i am wondering...

[Deafautotech]

right now I am starting to feeling like something are missing like my brother (i only has one brother) got married 2 years ago but keep contacts him most of time by emails. BUT most of my friends that i has them since i was in preschool to high school (Indiana school for the Deaf) are either get girlfriend or boyfriend OR even got married (with baby??). Some of my deaf friends still in college which good for them to keep learning and earn a degree.

i already graduated from Ivy tech with A.A.S degree for 3 years in program for automotive technology. but same time i was in part time mechanic since high school's internship (two jobs between sept 2003 to may 2007) then i worked full time at one job until may 2009 before closed the dealership. next month after laid off, i got a new job and love it. i have giant toolbox with tons of tools that i paid off even keep buy tools that i need for work at ford dealership...

But problem is i dont even try to date a babe. most of time i do are either work at job (or side jobs on weekends) OR on my harley and enjoy a day... i am feeling like i have something missing! Even my friends keep asking me when i will date a babe or get marry... same with my parents that ask me when.... i just act like i am busy. i dont understand why i do this... my brother doing really good and got married then have a life while i am focus lot on my job and make all money i can earn... i has good money and i am not worry about it BUT i just keep act like i keep saving all money to bank even not spend much like other people do... i only pay or buy what i have to or need it (not want it)... i know most of my friends has tight budgets to keep live through month to month.

do i forget something or that is happen to everyone. i dont like to be single for rest of my life but i prefer to live a good life than through very tough time...

 

[Bull]

I guess my first question is: are you happy?

 

[79pacecar]

Ask yourself do you fell like your missing something BECAUSE your friends and family are asking you those questions or are you realy missing something..

That is your answer

IMHO

 

[Lookin4'67Galaxieconv]

If you feel like something is missing, then start making more of an effort to meet some women. It's not easy. A lot of women start off like they're really normal and it's their friends that have all the issues and drama, then you find out eventually that THEY'RE the ones that have all the drama.

Don't feel pressured to date if you really don't feel like it at the moment. You're at a good time in your life, enjoy it, and when you're ready you'll know it. Sounds like you're ready to make more of an effort and see what's out there.

 

[1loudsuv]

I guess my first question is: are you happy?

Obviously not :/

 

[krusty the clown]

there is nothing like the company of a woman. a good woman will make your life better and a bad one will destroy you. the problem is there aren't many good one's. you may never find one or if you do you may not realize it until it's too late. sometimes your better off renting.

 

[Deafautotech]

I guess my first question is: are you happy?

right now i just not happy that i dont try to date a babe but i am happy with my work, happy with my harley, and more happy with my money as not worry about every paycheck to paycheck to live on. BUT i am very careful with money. i am always tracking my flat rate times to make sure i got correct hours at my work...

But i just feel like i am lonely.... this happen to me few times and i just keep move on and doing what i want to... sometime single are great but i just like to have babe to talk and enjoy with her for riding or do something like hang out or go somewhere like normal couples do...

oh well...

 

[krusty the clown]

But i just feel like i am lonely.... this happen to me few times and i just keep move on and doing what i want to... sometime single are great but i just like to have babe to talk and enjoy with her for riding or do something like hang out or go somewhere like normal couples do...

that's when i rent

seriously though you will find that there are women out there that feel the same way.........want/need company without all the baggage of a commited relationship. but those are usually the psyco's i end up with

 

[Merkava_4]

Aren't there some fine-*** deaf women out there? My gut feeling tells me there are. Hell, I wouldn't mind dating a deaf woman myself, but I'd have to learn ASL first.

By the way, every single community college semester, the ASL classes get booked up faster than any other course on the class schedule. You gotta register for that class online and you gotta be waiting by the computer ready to pounce as soon as registration begins.

 

[Bull]

Obviously not :/

Why, did he tell you that?

There's a difference between not being happy and feeling off for a little while and writing a casual request for advice on the 'net.

