do you ask for permission?

[OccupantRJ]

no, I don't ask permission, and neither does my wife. Yesterday she bought a leather love seat. Today, it was a mobile home and lot. She now has three, paid for. I have a shop with lots of tools and equipment, paid for. My wife is her own person. So am I. I once bought a forklift, which I placed a distance from the house. She came home, got out of the car and asked "What's that?" I replied "A forklift". She asked "What are you going to do with it?". I replied "Pick **** UP with it!" She went on into the house.

 

[Ncognito]

ive had other people say that to me but I just really like this girl. maybe im just a loser :

Well, if a complete stranger on a message board is telling you the same thing your friends are...

Hell, I've been married three times. The third time really was the charm for me. I've got a great wife now, but the one thing I learned from the other two is the fact that they don't change; it only get's worse once the ring is on her hand and your name is on the marriage certificate.

I didn't mean to piss on your parade. I'm sure she's a great girl, and being frugal is a great quality in a woman. I just think everyone deserves to be as happy as I am now. Good luck.

 

[Ncognito]

...and for you guys that say you have never lied to your wife....i bet you won't say that in church.

We've been together almost five years now, and I've never lied to my current wife. Past wives, now that's another story.

 

[DARKSCOPE001]

Well, if a complete stranger on a message board is telling you the same thing your friends are...

Hell, I've been married three times. The third time really was the charm for me. I've got a great wife now, but the one thing I learned from the other two is the fact that they don't change; it only get's worse once the ring is on her hand and your name is on the marriage certificate.

I didn't mean to piss on your parade. I'm sure she's a great girl, and being frugal is a great quality in a woman. I just think everyone deserves to be as happy as I am now. Good luck.

Thanks I hope your not right. I cant stand how her family is about stuff. They seriously will step over a dollar to pick up a penny when it comes to high quality tools. Sad part is they flip houses so you would think they would like semi- high quality stuff. but no they buy cheep cheep stuff. and that has trickled down to my GF who's jaw drops to the floor when i tell her how much i just spent on the snap on truck
even tho i try to never let my balance go above 200 bucks on the truck. (yes i know lots of people will say if you dont have the cash to buy them outright dont buy them at all) but im usually pretty good about paying off my truck account before buying more ****.

But Ive given up trying to talk to her family about tools i just nod and agree. "Yes sir. your completely right, why would I ever buy a 100 dollar ratchet or a 200 dollar set of pliers when i can get the same thing from task force for 10 bucks. im soooo stupid" Its not really that bad. She doesent hound me about it but she always gives me the "how much did that just cost you?" or "why do you need that?" look.

Thanks
Sean Scott

 

[2oolhound]

you guys got it all wrong. make them pay for your tool.

example- told my girlfriend i am going to drop her s oil pan ties n repack her oil pickup tube, but i need an electric impact to take out all those pesky bolts which would take forever with a ratchet. an electric impact is much cheaper than having the stealership perform the labor so we'll see if this strategy to get free tools holds up

2oolHound -I think this guy is one of the few of us who has actually figured women out!

I think you're right, put it to her like that and she probably went straight for her check book.

 

[HaroRider]

Her "Why are you buying those stupid snap on screwdrivers"

Me "I need them"

Her "You already have so many"

Me "These are better"

I dont ask for permission, just have to answer a few questions, sure shes not happy..oh well

When it comes to fixing her car I get to tell her "See my dumb tools fixed your car"

 

[NC-Fordguy]

Never ask, never a problem. The wife is a Manager for Sears

Doesn't bat an eye when something comes from the tool truck either

 

[toolstools]

I get a budget/allowance every month. No lies needed.

U "get" an allowance?

 

[zmaxmotorsports]

Years ago when I first started my electrical/plumbing shop the wife was ******* and moaning about something.
So I told her I was going to buy a shovel and jumped in my dump truck and disappeared.
2 days later I came back home from a road trip from hell to Missouri with a trailer and a brand new john deere 310D 4x4 extendahoe back hoe.
She walks out the door and looks at the tractor and looks at me and says what the hell is that?
I told her it was a 4wd shovel with power steering/stereo and air conditioning!
That was the quietest 2 weeks I remember having in years!
Since then Ive bought lots of trucks and tractors,she quit asking questions a long time ago!

 

[Glacial_Speed]

Like a few others have posted if it's over a certain amount then we discuss. However, I should point out I don't wrench for a living, and these tools aren't making money, it's just DIY stuff for me.
That "certain amount" seems to have gone down after the kids came along. Priorities change.
She did gripe at me about a non-functioning bandsaw I bought that I'm working on....slowly...( I picked the name glacial speed for a reason LOL). I finally told her it's a piece of art, a statue that just looks like a bandsaw and it makes me happy. It actually seems to have worked, she hasn't mentioned it since.

 

[fred d]

Five years ago my wife quit teaching school to be home with the kids. She still has a job working out of the house for a company she loves. I took a 2nd full time job at Lowes to get the health insurance for the family, the extra cash is nice as well

Aside from cheating on her or killing someone, I can do pretty much anything I want.

I NEVER as for permission, but then neither does she.

As the manager of tool world, I have gotten great deals week after week after week.
When lowes went from the USA made stuff, to the Taiwan junk, our manager wanted the old stuff out to get the new stuff on the shelf. I bought $1000 dollars worth of hand tools including metric and standard Gearwrenches for $100 90% off

I buy nonstock tools all the time, I have probably doubled my tool ownership. I have also helped many friends increase their tool ownership as well.

I have also purchased a bunch of old international 4x4's. I have never asked for permission

Sad thing is because I work so much, I have many many tools I have not had the opportunity to use most of them........ But soon I expect things to change

 

[Outlander]

I get a budget/allowance every month. No lies needed.

