Fiance' says garage is too big.....

[LoRollinLS]

Tell her that the garage thinks that she is too big.

 

[mikey531]

Gentleman, I fear we have all missed the most important factor in this discussion...

How hot is said fiancée???

I have read all the relationship issues and there are none here. All she said I don't care how big you make the garage it just has to look good from the outside. That is why I was asking about a rendering, a member has offered to draw one for me, and I have found a style she really likes, and I can make it 36 X 40. The other advantage is, there is a water problem that the water from the street runs into the cellar one car garage. By building the garage on that side of the house and changing the driveway (corner lot) to the other street, stops all the water problems. We are old enough to know what we want and actually talk, discuss and compromise to stay happy. In all honesty I could not have found a better best friend and future wife. I am posting some pictures so you can decide if she is hot.

 

[Drunken Yak inc]

I have read all the relationship issues and there are none here. All she said I don't care how big you make the garage it just has to look good from the outside. That is why I was asking about a rendering, a member has offered to draw one for me, and I have found a style she really likes, and I can make it 36 X 40. The other advantage is, there is a water problem that the water from the street runs into the cellar one car garage. By building the garage on that side of the house and changing the driveway (corner lot) to the other street, stops all the water problems. We are old enough to know what we want and actually talk, discuss and compromise to stay happy. In all honesty I could not have found a better best friend and future wife. I am posting some pictures so you can decide if she is hot.

I'd say she's hot

 

[Mr_fixit]

Re: Fiancee' says garage is too big.....

Here is my story, I had a 24 x 26 and a 30 x 30 garage at my house in Maine. I sold my house and moved in with my future wife in southern New Hampshire. Our plan was to find a house with a big garage or land enough to build one. Everything we looked at was still priced way too high. So I decided to see how big of a garage I could build onto her house. The lot is grandfathered and I can build a 36 x 40 garage and meet all zoning codes. Now she is having second thoughts about the garage being too big? I didn't know you could build a garage too big? I have taken some pictures of garage styles and found one she likes but I think if I could find someone who could do a rendering of her house with the garage so she could see it would look ok. Any thoughts, comments or ideas?
Thanks
Mike

I'd get rid of her now and don't look back. She's trouble.

 

[mpire]

Yeah, throw her back.

 

[FXDawg]

you have to be careful...you don't want to overpower the house with a "garage"....Now, a "carriage house" on the other hand...

Seriously, it is about context and curb appeal. dont just tack on a big box. Match the style and keep it looking like it belongs in your neighborhood.

post some pics of her house dude!

 

[IONH]

Was I the only one who thought OP was a sub-30 year old with this type of problem!

 

[rsa]

An architect can do exactly what you are looking for, but they get expensive quick.

Given the stakes, maybe consulting with a professional is the best course for the OP+1? Assuming you find the right architect, it would be good money spent, IMO. The best money I ever spent was hiring a consulting forester to manage my timber sale instead of trying to do it myself.

So why not ask one what they think? Up front cost is an e-mail. Katie Hutchison offers online consulting. She publishes design articles in Fine Homebuilding Magazine and the Journal of Light Construction among other. Here's one article, Designing garages with living space above. One at jlconline.com is Design: Giving Freestanding Garages Their Due (subscription required).

She also has an "Ask Katie" feature where she answers online. One question posed was,

Q: I’m currently remodeling my 1960s single-story ranch home. My question is whether you think it’s possible to add an attached garage (with living space above) without dwarfing the original box-type ranch? I believe that I’m constrained by the original 6/12 pitch of my ranch and the height needed for living space above the garage.

See her answer here.

 

[mpire]

As a professionally trained Architect, I can tell you that your probably going to waste your money on one. (I have a 5 year degree in Architecture, but I never practiced because it pays ****.)

I would tell you that you will be running up against the whole idea that its "HER" house. She is going to have problems thinking of it as your house too. The longer she has lived there, the stronger the feelings.

I ran into this with my wife after we got married. She never really felt that my place was ours.

I told her to go find a house she liked, that we could afford, and that had at least a 3 car garage.

She found it, I bought it, and we couldn't be happier, but now I need a bigger garage.

You have to think of marriage as a partnership. Women are emotional and rationally idiots, so just make sure that she feels like she is part of the decisions.

I tell my wife everything. She never listens, but that's her fault and not mine.

 

[BevoZ06]

I have read all the relationship issues and there are none here. All she said I don't care how big you make the garage it just has to look good from the outside. That is why I was asking about a rendering, a member has offered to draw one for me, and I have found a style she really likes, and I can make it 36 X 40. The other advantage is, there is a water problem that the water from the street runs into the cellar one car garage. By building the garage on that side of the house and changing the driveway (corner lot) to the other street, stops all the water problems. We are old enough to know what we want and actually talk, discuss and compromise to stay happy. In all honesty I could not have found a better best friend and future wife. I am posting some pictures so you can decide if she is hot.

