I can tell you about my system...
Old school boilers and baseboard heat need the water to be hot, generally in the 160-180F range. RFH need the water to be cooler. For my example, with hardwood floors throughout, my RFH feed is at about 118F and the RFH return is about 110F.
I have an oil boiler (Burnham/Beckett combo) for my whole house RFH and domestic hot water. Closed loop. For the RFH I used a Tekmar controller with a 4-way mixing valve. A thermocouple on each floor's RFH loop
feed manifold and another on the loop
return manifold will show the delta-T for each floor system. I have ten loops on my 1st floor and eight on my second floor. Each floor is serviced by it's own RFH manifold, each manifold by its own Taco circulating pump. The "on the wall" thermostats on each floor feed into the Tekmar box. The Tekmar box also feed a control box by Sweet Controls, it has relays to allow the signal from the low voltage t-stats to power the 120v Taco pumps.
If there is a demand for heat from the T-stat, the Tekmar controller signals the respective Taco pump to circulate. Once the water is circulating, if the RFH water temp (from the thermocouple) falls below its setpoint (say 118F) , the Tekmar can adjust the 4-way mixing valve so more 160F boiler water is added to 110F (roughly) water returning from the RFH manifold to raise the outgoing RFH water to 118F.
If the boiler's water gets too cool as a result, the boiler's own aquastat causes the burner to light, replenishing the boiler water back up to 160F.
So my temperature control for the RFH is after the boiler and before the manifold, and it's done with a 4-way mixing valve that is controlled by a Tekmar controller.
Each loop (10 loops on the 1st floor and 8 loops on the 2nd floor) on my manifold has an individual flow adjustment. So even though each loop is getting the same temp water, I can adjust the volume of water flowing through that loop to fine tune the temperatures in the rooms that those loops feed.
I set my system up when I built the house back in 1995. I've tweaked the loop flows just a couple of times over the years, once to fine tune the house as a whole, the other when my kids moved out and I choked their bedroom loops down.
The setup has been pretty much bulletproof through 25+ years of New England (also in CT) winters.
You may not NEED a controller like the Tekmar controller, there might be better ways to run a system today. But I think it'd be advantageous to have some sort of mixing valve to drop the water temp off the boiler from 160F down to a more RFH friendy temperature. A 4-way valve could do that, either automated or manual. Manual, you could monitor the system temperatures during the first winter and manually adjust the valve yourself to get to a Goldilocks setting where the outflow to your feed manifold is at 118F (or what you need). That single valve setting might be pretty good 80% of the time, maybe the water would run a little warm 10% of the time, and maybe a little cool 10% of the time.
There are other ways to do it, I'd venture with RFH being much more common today than back when I built my house that there are better or simpler ways. I installed my system before I had access to the informational wonders of the interweb.
Edit to add photos. The blue box "bolted" to the front of the Tekmar 4-way mixing valve is a Tekmar motorized actuator. Without that the valve would be adjusted manually.
Not sure if any of this will help, but this is how I DIY'd my system back in 1995.