RapidTap works best for lube. On the threads shearing - are you trying to thread schedule 40 pipe? If so, you need to be using schedule 80. Schedule 40 is too thin to thread properly and is prone to failure if you do manage to thread it.
Huh?? I have been threading schedule 40 black pipe for 2 decades without issue to it thickness.
Issues with threads shearing in my experience is due to crappy Chinese or Turkish pipe. I have seen some so bad it was impossible to cleanly thread even with new dies, pull out a scrap of takeoff american pipe and it would thread cleanly with no issues.
We save all take off pipe now to make smaller sections and *******. Either way dark cutting oil does help, atf is way to thin and imagine no sulfur.
Also with the crappy chinese pipe/fittings we have to dope/tape/dope to get it to seal.
We finally got work to buy ward fittings but it is damn difficult to get american made pipe apparently now.