Who is the old man with the attractive young woman? Keep us posted on your eventual plan and construction. It will be interesting to see what the two of you decide on.

 

[FXDawg]

As a professionally trained Architect, I can tell you that your probably going to waste your money on one. (I have a 5 year degree in Architecture, but I never practiced because it pays ****.)

I would tell you that you will be running up against the whole idea that its "HER" house. She is going to have problems thinking of it as your house too. The longer she has lived there, the stronger the feelings.

I ran into this with my wife after we got married. She never really felt that my place was ours.

I told her to go find a house she liked, that we could afford, and that had at least a 3 car garage.

She found it, I bought it, and we couldn't be happier, but now I need a bigger garage.

You have to think of marriage as a partnership. Women are emotional and rationally idiots, so just make sure that she feels like she is part of the decisions.

I tell my wife everything. She never listens, but that's her fault and not mine.

I agree with the architectural thing as I too, am professionally trained as an architect with a 5 year BARCH degree. ...and, I too, do not practice for the same pay related reasons. I figure I'll get into it upon retirement as a subsidized income thing.

As for the house thing, My Fiance moved into my house which I designed and built before we met. It wasn't completely done and she helped with the finishing touches. We are quite happy in the house and no "mine/yours" issues. However that may be because she had some input. I never did get the garage built and still long for one!!

 

[tkiranch]

just let her know that her diamond ring is too big, and she should allow you to get a smaller one. That way it would put it in perspective for her.

 

[Kevin54]

I have read all the relationship issues and there are none here. All she said I don't care how big you make the garage it just has to look good from the outside. That is why I was asking about a rendering, a member has offered to draw one for me, and I have found a style she really likes, and I can make it 36 X 40. The other advantage is, there is a water problem that the water from the street runs into the cellar one car garage. By building the garage on that side of the house and changing the driveway (corner lot) to the other street, stops all the water problems. We are old enough to know what we want and actually talk, discuss and compromise to stay happy. In all honesty I could not have found a better best friend and future wife. I am posting some pictures so you can decide if she is hot.

Can't tell by small pics. They need to be larger, and get your mug out of them.

Oh...and pics of the truck(s) are required also!!!

 

[Nighttrain]

This is a tuff crowd! Mike don't take all of our remarks serious except Kevins, I agree get your old mug out of those pictures and post more of the truck and your future bride. Congrats to you and her!

 

[usafmora]

Man I mean this in a nice way, your not getting any younger so do what you have to do to have her and a shop. When its late and you cant reach the remote and she just laughs at you that will be the time you regret listening to us. Hell I cant tie my own shoes some morings, those are the days Im thankfull for my wife, then my shop. Its lonley when your old or disabled. Now if your rich get a young ****** and party on.

 

[bazzateer]

You'll miss her..

Depends on his aim....................

 

[ITSWILL]

Was I the only one who thought OP was a sub-30 year old with this type of problem!

I was right there with you.

 

[mikey531]

I forgot about this thread! I have almost all the outside done, I will update with a new photo this weekend. Here is the buiild thread:

http://www.garagejournal.com/forum/showthread.php?t=191173

 

[jkherd]

A garage too big??? There is no such thing!

 

[jabberwoki]

by by fiance!

 

[bull_duck]

... We are quite happy in the house and no "mine/yours" issues. However that may be because she had some input. ...

that is the key. it cannot be your garage and her house. It must become "our" house and become "our garage".What des she need in order to "buy into" the garage idea? Looks like a carriage house? Has a really big "her" closet? includes a pantry, and a luxo bath with bidet. My wife's closet is bigger than the house where I was born. She will never relocate; what would she do with her decorator upholstered closet settee.

now to make her house your house too; you get an 80" HDTV in the house, with awsome surround sound.

 

[NUTTSGT]

A garage too big??? There is no such thing!

by by fiance!

I think you guys should go back and click the link on his post bringing this thread back. He got his garage and it looks nice.

 

[Kevin54]

that is the key. it cannot be your garage and her house. It must become "our" house and become "our garage".What des she need in order to "buy into" the garage idea? Looks like a carriage house? Has a really big "her" closet? includes a pantry, and a luxo bath with bidet. My wife's closet is bigger than the house where I was born. She will never relocate; what would she do with her decorator upholstered closet settee.

now to make her house your house too; you get an 80" HDTV in the house, with awsome surround sound.

I'm seeing someone needs to go to therapy

 

[Jsf721]

It's a good thing you found out before you got married-you would only be left with half a garage if your lucky--

 

[dubber]

Well she guaranteed herself of not getting a title upgrade.

 

[Modifieddriver]

I still think he's in over his head!!!

 

[Herb]

Register here...
http://www.yellowbullet.com/forum/forumdisplay.php?f=11

and ask the guys there..
They will definitely tell you how to handle this situation.

