Ole_Red
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I think my wife is looking forward to us having a garage so that she can kick me out there!
How do you get time in the garage?
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yellowdartdave
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Since I got rid of the wife 19 years ago (I did not like her choice of boyfriends), I basically do as I please. GF concurs.
If doing stuff in the garage irks significant other..bring work inside.
If doing stuff in the garage irks significant other..bring work inside.
Steevo
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Since I got rid of the wife 19 years ago (I did not like her choice of boyfriends), I basically do as I please. GF concurs.
If doing stuff in the garage irks significant other..bring work inside.
Is that an H1 in the background?
I LIKE your kitchen!
canuckian
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No permission needed here. I think she likes the fact that I spend the majority of my evening in the shop after the wee one goes to bed. If I'm needed, she either comes out or pages me on the phone extension. she gets the time to do her thing and I get time to do mine. Win-win!
Hell, I'm in the garage right now writing this!!
Hell, I'm in the garage right now writing this!!
Cougar
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dittle fart around
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I've found that getting fired from your job will do it. She sure doesn't like me hanging out in the house getting in her way.
bad_idea
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my wife doesn't bother me about the time i spend out there, as long as i spend some time with her. i get focused and will spend every waking hour wrenching on something, if i am not at work.
then again, we dont have any kids. and she has her hobbies. and she gets tired of looking at me. she has been after me, "when are you going out of town again?" keep in mind she is only teasing, we get along great.
but we do **** heads about how we spend our money, and i think that is similiar to how you all spend your time. (both are limited, and one wants it all.) for us w/ money, it takes some planning and a certain amount of rationalizing/ discussion.
i say talk it out. explain that 'this' is important to you and enjoyable.
then again, we dont have any kids. and she has her hobbies. and she gets tired of looking at me. she has been after me, "when are you going out of town again?" keep in mind she is only teasing, we get along great.
but we do **** heads about how we spend our money, and i think that is similiar to how you all spend your time. (both are limited, and one wants it all.) for us w/ money, it takes some planning and a certain amount of rationalizing/ discussion.
i say talk it out. explain that 'this' is important to you and enjoyable.
santagary
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Some of the best *** we've ever had has been out in the garage when she comes out for a "visit" to see what I'm up to. Try it sometime! 
As long as I was out in the garage working on something for her I could spend days in the garage. But if it was working on something for me that took more than a couple hours I would get the "gee I didn't think you would be out there all day" response. That and along with other issues is why she is now the x-wife. Now with a greatly reduced stress level I just get up and head out to the garage.
canuckian
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If you're in the garage you should be working on something.
lol...was taking a break?
actually, no real projects on the go at the moment. Was mostly out there trying to re-arrange the woodworking stuff so I can fit my truck in there.rsieracki
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if she complains tell her if she doesnt want you wrenching in the garage you can go to the ***** house instead... bet she'll never question your "garage time" again
Red Leader
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Don't know if this helps or not, but...
When my wife knows that she is the priority, she is totally cool with everything else. It's a good thing. I think just the way that women (at least a lot of them) work is wanting to be important to us, so coming home and spending some time with her first or doing something kind for her first means that 'all is well' and when its time to go to the garage, she is good with it and knows that is important time to me. Heck she'll even bring out food to me when I'm in there...yes she is awesome
I think when they feel competition for that top slot, they can be hurt more easily and get more sensitive about a lot of things, including time in the garage. I had to learn that lesson.
Remember, happy wife = happy life
When my wife knows that she is the priority, she is totally cool with everything else. It's a good thing. I think just the way that women (at least a lot of them) work is wanting to be important to us, so coming home and spending some time with her first or doing something kind for her first means that 'all is well' and when its time to go to the garage, she is good with it and knows that is important time to me. Heck she'll even bring out food to me when I'm in there...yes she is awesome
I think when they feel competition for that top slot, they can be hurt more easily and get more sensitive about a lot of things, including time in the garage. I had to learn that lesson.
Remember, happy wife = happy life
Greatbear
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It's the same as being in a very high-end store of some sort where all the merchandise has no prices affixed...
If you have to ask, you cannot afford it at all.
If you have to ask, you cannot afford it at all.
tinbender 66
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wssix99
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This is it.
