Thank you Fredfox32, "Flag bolt" is turning up something similar to what I want, just not a lot of it.
I attached pic's of a similar bolt (cross member that supports transfer case) so that others could see what I was trying to draw. Stage 8 is close to what I want, and could be made to work, but is more high end than I was looking for. If that's my only option I'll just use standard hardware.
I can find some nuts with "flange nut with retainer", but not bolts with "flange bolt with retainer".
I like these because I can zip the nuts on and off with with an impact, and my finger, even when they're rusted up.
P.S.
"Quickie Bolt Assemblies" gets some hits