I think i'm going to go with setting up the primary /secondary how do i decided what size circulator's will i need?
I think this is a good plan, and you can use your tempering valve just to protect the floor piping from overtemp.
Since your boiler is oversized, you should be able to assure that there is hot flow in the primary loop to protect the boiler.
You size your circulators based on a desired temperature drop and a desired BTU load ( since the delta t x flow is basically your BTUs). So you need to verify your desired BTU output, decide on a 20-30 degree delta t and then calculate the flow required to supply your needed BTUs. Use a larger flow in your primary loop, and your return temps will be higher than your floor return temps.
So, for example you want 28000btu=500x20xgpm. Gpm=2.8.
Now figure out your head loss from your pipes.
Now look up a circulator that gives about 2.8gpm at that head pressure.
Since you have the power, I would size for more than the min BTUs you need, but you get the idea.
One thing to consider is how you will be using the system. If you are going to repeatedly start from very cold floors, it makes sense to take every precaution to protect the boiler from cold returns( say with a second valve). If you are going to heat all the time, you can focus on returns near 60-70 degrees and calculate the amount of hot boiler water needed to be mixed with that to get above your 120-140 condensing bogie - size your primary circulator to provide that extra flow above what the floor will e returning.