I have been married 41 years. Would you guys tell me what the main reasons for divorce is.I seriously would like to hear. Please dont offer if you have not been divorced.
Money and ambition, If there is neither in a marriage, it won't last.
Money is the #1 argument in a marriage, and I think Ambition, or lack of is the #2 cause for arguments.
In my first marriage, I always wanted more out of life. By that I mean I wanted a decent house, a decent car, but nothing high end. I was working a job as a Setup Man and Groupleader making a whopping $5/hr. on second shift. My ex was working second shift at another factory making $10.50/hr. We had just bought a house and signed for it the day before she told me she got fired. She was off on medical, and the day she was SUPPOSED to go back to work, she didn't. The Union Rep said that they would fight it and she could get her job back. She didn't want to fight it and told me "You know that I don't like factory work"
So who has to get a second job to try and make ends meet?
When we divorced, I owed $28,000 on a house that was worth $90,000. This was in 1990. She got the house. When she sold the house, and was moving out of state, she owed $65,000 on it, and sold it for $65,000 so she could get out of paying anymore on it and she could move. Where the **** her math ever came from is beyond me. She has filed bankruptcy twice, but yet has had decent jobs.
The ex and I went around so many times fighting about money, and I was tired of working 2 and three jobs at a time trying to make ends meet, and the bills paid on time. My dad and I had a side business of painting cars and repairing collision damage, I would do remodeling on homes, and I had a regular job. So yea, at times I could get in a very pissy mood, and she didn't care. If I even mentioned about her getting a job, **** would hit the fan. She tried to tell me that she had bouts of depression.
So money and ambition, or lack of, to me are two of the biggest reasons for divorce, and then fidelity comes into play. After fighting about the first two, one starts looking somewhere else for someone to get along with. *** also plays a huge part in a marriage, so I guess one could bundle that with fidelity. After a while, when couples fight over money, fight about the other being lazy, you surely aren't going to have any fun in the sack.
That's one thing about my wife now......there has never once, in the 24 years we have been married, ever got into an argument about anything. I cannot even recall any time that we even got into a heated discussion about money. Her and I both worked at the same shop, and we both put in a shitload of overtime, so we were always on top of things when it came to money. We have always been truthful with the other about everything. Even the bartender at the bar I used to go to with some coworkers in the past, she also lives down the road, and she told my wife on a few occasions that she married a hell of a guy and she would never have to worry about me with someone else. I never knew I was being reported on
My wife always told me that if a spouse is always happy at home, then there is no reason to stray.
. but you made it longer than me 
Good for you! Can't stand people like that... she doesn't get that she already scalped you for what she did (sorry, I look at Alimony as scalping money - she should learn how to stand up on her own 2 feet, damnit...) and no longer has her hand in your pocket to try to wheedle, whine, or coerce any more, and thinks somehow she can sweet talk you into paying, and paying, and paying... after you're already paying and paying and paying.