I need to take a step back and remember that this is just a workbench. You may end up with gaps and uneven surfaces using only tie rods to hold the wood together, but if that doesn't matter for the type of work being done on the bench, then I would just proceed as planned.
If you had a thick, butcher block type surface (flat, smooth, no gaps) in mind, then you will need to glue it together - tie rods alone won't do the trick. One thing to remember is that a 4" thick oak top will be extremely durable, I can't imagine the type of work you would be doing on it to necessitate the replacement of an entire board. When it does get damaged to a point where you need to repair it, you could simply flip it over, or track down an industrial sized planer and resurface it. You could shave 1/4" off the slab 8 times before you'd get to 2" thick, which is still plenty of material to make a strong bench top.
The thing to remember about wood is that no matter what you do to constrain it, the wood always wins, or destroys itself in the process. The best plan is to accept that its going to move and accommodate for it. The Dude abides man, the Dude abides.