Great parenting philosophy, Mike.
I also like your bike safety approach. I ride with the assumption that every other vehicle on the road is out to get me. I'm constantly looking for the escape path, if idiot 1 does 'X,' I do 'Y' - it is all about anticipation of the expected and the unexpected. While we cant remove risk from riding, we can stack risk factors in our favor. I also have some non negotiable rules:
Bad Attitude - If I am mentally tuned up or hot, I'll avoid the bike.
Alcohol - I don't imbibe if the bike is in the picture.
Rain - not by choice at least. When it happens, I take it slow and methodical.
Night - Bike are seemingly invisible in the daylight; moreso at night. Even with auxiliary lighting.
There are other things I do as well, but these primary triggers mean the bike stays in the 'barn' so to speak. With the proliferation of distracted driving, when I ride, it's a beeline to get out of town where there are fewer cars, and therefore fewer unaware idiots.
Thank you.
I completely agree with your riding approach. Rather than just saying being a defensive driver, I like to look at it as risk avoidance and to further extend, have a "plan B" or "exit strategy" when riding through various situations. At first it is consciously training your mind to think in terms of "if driver at intersection does ***, then I will do YYY." After a while it becomes a habit and you begin doing it subconsciously as it has become second nature.
Along the same lines, I feel very fortunate that in all my years of riding I have never had an accident on a bike nor even had to make an emergency maneuver or even a "close call." I was talking with a co-worker a couple of months ago when I first put my bike up for sale and he didn't believe me when I told him that. He was explaining about how many close calls he's had and had to lay it down a couple of times and he had only been riding about ten years.
I shared with him one thing I told my son's friend back in high school when my son purchased his first bike, a Buell, was that if you have had multiple accidents in a car or tickets maybe a bike is not the best next step. Also, like
@Trapps philosophy about never getting on the bike mad or upset. The bike used to be a stress reliever for me, however, if I came home from work pissed off on in a foul mood, the bike was NOT an option until I cooled off a bit and had a clearer head on my shoulders. Some people may think it's macho or cool to ride aggressively in that manner but not when you're trying not to end up in a body bag as you are just rolling the dice. I also don't like to ride at night or in the rain if I can at all avoid it. Granted there are times when it is completely unavoidable but only as a last resort.
In the summer months when it is hot and a storm rolls in quickly I have been known to pull off under an overpass for a 15-20 minute break to either let the rain stop or at bare minimum let the oil slick that seems to form at the onset of a thunderstorm on hot asphalt to clean itself off somewhat before continuing.
As for alcohol, I don't drink and haven't had a drink since my son was born so that isn't a hard one for me but I strongly agree with it for those who do partake of adult beverages.
The wife and I were going over Mirror Lake Highway (Highway 150) between Wyoming and Utah a few months ago and for those who have not driven this, I highly recommend it as it is freakin' gorgeous. Goes up over the Uinta Mountains with mountain lakes such as Mirror Lake, Trial Lake, Lilly Lake and a multitude of other small kettle lakes and this time of year in particular with the leaves changing it is breathtaking. We like to stop in Kamas, UT which is a little hole in the wall town at the bottom of the Mirror Lake Highway and have pizza at Summit Pizza, which is fantastic pizza. We used to like this ride on the bike but the past couple of years we've just taken the truck or Jeep on this road. Anyways, we were on the highway a few months ago and four motorcycles (looked liked BMW touring bikes) zipped past us at a relatively high rate of speed and as they cut back in front of us in the Jeep a deer ran across the road and went between riders 3 and 4. Rider # 4 locked up the brakes and skid across onto the oncoming lane, which luckily no one was occupying but to his credit he kept the bike upright and didn't hit the deer. How? I have no idea but my wife and I both thought it was over for him and couldn't figure out how he missed the deer. At that point I am certain his heart was pounding and yet he continued on. Personally, in a situation like that I probably would have pulled over and regained my composure to ensure my mind was right before continuing on but they didn't seem to slow down one bit. They were a spec in the distance in no time.