 

[Deafautotech]

there is nothing like the company of a woman. a good woman will make your life better and a bad one will destroy you. the problem is there aren't many good one's. you may never find one or if you do you may not realize it until it's too late. sometimes your better off renting.

ahem! i am agree with you! i have many female friends but problems is i know some of them since preschool or middle school.. but they said they rather to be friends to me.. i am respect them...

i am try to enjoy myself out what i want to do and explore around... i hate to see that i am too late to do like miss the chance to ask a babe out.. i did once but i just keep move on...

 

[krusty the clown]

Aren't there some fine-*** deaf women out there? My gut feeling tells me there are. Hell, I wouldn't mind dating a deaf woman myself, but I'd have to learn ASL first.

By the way, every single community college semester, the ASL classes get booked up faster than any other course on the class schedule. You gotta register for that class online and you gotta be waiting by the computer ready to pounce as soon as registration begins.

why would she have to be deaf? i have two deaf friends i see from time to time and i hear just fine...........ok sometimes i don't listen

 

[vette-kid]

Deafautotech, I dont know how old you are, but Im guessing we must be close in age. I get the same questions all the time from friends and family. "when are you getting married?" "Why arent you trying to find a nice girls and make a family?" or something to that degree. Im nearly 30 now, and really dont htink about it. Im happy the way my life is. And I dont see the point in going out and actively looking for a woman. If I meet a girl I think is worth getting to kow more, then I will. But Im not going to go out to the bars and clubs looking for her (much to the disappointment of my married guy friends who want to live vicariously through me)

It sounds like you have made a good life for yourself, so just be happy for what you have and dont focus on finding a girlfriend. Most of the poeple i know that go out looking, end up finding the wrong one and go through the process a few times (yeah, its sad...friends not even 30 are on their 2nd marriage!). Make the most of the life you have and enjoy it!

 

[Bull]

Aren't there some fine-*** deaf women out there? My gut feeling tells me there are. Hell, I wouldn't mind dating a deaf woman myself, but I'd have to learn ASL first.

He isn't limited to deaf women, of course.

And, you wouldn't have to learn sign language to date a deaf woman, either. Many deaf people do not sign at all. I have been academic adviser to a deaf student for several years now, and taught one other in a History class of mine last year. Neither used sign language.

 

[Deafautotech]

that's when i rent

seriously though you will find that there are women out there that feel the same way.........want/need company without all the baggage of a commited relationship. but those are usually the psyco's i end up with

most of time i was caught in between argue between husband and wife (my brother and my sister in law or my friends who got married) they get argue a lot and i was tell myself that how great i am single and no argue for myself...

i dont want date a psyco.....

 

[Deafautotech]

He isn't limited to deaf women, of course.

And, you wouldn't have to learn sign language to date a deaf woman, either. Many deaf people do not sign at all. I have been academic adviser to a deaf student for several years now, and taught one other in a History class of mine last year. Neither used sign language.

i am not limit myself to date a only deaf babe.. i am try to date any babe that i like to.. either hearing or deaf... if deaf babe, i just act like normal deaf people do. but try to ask a hearing babe that would make me to do little more work to ask out like communcation with paper and pen to talk...

 

[krusty the clown]

i dont want date a psyco.....

nobody does but you get used to it.......especially if your a biker

 

[Merkava_4]

In my own twisted way, I'm thinking deaf woman are ****.

Who was that deaf ******* Jericho? She was flat out succulent.

 

[Bull]

I understand what you mean. Everyone feels lonely at times.

If you are feeling lonely for female companionship, in particular, then I guess you should figure out the most comfortable way for you to begin meeting and socializing with good women. What about the activities you already like to do, like riding your Harley? Do you ever meet women with similar interests while you are out?

Krusty nailed it, though. A good woman can make your life great (most of the time) but a bad woman can seriously f you up emotionally and even financially. You just need to be careful and not put yourself on the line too early. What I mean by that is not to be so sweet and generous right away that you seem like a pushover. Girls do like nice guys, but they also like guys who they have to work a little bit to catch. Do you know what I am trying to say?

