OP -
If you dont have an angle grinder with a cutting disc, flap disc (I reccomend 40 grit), and a grind disc get yourself hooked up with that. You'll want a 4.5" or 5" angle grinder with atleast 7 amps. Dewalt, makita, milwaukee are all pretty close.
When loading wire into your machine if you let go of the spool it will quickly unravel and make a squirrels nest - this ***** and you dont want to do that. Ensure your metal roller is aligned for the correct wire type and thickness. You'll need two hands to hold the spool so it doesnt unravel and one to guide your wire into the feeder and clamp it down. Keep holding the spool until you screw down the nut that holds it in place. Not tightly, just enough to keep it from wanting to unravel.
As for the wife needing stands and what not, give yourself several months atleast of practicing different material gauges before you do something structural, load bearing, or especially if someone is going to stand on it.
Welding can be deceptive - what looks strong sometimes isn't, and what looks weak sometimes is strong. Material fit and prep is very important - really it will take up 80 percent of the time on your projects. Practice practice practice, and beat the **** out of what you practice on and see how it holds up. You will get the feel as you go.
Ive been welding only 1 year - but I've come a long way since then.
Some random tips I can send your way:
For your regulator - thread all hoses cleanly and tightly. Unscrew the valve counterclockwise until its loose almost. Turn your gas tank on all the way open. Your right gauge will fill up (thats like your gas tank total in a car). Then screw the valve closed until the left gauge comes up and starts reading around 23 CFH. When the machine is on and you squeeze the trigger holding it down that needle will drop. You want it to drop to about 20 CFH. Trim your excess wire about 1/4" or less off your tip. Once your machine settings are dialed in, you're all set to weld.
Your heat setting is your main setting, and your wire feed speed is like a fine tuner. When you have it right it will sizzle like bacon frying. You'll get used to it. If it goes pop pop pop try turning the heat up and/or the wire feed down just a touch. Experiment until you get it sizzling consistently.
I find I get best control when I guide the "gooseneck" of the gun with my left hand while squeezing the trigger with my right.
If you're doing sheet metal squeeze for 1 second and stop, then move over like an 1/8" and squeeze it again and stop. You only need a second or less of "rest" time between welds. You'll work your whole joint this way when it comes to sheet metal. This lowers heat, burn through, and warpage. Do this procedure for about an inch then work somewhere else on the piece doing the same for an inch. Keep working your way around the joints until its all complete.
Clean metal is important to good clean welds. You can weld through some junk, but you get a better burn when its clean. Keep that in mind. Flap disc on an angle grinder is good, wire brush helps as well.
You dont want to do long passes in general unless the material is heavy like an 1/8" thick or more. Even then you want to keep the passes down to a few inches at a time I'd say.
Some other tools that are lifesavers for me after F-ing about with angle grinders forever - HF electric sheet metal shears, and the red HF horizontal band saw. I HIGHLY reccomend these for your shop - even if you dont go with a HF brand.
protective eyewear, a good auto dim welding helmet and good gloves are imperative. Dont wear open toed shoes. If you weld a lot in a T-shirt - which I tend to do, you'll get sunburn on your arms if you weld a lot that day. Welding jackets are not necessary unless you're doing a lot or in a position where some molten metal will fall on you.
Hopefully this isnt too much info too quickly. All the advice I can think of for now. Now go out and F up some metal and learn!