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Bill, you posted at 8:52 about getting things done but you are posting again at 12:08 roughly 3hr later??????? It looks like you have more than one addiction that you need to get past!! Did you accomplish anything productive in that time???? KEEP YOUR FOCUS!! Because you are beginning to loose our's.
Next time you come online, how about a progress pic? Would love to see a room totally cleaned out....
Red Leader
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Bill,
I'm still rootin' for ya, but at this point I will only be putting stock in updates with pictures, period.
one other thing:
water, sewage, heat > cleaning stuff up around the bed
I'm still rootin' for ya, but at this point I will only be putting stock in updates with pictures, period.
one other thing:
water, sewage, heat > cleaning stuff up around the bed
NJHandyGuy
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mdbeck1
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I'll agree with one addition.... Property taxes...
Bill, if I was you I'd post a pic of the cellar tomorrow morning and pic of it empty that evening (or at least the progress toward empty). Pics of your trailer loaded down with paint to go to the hazardous waste would be applauded. That will get a good start on getting your big problems started.
I seem to remember you implied that the house was paid for. Once you get things where people could get in you can always take out a home equity loan and have someone put a roof on your house and help you with the heat, water, and other mechanicals. You could also use the home equity loan to pay your property taxes as well. Just remember that you need to pay that home equity loan off.
Remember also that having someone else do some of the work is not cheating. There is an element of time. You can probably put a roof on yourself but you won't get it done in less time than a crew.
A home equity loan requires an appraisal. Usually they will inspect the premises. No bank is going to lend money on a house with no functioning plumbing or heat. There is little equity for the bank if they need to foreclose.
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The dogs are at a relatives home until we get this fixed. And we aren't breeding. We had an accidental surprise litter (My first ever). Dogs are getting fixed. Dogs are her babies...they get better treatment than me!
There are a few overstatements on peoples posts about the conditions that I've let go until now, but need to be addressed. Toilets flush. Water is now hooked up through a neighbor. A temporary heating unit is operating. 5 rooms are now half empty. Things are a lot different than 2 months, or even 2 weeks ago. But no room is empty or completely cleaned up and organized. Financial's aren't desperate. We should have enough to pay the taxes on time, with time to spare. I will be getting health coverage starting with the new year and will be taking full advantage of it and getting her to do the same. Car is getting fixed. Did tuneup and put 4 new tires on for the winter. Brakes next. Got the parts for the fuse panel and am looking into putting in a breaker panel. Roof leaks aren't major. I will be doing a temporary fix tomorrow to get through the winter. It's a couple places where flashings were not done correctly and I will caulk and fix properly later. These things are happening because we are talking about things instead of ignoring them. What I will be ignoring more and more is this thread because I am juggling a lot of balls and working in a lot of areas of our lives and in a lot of rooms and parts of the house. I won't have breathing room to post and take lots of photos until later. No, I'm not going to have the basement cleaned out by tomorrow night, or any other room. Yes, I'm working on the bedroom because we sleep here 8 hours a day. I need to get all the dust gone so we can breathe. Took out 6 bags of clothes this evening and 4 boxes of books. Flipped the mattress and put clean sheets and pillow cases on. Tomorrow I'm going to clean out more of the spare bedroom and take some boxes of shoes into there from the bedroom. And so it goes.....
There are a few overstatements on peoples posts about the conditions that I've let go until now, but need to be addressed. Toilets flush. Water is now hooked up through a neighbor. A temporary heating unit is operating. 5 rooms are now half empty. Things are a lot different than 2 months, or even 2 weeks ago. But no room is empty or completely cleaned up and organized. Financial's aren't desperate. We should have enough to pay the taxes on time, with time to spare. I will be getting health coverage starting with the new year and will be taking full advantage of it and getting her to do the same. Car is getting fixed. Did tuneup and put 4 new tires on for the winter. Brakes next. Got the parts for the fuse panel and am looking into putting in a breaker panel. Roof leaks aren't major. I will be doing a temporary fix tomorrow to get through the winter. It's a couple places where flashings were not done correctly and I will caulk and fix properly later. These things are happening because we are talking about things instead of ignoring them. What I will be ignoring more and more is this thread because I am juggling a lot of balls and working in a lot of areas of our lives and in a lot of rooms and parts of the house. I won't have breathing room to post and take lots of photos until later. No, I'm not going to have the basement cleaned out by tomorrow night, or any other room. Yes, I'm working on the bedroom because we sleep here 8 hours a day. I need to get all the dust gone so we can breathe. Took out 6 bags of clothes this evening and 4 boxes of books. Flipped the mattress and put clean sheets and pillow cases on. Tomorrow I'm going to clean out more of the spare bedroom and take some boxes of shoes into there from the bedroom. And so it goes.....
