John: i have to disagree with the pumping of a septic tank every 3-4 years because if nothing is put down the drains that won't decompose you are taking away all the critters that eat the ****. Maybe a skimming or inspection every few years to see that the kids or guests didn't flush something into the tank like a toy or plastic/rubber product is a good idea and skim it off.
I'd have the septic tank pumped every 3-4 years. I live with the former State of NC Deputy Director of the State Health Dept. It's good practice to clean out the tank. They do not clean out all the "critters" they get the sludge that builds at the bottom of the tank out. It keeps it so there's more room for liquid storage, this promotes better "critter feeding." I've learned a LOT about public health from her. I used to just cook chicken, turkeys and pigs until they "looked right" and then met her and was introduced to cooking with a thermometer. I found out I was cooking things too long. As with septic systems and other related issues, I've learned most things are in the publics best interest. You need a reserve area in the event a present system fails, it's for your protection as well as the publics. If it does fail, you are the one with the problem, if raw sewage becomes present, yes they can condemn the property and cut all services to it. Connecting to a public system is the best option, but it might not be the cheapest. I'd do a little more research into getting a connection, that does sound awful high for a sewer line connection. Another option you have, go to the next level above local, go to the State level for the health department there for opinions and options. When we built the shop I'm in now, we wanted to do a small tank with grinder pump and pump to the house septic system and were told we could not. At that time she was retired from the state. She then asked for a state review of the local assessment and for options. The option was to install a 1200 gallon two stage tank, with a grinder pump and pump to the house system so i could have a bathroom in the shop. Reason for a 1200 gallon tank was in the event of a long term power outage, it would have the reserve capacity to hold affluent until power was restored. with the small tank it would overflow in a day or two. I'm glad we went that route. A tornado hit and took part of the shop down and i didn't get power back until it was rebuilt... six months later. Once a week I'd pump the system down with a generator. I joke about the $9000 bathroom...