their credit.

Why weren't there recommendations to return/sell all of the garage stuff and apply that money towards the mortgage, get a second or third job, seek help from a credit counselor, ect.

I didn't see any of these options mentioned. Instead, most of the suggestions revolved around sending her money. She has proven to be very poor at managing money, so what makes you guys think throwing cash at this situation would be a good idea?

 

[george4]

Why in the world would you consider a lady who made financially reckless decisions a champ?

Some feel that helping out a Marine in the sandbox with a couple of bucks is OK.

 

[Uncle Buck]

OK Matt, lets say you are 100% right just for the sake of discussion; after looking at the previous 22 pages of entries I think you would have to agree that on the whole the greater majority of those weighing in morally support or otherwise were somehow won over by this young lady's efforts. Now lets look at this, after 22 pages of entries, the vast majority being in support of DD you come along and make your observations in one entry. Now that you have made your observations everyone does an about face and says to themselves "Wow, that Matt guy was really onto something!" be realistic there are many folks that have made mistakes with money so perhaps DD was one of them! The point ends up absolutely irrelevant because on the whole the majority of the posters has made their choice of how they view this situation and unfortunately for you the groups view does not dovetail with your view! It is simply one of those situations where the group, or those posters to this thread are not going to be in agreement with your position regardless of whether you are right or not! Those like me have made our choice on this issue and I guess are just not interested in your take! So I guess the best thing you can do is save yourself the finger exercises on this thread and move to another where we might find some common ground!

 

[poncho62]

Matt.......whether we agree with you or not...it being your 1st post leads some to believe that its the reason why you came here. ....just to stir up ****........whether it is true or not.

First posts seem to leave a big impression to people............Don't be surprised if you are shunned here in the future because of it. See....it shows even you can make mistakes..............

 

[aarcuda]

man, this whole thing stinks. I mean the post.

from day one when "2DoubleD's" posted I thought to myself, what the heck is this 'poster' up to. I thought what kind of woman whose husband is away in the military would post on the internet using such a blatantly ****** reference for a handle- I figured a) The poster knows how the horn dogs will come out of the woodwork and responmd positively or b) its a scam (maybe a guy or something).

afterall, its a known fact (and has been proven here) that when a woman posts of a man's forum, they get BOMBARDED with responses and interests. So I always tend to take these threads with a grain of salt.

Now the house is at risk and all these saviors coming to her rescue. Ya, I find it hard to buy as well. But then again, Im a skeptic. Why would she even think about a garage makeover if money was tight such that losing a few kids would break her? oh ya, for her husband.. Like I said, Im a skeptic

And if the foreclosure- right before christmas- is real (which I question like some others on here), go and talk to the military and get some help. or do a short sale and save your credit. rent the house out and move in with the rents. plenty of solutions. you need to talk to a counselor- not a bunch of strangers on the net- unless thats the plan.

and now the husband asks for a banks statement or credit report (wheres the rollie eyes?) Seems odd to me as well. WHY would he ask for that? But to top it off, you want to hide your financial situation from HIM when he COULD help if he knew about it is the worst thing you could do.

seems like a cry for help which all your internet buddies are dying to jump in and be your hero. Sorry guys, rip me a new one if you want but I see a problem here. 22 freaking pages of problems

Btw DD's, dont use such a blantaly ****** handle when you post on the net. Thats a sure way to tick off a husband who is away on duty.

when you add everything up, it just says be cautious....

 

[Uncle Buck]

Great, Matt has a buddy! (how did he put that.......oh yea rolleyes!)

 

[aarcuda]

hey, you guys do whatever floats your boat but what I said was valid. how many other 24 page threads does this site have going?

and how many other female members are on this typically man's site advertise the size of their anatomy in their handle which btw, would perk up any mans interest?

if my wife ever did that, she's have some splaining to do. BIG TIME

im just saying something seems fishy and i have always been one to call out things I see to be fishy....

oh ya, and what military spouse HASNT heard of the relief programs for deployed members. They send that info to the homes and give that to the deploying solders over and over again. its no secret but yet DD's never heard of it???? just sounds fishy.

