I highly doubt its scammers at it is just distrustful old guys. A lot of these guys here are still figuring out how paypal works. I've done several online transactions on GJ and PM where I just sent the guy a check because that's the only way the deal would happen.
I do hope you find the deal that you're looking for, but I'm here to tell you that they don't just fall into your lap. I mean, they do, but very very rarely.
All good deals I have gotten on tools and equipment came through beating the bushes and going to sales. And I get the whole not having time thing, I do. That's why if I want something bad enough, I typically just buy it new because I can't take the time to hunt one down for a swinging deal. But, I still make time for a few auctions a year.
A lot on auctions are online, and you can do them from the comfort of your home. I bet there is a local auctionhouse that does consignments not too far from you. They're everywhere. The one near me has a sale every thursday, and there are deals to be had.