As a professional, I use a tape measure perhaps monthly. Sometimes to measure things, sometimes for other purposes. The hook on my tape measure is particularly good for pulling distant air conditioner filters in their frame to within reach.
As an avid diy-er, I use tape measures many times a day.
I measure in feet and inches, inches, in metric (meters, cm, and mm), and in tenths of a foot.
I have 1m flat tape measures that measure a yard and a meter. 12' and 16' tape measures that I like because the 1/2" wide tapes are nearly flat, which makes for easier measurements, and which have 1/32" graduations for the first foot. And 25' and 30' tape measures with wide tapes that have a useful stickout for construction. I do not currently own any longer tape measures for surveying, since I have a laser measure for that.
I suffer from CRS, so rather than spend all day searching for a tape measure, I try to make sure that one is nearly always in reach. Off the top of my head, there's one in my desk drawer at work, and another in the toolbox there. There's one in my desk at home, and another in a kitchen drawer. Then there's one in the boiler room, and one at each saw station in my garage, plus a few in strategic locations around the shop. Generally, anywhere I would keep a tape measure, I keep it in close proximity to a marking pencil.
I don't abuse my tape measures, and have not had any of the problems mentioned.
I prefer the Stanley lever-lock, but other automatic locks are second best, followed by manual locks last.
I'll most often mark measurements off a tape measure with a pencil, though sometimes I'll use a knife. I'm not sure how a pencil could be "attached" to a tape measure and still be both functional and not frustrating though.
I can't remember the last time I've snapped a tape.
The most common failure for me with tape measures is the blade coating peeling or wearing off.