Well the issue is almost over.
PoCo Project Manager sized transformer for 200 amp. Load calc came out to 150ish but they bumped to 200.
The issue is the county issues electrical permits. This is zoned AG100 - no house in sight. The county limits to 60 amp, frequently they will up that to 100 and very rarely to 200, because there is no house. There thinking is they don't want to enable people to live on the land without all the proper permits and structures in place.
To get the meter permit, friend had to also pay for an address permit. Can't have a meter without an address

Of course mail is not delivered way out there, but that's not the point I guess.
Usually the process is electrical permit, then PoCo comes in to size and install based on the permit. Friend went to PoCo first, then permit process. If the permit was denied, he would have a $12k pole and transformer and no power!
His thinking is main breaker will be for the permit, and then change out as needed.
There are no other properties using this new transformer, nor will there ever be.
Thanks