Answer part one.
Living within ones means.
Wow where to begin, to start off and this is key, I live frugally!!!!!
I started planning for an early retirement in 1996. I do without a lot of the stuff most people “need” to survive, never had cable, and didn’t have a cell phone. Never smoked ETC. I buy my food at food salvage store. I eat out of date food and such at a tremendous savings. I do not eat packaged food. Today’s lunch is a bean soup made from the Christmas ham bone. I buy any clothes I can at goodwill. Eating out is a rarity and 90% of the time it is off the $1 menu.
I bought acreage in 98, started building my retirement house in 99 and have been working on it ever since. And I built the house MYSELF! While I took help from friends when available I can honestly say I have driven MOST every screw, nail, what have you in the house. No contractor has set foot in the house.
All that being said I buy quality on the things that are important to me. I spend money on things that give my family or myself joy. But I shop everything to death, I buy used a lot, I buy OSB when it is $6 a sheet, not during hurricane season. I have bought Romex at garage sales and off Craigslist. Every window in my shop came from HFH, CL or a garage sale. None of them cost more than $30.
I joke with the tellers at the bank or my wife about any time I get cash for my wallet it is my “booze and ****** money” the truth is cash in the wallet is great for garage sales or CL deals. And I always try to have something for the collection plate on Sunday.
The truth is. If you don’t smoke, do drugs, drink excessively, gamble, buy a lunch out every day, a $4 coffee, **** from the vending machine ETC. you can have money for “good stuff”
As said before, other people have given me **** about what I spend MY money on. I found it particularly rich when a drunk smoker laid into me about how he “lives within his means” but yet he could only throw a few bucks in the tank till payday. I had started a thread on the other garage site, about stopping at a gas station in a bad part of Saginaw, and all three the cretins in front of me each bought less than $10 worth of gas. I mean how F’in far do you get on $3.12 worth of gas?
Lesson one don’t spend more than you take in.