I hated the dating scene badly since I am most comfortable when I am by myself working on a project or maybe hanging out with one of my VERY few close friends. I ended up finding my wife when I least expected it, which is how it often happens.

Are you nervous about dating? Do you have much experience with it?

Remember, your Garage Journal buddies are always here for you.

But i just feel like i am lonely.... this happen to me few times and i just keep move on and doing what i want to... sometime single are great but i just like to have babe to talk and enjoy with her for riding or do something like hang out or go somewhere like normal couples do...

 

[Merkava_4]

Here she is, Shoshannah Stern

 

[Bull]

HOLY ****! I just now, after all these years figured out how to say your user name! I didn't know you were deaf, so I was pronouncing that part of your name (DEEF) and wondering what it meant.

Wow am I dumb!

 

[Deafautotech]

Deafautotech, I dont know how old you are, but Im guessing we must be close in age. I get the same questions all the time from friends and family. "when are you getting married?" "Why arent you trying to find a nice girls and make a family?" or something to that degree. Im nearly 30 now, and really dont htink about it. Im happy the way my life is. And I dont see the point in going out and actively looking for a woman. If I meet a girl I think is worth getting to kow more, then I will. But Im not going to go out to the bars and clubs looking for her (much to the disappointment of my married guy friends who want to live vicariously through me)

It sounds like you have made a good life for yourself, so just be happy for what you have and dont focus on finding a girlfriend. Most of the poeple i know that go out looking, end up finding the wrong one and go through the process a few times (yeah, its sad...friends not even 30 are on their 2nd marriage!). Make the most of the life you have and enjoy it!

i am 23 years old.... i am happy with what i do right now but just being lonely too much as only i am talk with are other techs at my work, my brother, and my parents. that it.. my friends are not much as they are busy with their way... i am just feel like i am left out... just feeling....

 

[krusty the clown]

let me add this advise. don't look too hard, look too fast or jump too soon.

you find the best things when you arent looking for them.


you will find more women will throw them self at you when your with a woman. i guess in thier own little messed up way the think if nobody else want's him i don't either..........jeez now i'm trying to figure out how the think.......i need a beer.

 

[Deafautotech]

let me add this advise. don't look too hard, look too fast or jump too soon.

you find the best things when you arent looking for them.


you will find more women will throw them self at you when your with a woman. i guess in thier own little messed up way the think if nobody else want's him i don't either..........jeez now i'm trying to figure out how the think.......i need a beer.

let me buy you a beer!

most of time i just keep going and move on with my life like just go work and enjoy to work at largest ford dealership. then go home to relax and get ready for next day. it is all over and over..

 

[om-nc]

Aren't there some fine-*** deaf women out there? My gut feeling tells me there are. Hell, I wouldn't mind dating a deaf woman myself, but I'd have to learn ASL first.

Yes!! I dated one for a long time and if things had been slightly different, I might have been married to her. Instead, I have been married to my wife for over 30 years. The old girlfriend is still a close friend however.

Deafautotech, All you need to do is expand your opportunities to meet single, available women. Community college, church, car clubs, etc. can all be good places to find available women. Then you will find one that just "clicks" and then life will be good.

You have accomplished much and would be a fine catch for a hearing or a deaf woman.

 

[Deafautotech]

HOLY ****! I just now, after all these years figured out how to say your user name! I didn't know you were deaf, so I was pronouncing that part of your name (DEEF) and wondering what it meant.

Wow am I dumb!

no problems... please dont make yourself a bad...

 

[Lookin4'67Galaxieconv]

ahem! i am agree with you! i have many female friends but problems is i know some of them since preschool or middle school.. but they said they rather to be friends to me.. i am respect them...

i am try to enjoy myself out what i want to do and explore around... i hate to see that i am too late to do like miss the chance to ask a babe out.. i did once but i just keep move on...

