Sorry, I thought it was obvious what I was talking about when I specified that I was using a rotary tool: a smaller, handheld power tool with a 1/8" shank that has lots of different type of bits that can be used to various tasks such as buffing, polishing, material removal, etc. I don't own a Dremel brand, but that's what everyone seems to call them. Here's a photo for you:

Note the missing bristles. I think slowing it down will help (thanks for the tip!), but it seems to me if a tool is made to go a certain RPM, it should work at that RPM.
I was hoping someone would tell me what a good brand of small wire wheels is so I can buy them. My research has pointed to Weiler, but I thought I'd ask around here and see if anyone had another brand, or could confirm from experience that Weiler was a good choice. Hope that help clarify things for everyone.