how is that? they provide a softstart function limiting startup current and stress on the motor. How are they not true 3ph? They use a 3ph inverter to create the output to the motor. (note: I have not looked at the waveform of the output of one on a scope)
I've looked at the 3 phase coming off my Boston Fincor VFD(driven with single phase), and it looks a hell of alot better than most "real" 3 phase.
Unless you spend big bucks on a rotary convertor most of them are a far cry from "real" 3 phase too.
As far as being "hard" on 3 phase motors, if that's the case there's alot of 3 phase motors out there that are about to smoke. Look around the typical factory these days, except for fan motors and other basic operations, 3 phase motors in most automated machines are running very happily off of VFD's. Open the control cabinets and you'll find a host of VFDs right along side the PLCs, or integrated into the PLCs.
My vote is for the VFD.....