Andy, that's your "in" right there. Ask some of your female friends that you've known forever if they have any friends they could set you up with. That way you get some pre-screeening too. I went to a wedding in May where the people ended up meeting because of mutual friends three years ago.

 

[Merkava_4]

Here she is in red leather

 

[Deafautotech]

Yes!! I dated one for a long time and if things had been slightly different, I might have been married to her. Instead, I have been married to my wife for over 30 years. The old girlfriend is still a close friend however.

Deafautotech, All you need to do is expand your opportunities to meet single, available women. Community college, church, car clubs, etc. can all be good places to find available women. Then you will find one that just "clicks" and then life will be good.

You have accomplished much and would be a fine catch for a hearing or a deaf woman.

i did tried at Ivy Tech communcity college for three years while i was in college to earned the degree. no luck..

Bars- some of them are not good for me even worse is they already drunk. so i decided to not try at bars to date... only go for a drinks with techs...

my chruch are too olds and most of babes i met and know most of them BUT they either date or married...

car clubs- i am not member of car clubs... only go with my good family friend who own 1968 firebird with 400 CI big block engine in AND Rat Rod that he spent a lot of money on it....

 

[Merkava_4]

Damn, Look at those legs

 

[krusty the clown]

Bars- some of them are not good for me even worse is they already drunk. so i decided to not try at bars to date...

those are the one you practice catch and release with

 

[Deafautotech]

Andy, that's your "in" right there. Ask some of your female friends that you've known forever if they have any friends they could set you up with. That way you get some pre-screeening too. I went to a wedding in May where the people ended up meeting because of mutual friends three years ago.

i went to my two friends who just got married this summer... i did meet some of babes but they rather to be friends...

my friend tried to have a my female friend to set up to date me. but that female friend and i had serious talk about try to date but she changed a mind and said just be friend. i just respect her... then i am still moving on...

 

[Bull]

car clubs- i am not member of car clubs... only go with my good family friend who own 1968 firebird with 400 CI big block engine in AND Rat Rod that he spent a lot of money on it....

If that's a Pontiac 400, then it isn't a big block. All Pontiac engines from 326-455 cubic inches have the same size block.

 

[Deafautotech]

If that's a Pontiac 400, then it isn't a big block. All Pontiac engines from 326-455 cubic inches have the same size block.

really?? i keep ask my friend who own it if it is big block or normal block.. he said big... i keep myself confused and keep say nothing...

 

[Deafautotech]

Damn, Look at those legs

yeah i like that but............ not only that reason i want date a babe...

 

[krusty the clown]

sound's like it may be your approach if they all just want to be friends.

you just have to be patient. i think your doing the right thing.......if you want to shoot a 14 point buck you don't shoot the first doe that walks out in front of you.

 

[krusty the clown]

If that's a Pontiac 400, then it isn't a big block. All Pontiac engines from 326-455 cubic inches have the same size block.

ot but doesn't big block refer to being over square more than the actual dimentions of the block? of course if there is only one block you don't need to differentiate.

 

[Bull]

really?? i keep ask my friend who own it if it is big block or normal block.. he said big... i keep myself confused and keep say nothing...

Yes sir, it's the truth. If it's a Pontiac 400 and he says it's a big block, then he must be a Chevy guy who just bought a Firebird for kicks. All Pontiac guys know there are no Pontiac big blocks!

 

[Deafautotech]

sound's like it may be your approach if they all just want to be friends.

you just have to be patient. i think your doing the right thing.......if you want to shoot a 14 point buck you don't shoot the first doe that walks out in front of you.

yeah i just can keep to be patient and wait... but i hate when friends keep ask me when...

even i won a four brides' legs bands that grooms throw over to guys... i still have it as my history...

 

[Deafautotech]

Yes sir, it's the truth. If it's a Pontiac 400 and he says it's a big block, then he must be a Chevy guy who just bought a Firebird for kicks. All Pontiac guys know there are no Pontiac big blocks!

my friend has lot of friends who work at gasoline alley near Speedway in Indianapolis... they still make a custom vehicles to meet the customers requests...