Soldering a copper joint:
As in any heat applied science, welding, brazing, soldering, even ironing a crisp white shirt the main and fundamental skill is the application of heat.
Soldering a copper joint and ironing a crisp white shirt are almost exactly similar. Too much heat you wreck the shirt, same as a copper joint.
The first and most wrong thing that is done when soldering copper is the choosing of the heating device or torch. In the olden days an acetylene torch was used. We would have a bunch of different tips to choose from, we received a nice narrow easy to control flame pattern from this torch. The price of and handling of acetylene rendered this set up almost obsolete and expensive to use, I still use this for lead pan and flashing work.
We then gravitated to propane, and MAPP gas systems which we have to induce or inject air into using a venturi to get a clean burn. Without the clean burn we blow carbon out of the tip and foul our joint. When buying a torch you should invest in multiple tips, you can not easily use just one size. I use the little MAPP set up from the home store with the small bottle for 95% of my work.
The next thing you need to under stand is the actual heat out put of your device. Turn on your torch, hold the flame safely so as to view it. It looks like a little rocket ships flame trail. Look at all of those pretty colors. Remember ROY G BIV? Look at the torch, hey there he is, the spectral colors, ROYGBIV is the color of the heat emissions that create visible light. Red being the coolest, Violet being the hottest. On a torch that produces a flame temperature of 2200 F that temperature would occur at violet. At red the temperature would be perhaps 700F. The solder you are using has an application temperature of 450 on average. If you heat the joint with violet you are at 2200F, Well you get a very short window of application time at 2200F, RIGHT? So we take and feather and play our heat, watching which color of the spectrum we are applying to the work, we watch the flux for indicators, if we go to opaque too quickly we pull the flame back and feather our heat away from the joint, this stops the heating and we can allow the heat to dissipate a bit and perhaps even apply just a touch of red or yellow cooler spectrum heat. Play it, it is an art form. Can you add a bit of flux to the surface, yes, but only if the flux has not browned.
The one strange trick that physics works upon our world is capillary attraction. You saw this in second grade science class. Two panes of glass held tightly together are placed on a flat container of water and up the water goes into the gap between the glass.
Another physics trick is that liquids can be drawn towards a heat source.
The combination of these two feats of physics allow us to solder a joint cup upside down. The joint must be uniformly hot enough to accept the filler metal as a liquid, the heat is applied sparingly and consciously to the back of the cup, feathering it in the heat range, the liquid filler metal will then be drawn into the joint by both principles and you will see that the joint is full by witnessing a small filler droplet that is not allowed in to the joint cup. You may then if you wish allow the joint to cool and reapply a small bit of heat to only the droplet and detail that in for appearance. You should then wipe the joint with a warm moist dedicated cloth to neutralize the flux and clean the joint. You should not apply cooling water to the joint until it air cools to under 150 F or you may fracture the solder joint by shocking it.
As I say practice it, none of us were born walking either.