you need a wet leg on the large tank, and then you need a hose with a fitting that fits the tank to be filled,
on the BBq tanks there is a small screw on the valve area that vents the tank, one hook up the hose and opens up the liquid valve, on the large tank and valve, on the small tank and then one opens up the vent a little, as it fills one will see vapor coming out of the vent, as it fills it will start to spurt liquid, and when full it will be liquid, coming out of the vent, shut off the valve, and the vent and the fill line, your tank will be filled to it proper capacity,
the new tanks with the flat in them is harder to fill, as the float messes with the filling, the old tanks are much better,
the older tractor tanks were filled the same way by venting and transferring the liquid,