I'm doing wide plank white oak in my new build -- for two reasons. One you can get 10 and 12" wide boards and full boards for step treads at somewhat reasonable prices and I don't want any red/ orange tones. The key there is you have to use a stain w/o any red and use a latex polly. I want something that looks old and dirty .. was going to use all re-claimed. Unfortunate --- the really wide boards for the steps pushed me into $15+ sf for materials on the JOB
Do yourself a favor and get some scrap and try some small stain samples -- spending $50 on some stains will give you real benefits in getting what you want. Be very careful (very) with dye ... it's a different animal. I never use.
I'm not sure about the long lived white/ light floor craze ... It's a Scandinavia look and it does work with some house styles and locations. But -- it's hard to do with red oak. That's why you often see the nicest ones going darker .. sometimes you have to embrace a Rosewood .... Jacobean can also work and you can cut either w/ 50% natural. Red oak has a lot of grain varieties -- especially in typical 2 1/2 strip flooring w/o a deeper stain you can'd make it uniform. Old wide pine and strip fir floors looks great natural ... not oak IMO. Even white oak can have lots of movement unless 1/4 sawn.
I made up 8 sample floors for my new build .. and I'm not there yet. The advent of man made products being easier to make realistic in lighter tones has driven some of the style. But -- you don't get the look with real wood .... we have become conditioned to see some of these floors as "real" when they are fake.