 

[Uncle Buck]

man, this whole thing stinks. I mean the post.


Btw DD's, dont use such a blantaly ****** handle when you post on the net. Thats a sure way to tick off a husband who is away on duty.

OK, so you and Matt have a problem with the lady's money management skills, fine. I do think you are out of line being the great I am standing in pious judgement. Further, you questioned her integrity, morality, and motives. Lets look at this for a second. 1) She never made an off color post or one that was in any way suggestive that I can recall, (so much for the morality issue) 2) As to her motives and integrity follow the thread, she never expressed any interest in financial gain from others at any point, though there was no shortage of ample opportunities offered by many to be taken advantage of! Oh yes, lets not forget the handle DD. Lighten up a bit and quit processing that lump of coal you are setting on into a diamond! Perhaps that is all you need to get yer motor runnin but I doubt that does anything to most of us! Why not just leave it at this; you think she could have made better use of her money than she did and let it go at that as opposed to taking on the holier than thou attitude and standing in judgement!

 

[Rabbit]

1.) What about the chosen username and the ever so clever mention of a stripper pole? That's pretty "off color" bro when you consider that 99.9% of membership here is gear head males. Here's a better analogy ... think Girly Snap On tool calendars of years past ... they didn't hand those out to gear heads simply out of love, it's was to help sell a product. It's marketing baby. And she, by her own admittance, chose that username for the very reason to gain attention from "the guys" under the guise of "advice." If advice was all she was after, then why the suggestive name and mention of an item that is traditionally used to separate men from their money ... a stripper pole. Again, it's marketing baby.

2.) I'm of the opinion that she didn't accept the monetary offers because someone had already raised the suspicion of this possibly being a scam before she could get back here and "catch up" on to what was going on.

Labeling someone an "*******" simply because they don't agree with the majority is really not productive either, is it? Honestly, I'm not taking sides here ... I'm just saying that I can see validity in both sides of the debate here

Flame suit on. Sitting quietly in corner.

 

[Uncle Buck]

1.) what about her username and the ever so clever mention of a stripper pole? that's pretty "off color" bro when you consider that 99.9% of membership here is gear head males. Here's a better analogy ... think Snap On tool calendar ... they don't hand those out (anymore) to gear heads simply out of love, it's because they help sell a product. And she, by her own admittance, chose that username for the very reason to gain attention from "the guys" under the guise of "advice." If advice was all she was after, then why the suggestive name and mention of an item that is used to separate men from their money ... a stripper pole.

2.) I'm of the opinion that she didn't accept the monetary offers because someone had already raised the suspicion of this possibly being a scam before she could get back here and "catch up" on to what was going on.

Honestly, I'm not taking sides here ... I'm just saying that I can see validity in both sides of the debate here.

Flame suit on. Sitting quietly in corner.

I guess I would bottom line it like this, there are more sure fire and quick ways to run a scam so I do not see this as a great way to get much traction there. Further the fact remains that the lady never took a dime of anyones money once again underscoring the fact that she had no ill motives here though ample opportunities existed!

 

[Rabbit]

actually, the bottom line is this thread wouldn't have gotten past more than a page without that particular username. the mention of the stripper pole several pages in didn't hurt either.

but what do i know, i'm a pessimist.

 

[hotrod66paul]

If it was a scam then complaints of two or three members would do little to stop a villian (male or female) to continue with the game and fleece the flock. The local vending machine can take you for a couple of bucks but don't take a chance on helping someone out with the far outside chance that you are being hustled for a couple of bucks. Boo-hooo ! Maybe the guy that said " Kill'em all and let god sort them out " was on to something , ya think ???

 

[aarcuda]

maybe she's selling the Tornado (tm)......