- Build her a car that she likes.
- Explain that the money you are saving by doing your own work in the garage is keeping her from having to go out and get a second job!
unpredictable1
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I have kids, and for a long time now I've had a feed for sat TV ran out to the garage, along with an old 36inch tube TV. If I'm out there and not doing any painting or anything, the kids can come out and hang out if they want.
Plus there's times the wife kicks me out there because she knows if I'm cranky, that's the solution.
I wrench on alot of things out there but the garage is pretty much an extended living space of our home.
Plus there's times the wife kicks me out there because she knows if I'm cranky, that's the solution.
I wrench on alot of things out there but the garage is pretty much an extended living space of our home.
dicko
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Balance fellas, balance. Divide your weekend into 2 or 4, then prioritise the time. Absolutely no argument from my better half. Anytime I need to spend in my other home is fine by her. There's also a room devoted to her stuff, so there's never an argument. Kids gone, but they figured in the arrangement. Talk about technical stuff too, that's a sure way to get time alone to figure out how to fix the technical problem. Thread sizes, metric/imperial does the trick...
Dicko
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Justanoldguy
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I'm off to the workshop.
See you at tea time.
If you want me before that, just ring.
See you at tea time.
If you want me before that, just ring.
Tarheelgarage
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I just go the the shop; no permission needed.
She has to hobbies and does not require my permission to work on them either.
She'll call me in early some nights, so I can lay some pipe.
She has to hobbies and does not require my permission to work on them either.
She'll call me in early some nights, so I can lay some pipe.
RBailey
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Nice idea
Will not work for me YET, but one to file in my memory for when they are a bit older (and I get my own cave).
Benji
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You have to get permission from your significant other to be your the garage? you might wan't to look in to fixing that problem first.
Hosalabad
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This is an easy one.
Make her start asking permission for things.
Make her start asking permission for things.
unpredictable1
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Nice idea
Will not work for me YET, but one to file in my memory for when they are a bit older (and I get my own cave).
Can't tell you how much it has helped over the last couple of years. Outside of wrenching away and having a hockey game on which that setup comes in handy for - I try to keep some juice etc in the fridge for them and they just haul up a cooler to sit on and I work away without being bugged.
I've had it set up for about 3 years, my kids are now 4, 6, and 11.
My wife loves....I'm sorry make that...LOVES to read. She has no issues with what I'm doing in the garage. While I do have a TV and some of my friends call it my "man cave"...it's a garage. No sofas, do big screen tv or surround sound. I enjoy tinkering with the cars, etc. Last night, a small project of replacing the plug on one of my buffers was actually a very pleasant little project.
I dont have to ask permission to do anything... She just ******* about me being in the garage unless it is doing something that benefits her in some way. For example her daughter wrecked her car and I have spent the past week after work rebuilding/replacing the front suspension. Even had to go out and buy about $200 worth of tools to do it. No bitching there. Also a few months ago I had to change the water pump on her minivan and there was not bitching there. If I go out and work on my daily driver or project car she ******* about not helping with the toddler or cleaning something in the house.
1) Sunday afternoons are for leisure. So I put the race on the TV in the garage and get to "work". I listen to the race while I work and catch the crash replays.
2) I take the kids with me. They play outdoors in the front of the house while I work in the garage and my wife gets time to herself.
2) I take the kids with me. They play outdoors in the front of the house while I work in the garage and my wife gets time to herself.
Have absolutely NO problems with my wife-to-be.
I would even go to the extent that she encourages me to be in the garage, not to get me out from under her feet but she knows how passionate I am about my "dream" and as such she wants to be a part of that, every hour in the garage is one hour closer to obtaining that "dream".
She does all the shopping, works longer hours, cooks, cleans, and very very rarely complains about any of it. She is in her element when cleaning and organising, whereas I am pretty much ADD and for some f**ked up reason she loves that she has to organise me and kick me up the **** to make me maintain any form of organisation I put in place either in the house, garage, work van or finances.
Soooooooooooooooooooo lucky to have found someone as good as she is and in return she knows that I will work my *** off on my "dream" that will also take her along as my partner and soul mate.