^^this. I also make her things so she knows the tools are used. The only hitch is that she thinks I have 2 of everything. In some cases I have 3

Oh - my kids give me tools for presents. I often tell her to tell our daughter "I repaired ______ with that great socket set I bought with your gift card". Then she knows it is all good

 

[darkk]

Ask permission, for what? I'm an adult, I don't have to ask permission from anyone. I don't lie about my guns, ammo, tools, cars, parts, beer or anything else I buy. Makes for to much ********. I don't buy anything unless my other financial obligations are met first...mortgage/rent, lights, fuel etc. I have my own money *so to speak* We both get $** a week as spending money, I buy, sell, trade and save to get what I need. Even If I didn't, If I can afford it, it's mine. My wife has never wanted for anything. She gets absolutely anything she wants. No I'm not rich either. We pay our bills and owe nothing. We just are lucky enough to be frugal and good at money handling. We have a nice home, nice cars.....life is good...

 

[FXDawg]

Judgemental anyone Im just tryin to spread a little entertainment. around here fact is i have a wonderful relationship with my wife been married 15 years probably longer then most of you and I'm only 34 you guys are takin this a little to serious and for you guys that say you have never lied to your wife....i bet you won't say that in church.

I totally understood your question and found it very lighthearted and fun! It made me think back to the times I may bent the truth a bit about how much something cost! Ooooorrr, how many times I've been working and actually perusing this forum or another! LOL I actually enjoyed your post.

Anyone that ever tells you "I have never told a lie," is sure to be telling at least their 2nd lie!!! LMAO

 

[Coach James]

Nope, never lied or pretended I didn't buy something. Bigger purchases by either of us we discuss but not smaller ones. My fil was a serious diyer and had a home improvement business so my wife sees nothing odd about having 3 cordless drills or 5 claw hammers. I do the maintenance on our house, most of it on our cars and on our commercial building so she knows I need a lot of tools.

All household bills get paid, 401k gets maxed out, ROTH gets some $$ each month. I don't spend much money on clothes, booze or anything else. She knows tools are my thing. I've been wanting a HF 44" box for a while and she tells me every week to go and get one.

Coach

 

[nit2wn]

Depends on the price, my mood, and where the money will come from. If I can find the ot to pay for it, she gets a heads up and that's about it. I've made a point to keep our bills easily paid on a base pay salary. Usually, if it's more than $100 I'll run it by her for debate unless it's a great deal or it's needed to do a job now. I' just piddle on stuff to be fair about it. That all be typed, there's two trucks that are in our yard that while there was discussion on, I still came home with them. Her dad went with me to the dealer for the Superduty after she refused, I brought the Lightning home when the dealer got right on the price and my trade in. Her first remark was saying I'd better be test driving it. She changed her mind when she needed a trip to the ER and wanted to get there fast. She was on board for the Ranger so all was well. She's good to me, somehow she puts up with me having 3 trucks, that aren't driven enough to own them.

 

[KPSquared]

I've been wanting a HF 44" box for a while and she tells me every week to go and get one.

Coach

Dammit man. . .go get one! On for $349 in early March I think. No time like the present!

 

[ChvyC10]

Haha!

Negative... Tools = making $

 

[Chadwilliam1]

negative, I don't tell her anything about or ask. My wife is of the same opinion of my mother in law and father in law. Cheap tools from harbor freight. My wife has come to realize I wont budge and I like quality stuff. I typically take very good care of my belongings. My wife does not so when I spend a long time reading and reviewing a product she doesn't understand. She is the type to just go to the store and point at an item and she is happy. If she knew about every penny we have and all the money I have spent on tools we would be broke.

 

[shoot summ]

She doesn't scrutinize my smaller purchases, and I don't scrutinize hers, we do talk about how much is, or isn't available from a discretionary funds perspective.

I do bounce larger purchase off of her, as she does with me, we are both pretty frugal.

I lied to her once on a purchase and she found out, not a good feeling for me as she was more hurt that I lied, she didn't care about the purchase.

Just remember, if you are lying to her, she could be lying to you as well...

 

[Presto_z]

She never gives me a hard time about what I buy or how much it is. But she does get aggravated when I get new tools cause ill spend all day in the garage cleaning and re organizing my boxes instead of spending time with her..

She even sits there and listens to me talk about my tools when I know she has no idea what I'm talking about.

 

[NineFingerFury]

Again, no need to lie when I do something to save us $$$. Did the wife's front brakes and showed her the money I saved by doing them myself. $50 for ceramic pads with LLT warranty and free rental of caliper tool from AZ vs. $200+ at the Toyota dealership with no LLT warranty. No arguing, no begging, no lying, AND I get to be the hero.

 

[Outlander]

She never gives me a hard time about what I buy or how much it is. But she does get aggravated when I get new tools cause ill spend all day in the garage cleaning and re organizing my boxes instead of spending time with her..

She even sits there and listens to me talk about my tools when I know she has no idea what I'm talking about.

In the summer, my wife sits by the lake in the gazebo reading and enjoying a relaxed weekend life. I pop in and out of the garage, smoke a cigar in the gazebo and go back. Best of both worlds

 

[bobemmerich]

Nope. I see what I want and get it (IF I have the funds). She may balk about it a little, but in the end it's my money, and I don't spend it if I don't have it.

 

[Motor-Mechanic]

In a nutshell........no.

 

[Texican]

Never ask for permission but if it is an expensive item, I'll tell her about it. We never keep score about who buys this or that. If she wants something she buys it and if I want something I buy it.