I'm depressed.

[wythors]

I was going through some stuff the other day and found a Sears gift card that I'd forgotton about from Christmas. Got all stoked up and went to Sears to browse the tool department. The card was for thirty five bucks and I was willing to kick in another twenty or thirty if needed, but I COULDN'T FIND ANYTHING I WANTED! I never thought I would see the day when I couldn't find a hand tool that I didn't have or might have a use for some day. I went in looking for a Roloc kit but they were out. I ended up buying a ten dollar organizer for my "miscellaneous" drawer in my big box, but that's all I could find for under $100 that I had any use for. I guess I'll save the rest for when I'm ready to buy an aluminum floor jack.

 

[kartracer55]

YOUR depressed? Dude, Ive got a friend (a girl) who just started doin cocaine.... 16! Its getting out of control around here. Its kinda sad, but especially because we are so close.


Jim

 

[Fast Orange]

Jim-
You seem to be level headed and mature for your age,so I'm confident that you won't allow yourself to get sucked into that trap.The best thing you can do is try to work her away from the drugs.Anytime she expresses any remorse or willingness to break her habit/addiction,guide her towards counseling-either NA or private.If she has only recently turned to coke,she may feel she can just quit-that is probably not the case.Usually there is more to the problem than just recreational use-support her in any attempt to stop and get clean,and help her to get help for whatever pushed her in that direction.
I've had to watch as several of my friends went down that road-the hardest part is that unless they want to quit,there's not much you can do to help them.
Be there as a friend,but keep yourself clean-don't allow yourself to go down that path.
Keep in mind also,that you can't always save people from themselves.

George

 

[SuperKid]

I've got the same problem. I got a $50 gift card for Christmas. I spent $20 on a cheap welding mask, although it's cheap, it gets the job done. I mean, I'm not blind yet. lol. Then I spent another $20 on a 4 piece spark plug socket set. That's a funny story. I had a plug break off and I tried to pop the thing out by jabbing a screwdriver through the ratchet hole, but all that did was push out the center electrode of the plug. So, after struggling for a while, I just figured it would be easier to buy a new one. I originally went to buy just a 5/8" spark plug socket, but then I saw the 4 piece set. And, the bug bit me. So, I bought the 4 piece set. Now, I've got like $7.** left on the card and can't decide on what to buy. I've been to Sears 3 times now, my visits equal nearly 2.5 hours, without buying anything. Hmmm... what to do, what to do.

 

[kartracer55]

Goerge, its depressing. My friend called and wanted to know if I wanted to go out with a bunch of the guys tonight and I had like no motivation. Coke isnt a a fool around and go blaze on a friday night kinda drug thats serious stuff Id NEVER touch. Its almost scary and I want to help without her getting mad for lecturing and I sure as hell dont want to nark on her because THAT will mean she is carrying around a serious drug charge for the rest of her life. Im still trying to figure out what exactly I should do, but I think your right about trying to help if she wants to. Its just kinda sad to see whats going on. It seems like m is getting pretty popular around here, but the funny thing is that its mostly girls. Im sure its cut to hell if highschool girls are buying it, but even so, Its still bad. I see a bunch of strippers in the making

Were gunna hang out tommorow afternoon, Ill maybe talk to her then. Hopefully she wont have hit at that point and we can actually talk. Ive heard girls on coke and annoying as hell, but I have also heard they are good for a few hours of "fun" so to speak. I dont know what tommorow will bring, but I need to do something about this pretty fast, before its too late.

Jim

 

[milly]

This girl needs help fast. Either the school counsouler or someone will chime in

 

[maa139]

Kartracer - Maybe get her parents involved? As a father, I can honestly say that there is NOTHING that I wouldn't do for my son. Hopefully your friends parents feel the same way about her.

 

[bmwpower]

Woh. We got off topic here. Sorry wythors and Jim.

Same thing happens to me when I go to Sears. Sears needs to come out with more specialty tools or something to attract guys like us who have a tendency to have everything.

 

[Fast Orange]

Jim-
From the way you speak about your parents,I assume you have a good relationship with them.Don't be afraid to talk to them about this.I'm pretty sure they will be as concerned as you are about your friend.They have probably had the same things happen to friends of thiers and will help you to do the right things.
They might just surprize you with how "cool" they really are.When I was a teenager,the relationship between my parents and I was shaky,but when problems came up,I found that open and honest discussion with them helped a lot-I found that we all were really on the same side and they had some pretty good ideas to help me solve my problems.
There's one thing you need to keep in mind.In this situation,you can find yourself getting so involved in her situation that it affects you so strongly that her problem becomes your problem.The name for that occurance is co-dependance-if you feel yourself getting drawn too deeply into the situation,talk to a counselor-Narcotics Anonymous and Alcoholics Anonymous both have peopleto help out.

George

Check your PM box-

 

[kartracer55]

She is going to call me in a little while to let me know if we are still on for today. I want to talk to her first, and maybe try again if it doesnt work the first time, because If I tell anybody of "authority" I risk getting her in trouble, and I want to avoid that if I can. Yeah it sounds kind of lame, but it would kinda **** if she just wasted her life like this.

As for sears, I had that same problem the other day. I had like 11$ left on a gift card, and I needed a big alignment punch, which was 9$, so I had 2$ left. I thought, what am I going ot do with that?

Jim

 

[dternst]

Jim you can't handle this one on your own. Tell her folks, tell your folks, but don't go into this thinking you will be her savior. BTW, don't look at it as "narcing" on a friend. Look at it as saving a friend from traveling a very treacherous path.

Being an adult is being able to recognize those times when you can't go it alone and may need a little help.

Just my thoughts...

 

[kartracer55]

Im heading over 230- 3 ish. I have a feeling shelll pick up that something is wrong no matter what I do so Ill have to be honest. If it doesnt work out today, Ill have to got o somebody else. I know a teacher who I had before and shes cool because shes only like 23... just out of college and pretty "down to earth" so to speak so maybe she can help if today doesnt work out. Im hoping I can talk to her and not have to get anybody else "involved" because I want to keep it kind of quiet.

Jim