Absolutely!

 

[Herb]

I appreciate all the advice, She will accept any size garage as long as it looks good from the outside. I should have been clearer what I needed. I have found garage styles and facades that she likes. I just need a rendering so I can show her what I picture it to look like attached to our house. She has said she just can't visualize what it will look like. I read all the relationship advice and this is the second for both of us. I am in the twilight of my years so longevity isn't an issue. My only son lives 1000 miles away so that isn't a problem. The only issue is finding someway for her to visualize what it will look like.
Thanks

My wife is the same way. I can have a completed project- wait, in my case that may be an oxymoron- in my mind and try to describe it, but it just isn't that easy for her.

 

[mikey531]

Update, She loves the garage ! The whole neighborhood likes it , I have had people going by and stop and say how nice it looks. I did let her put some curtains up... here is a link to my build thread. I will have more pictures after the driveway is paved and the cabinets are up.

http://www.garagejournal.com/forum/showthread.php?t=191173

 

[SpiderGearsMan]

Southern NH is a Boston Suburb
good luck

 

[NHBandit]

Southern NH is a Boston Suburb
good luck

This ^^^^^^^^^^^ is why I left.. East Tennessee is heaven on earth and I wish I had moved here 20 years ago instead of ******* away several thousand bucks paying property taxes to support a town that dosn't give a rats *** about the families who have lived there for generations. I was born in NH and lived in the same house up there for 32 years until 2 years ago. NH can KMA... Flatlanders moved there to "get away" from the city bs but forgot to leave their city attitudes at home. If you're a Maine native you'll learn to hate it too.. All the best. You'll need it.

 

[ddawg16]

Man, this really *****.....we don't get to use the "Bang the Wife" phrase.....

Ok....getting serious now....we need some pics...

 

[softailgarage]

RUN. Run like Forrest Gump and dont look back (you might turn to a pillar of salt). I can hear it already and I dont even know her, "This is MY house and you will do as I say". GTFO.... Hurry, what are you waiting for?

 

[softailgarage]

Nevermind, Too late

 

[mikey531]

Use the link on post 109

 

[srmofo]

I forgot about this thread! I have almost all the outside done, I will update with a new photo this weekend. Here is the buiild thread:

http://www.garagejournal.com/forum/showthread.php?t=191173

I like it. It adds some dimension to the other wise square box style house. (No offense meant)

 

[PhantomEB]

I MUST be the lucky one, my girl knows and insists I build my shop as big as I can within reason. So in the area we are lookin I should be able to squeeze in a 24 or 26 wide on the lot, pushed up against the one side as close as I can to code for the property line then leave 30"-36"wide from property line to garage for access to the back lane. She gets one spot to park her minivan and whatever I workin on gets the other side. NO garden tools etc in there, thats what the under deck shed is for.

 

[ddawg16]

I MUST be the lucky one, my girl knows and insists I build my shop as big as I can within reason. So in the area we are lookin I should be able to squeeze in a 24 or 26 wide on the lot, pushed up against the one side as close as I can to code for the property line then leave 30"-36"wide from property line to garage for access to the back lane. She gets one spot to park her minivan and whatever I workin on gets the other side. NO garden tools etc in there, thats what the under deck shed is for.

A girl that appreciates 'size does matter'.....

 

[Modifieddriver]

This ^^^^^^^^^^^ is why I left.. East Tennessee is heaven on earth and I wish I had moved here 20 years ago instead of ******* away several thousand bucks paying property taxes to support a town that dosn't give a rats *** about the families who have lived there for generations. I was born in NH and lived in the same house up there for 32 years until 2 years ago. NH can KMA... Flatlanders moved there to "get away" from the city bs but forgot to leave their city attitudes at home. If you're a Maine native you'll learn to hate it too.. All the best. You'll need it.

Pretty much the same reasons I left upstate New York in 1977. At that time I was paying TWICE the amount of taxes that I'm paying now in 2013 for a house that was worth 1/2 as much (probably now about 1/3) as what I have now in South Carolina. I can only imagine what my old NY home place is being taxed 35 years later.

And here once you turn 65 you get tax relief on the first $50k of the assessed property value. That means my next tax bill will be even less than it is now.

AND now New York State has the stones to run TV ads that they are now a business friendly state. What a crock of BS. They ran manufacturing business out of the state, along with skilled workers and fixed income retirees and the proceeded to tax the residents left into financial oblivion to compensate for the tax income short fall.

The folks in charge of New York have their heads 150 miles up their *******. The ******* being NYC and where their heads are is in Albany, the state capitol, 150 miles straight up the Hudson River sewer.

Another day I'll tell ya' how I really feel about New York State.

 

[reman]

Time to look for a new fiance......once you compromise on the garage.........it will all be downhill.........LOL

Jim nailed it. New fiancé definitely in order. Tell you you have checked it out with "those in the know", LOL