May sound very "me tarzan, you jane" but it works. Up to the point I become so unmotivated about housework that she kicks me, then the house gets stripped and redone from top to bottom and she remains happy again for quite some time.
I would even go to the extent that she encourages me to be in the garage, not to get me out from under her feet but she knows how passionate I am about my "dream" and as such she wants to be a part of that, every hour in the garage is one hour closer to obtaining that "dream".
She does all the shopping, works longer hours, cooks, cleans, and very very rarely complains about any of it. She is in her element when cleaning and organising, whereas I am pretty much ADD and for some f**ked up reason she loves that she has to organise me and kick me up the **** to make me maintain any form of organisation I put in place either in the house, garage, work van or finances.
Soooooooooooooooooooo lucky to have found someone as good as she is and in return she knows that I will work my *** off on my "dream" that will also take her along as my partner and soul mate.
May sound very "me tarzan, you jane" but it works. Up to the point I become so unmotivated about housework that she kicks me, then the house gets stripped and redone from top to bottom and she remains happy again for quite some time.
nate379
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Reminds me of my friends wife. Help him out all winter and summer, then I buy a place and need some help with a few things.
He comes out one day and after 20 mins his phone is already ringing... Her wanting to know what is taking so long, when he will be back, etc.
After 4-5 more calls he got pissed, and shut his phone off. Well then mine going off the hook.
Needless to say when he got home that night he gave her the backhand pretty damn hard cause all the makeup in Walmart wasn't gonna cover that bruise up
It's not happy wife = happy life... more like no wife = happy life
He comes out one day and after 20 mins his phone is already ringing... Her wanting to know what is taking so long, when he will be back, etc.
After 4-5 more calls he got pissed, and shut his phone off. Well then mine going off the hook.
Needless to say when he got home that night he gave her the backhand pretty damn hard cause all the makeup in Walmart wasn't gonna cover that bruise up
It's not happy wife = happy life... more like no wife = happy life
Im longing for the day that i can have my kid come out to the garage with me.
Agreed.Don't know if this helps or not, but...
When my wife knows that she is the priority, she is totally cool with everything else. It's a good thing. I think just the way that women (at least a lot of them) work is wanting to be important to us, so coming home and spending some time with her first or doing something kind for her first means that 'all is well' and when its time to go to the garage, she is good with it and knows that is important time to me. Heck she'll even bring out food to me when I'm in there...yes she is awesome
I think when they feel competition for that top slot, they can be hurt more easily and get more sensitive about a lot of things, including time in the garage. I had to learn that lesson.
Remember, happy wife = happy life
If you take care of your wife/family, treat them as a priority, etc, there shouldn't be any need to ask permission to do anything, including working on projects in the garage. Some women need a lot more attention than others, though, I guess that's where the problem comes in? Like if YOU are their hobby, in the same way as the garage is your hobby. It's a catch 22, taking time for your hobby, the garage, takes time away from their hobby, you. Glad I'm not in this boat!
I don't ask permission to do much of anything, I just let her know what's going on. But I know my limits and how much time I can spend on my hobbies, garage projects, video games, out with friends, whatever, and the limits are quite reasonable IMO. It's a balance between your wife/family time and your hobbies/freetime. That's what marriage is, to me anyway.
There's a difference between just doing whatever you want whenever you want without any care for what your wife and family thinks, and doing whatever you want whenever you want, because you're also putting in the right amount of time in with your wife/family, and they are satisfied.
I could never live with or put up with a woman that, despite spending time with, making a priority, etc, tried to control my life to the point of having to ask persmission to go out to the garage. Life is too short to live it for someone else to that point.
Outlander
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My garage is at my cabin. Weekends at the cabin are for relaxing and enjoying life. It is a designated stress free zone for my wife and I. So, she reads, kayaks plays with the dogs snoozes etc while I tinker. Oddly enough the jobs I put off in the city for years (yes years) are done in record time at the cabin.
I do look out my garage window and see her sitting in the gazebo by the lake and think....hmmm.....why not take a break and smoke a cigar and chill with the wife. That buys me more undisturbed garage time!
I do look out my garage window and see her sitting in the gazebo by the lake and think....hmmm.....why not take a break and smoke a cigar and chill with the wife. That buys me more undisturbed garage time!