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moonpool145
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Nice job Bill. Be assertive and tell people to piss off. Thats a take charge attitude and signifies progress.
Get aggressive, I am pulling for you.
Get aggressive, I am pulling for you.
MadMechMaster
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I sense a little bit of pride. You should feed it with more action. It's like you are re-lighting a fire that you had smothered years ago.
People are wanting to see pictures, probably because they each have time invested in reading this thread, and want to see that it has a good conclusion.
People are wanting to see pictures, probably because they each have time invested in reading this thread, and want to see that it has a good conclusion.
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Still supporting here! Good to see some things chaning. I'm pulling for ya.
Nice job Bill. Be assertive and tell people to piss off. Thats a take charge attitude and signifies progress.
Get aggressive, I am pulling for you.
I'm not telling people to piss off, but I am taking charge of this. I've got my own set of priorities and plan of action and I am going to follow it. Don't think I am avoiding the basement because I want to save anything down there. I will post photos, but not until there is substantial progress to show. Constant updates of small amounts of work just piss people off, and I don't need to take the time right now. So, I'll be in touch....later.
Grandad
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I can wait for pics.
When you're ready Bill.
Well the only thing us folks out in the this world wide web can do is help to keep you accountable. Pics are a sure fire way of showing progress (or lack thereof). I know that it's not a matter of taking the time to post the pics as you are on here several times a day anyways....
Keep on moving forward..........
Keep on moving forward..........
Guys, lets back off on the pictures. Bill says that he is making progress and he has not lied to anyone along this journey. So lets take his word for now and when he has something to be proud of he can post it. Everyone gets on him about getting things done but then wants him to spend valuable time "daily" taking and posting pictures of his progress to satisfy themselves. I for one would be happy with his word for now and when he can afford a few valuable minutes to post pictures he can proud of so be it.
KEEP AT IT BILL, This is about your pride not ours!
KEEP AT IT BILL, This is about your pride not ours!
Red Leader
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Just to clarify, I don't think anyone is asking Bill to take and post daily pictures of his progress, just that if he happens to make an update to post pictures along with it. It is relatively easy to post about getting a lot done, but the photos tell the more objective story. I don't think anyone is accusing Bill of falsifying information, but this thread has a history photographic revelation in the absence of words conveying the reality of the situation (i.e. Bill's first post and the post including pictures of his kitchen).
Since it was Bill's decision to take his intentions public and have a lot of folks congratulate and encourage him on it, I think pictures only serve to enhance what he is bringing to/asking from people, not detract from it.
Honestly, I think a lot of you all have some really unrealistic expectations for a turn-around here. Is Bill in a dire situation? Yes. How long has it taken him to get there? Most of his life, I would guess. Now you all expect him to turn around and completely change things over 3 months simply because he decided to post his situation and problems online? That's not the way it works except in movies and fairy tales. It was a long and slow process to get here, and to get back out won't happen overnight
I, for one, congratulate him on the progress he has made in the last few months. Moving forward, however slowly, is infinitely better than stagnating or moving back.
Bill, as long as each day you're trying to be and do better than the previous one, you have nothing to be ashamed of. I congratulate you for what you've done and hope you continue to better your situation.
Best of luck.
I, for one, congratulate him on the progress he has made in the last few months. Moving forward, however slowly, is infinitely better than stagnating or moving back.
Bill, as long as each day you're trying to be and do better than the previous one, you have nothing to be ashamed of. I congratulate you for what you've done and hope you continue to better your situation.
Best of luck.
csp
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Not really. The sun will be up an hour earlier in the morning.
We've been losing daylight since the 21st of June, just a little bit at a time.
This forum is made up of people that like to get up and get things done. 99.9% of the folks who start threads in the Garage Gallery do so to show progress on their project and the readers eat this stuff up......
Now here we have a long time poster who posts in the Gallery of his problems and dreams....Naturally we are all anxious to take him up on his request for help via donations, advice and a few good eggs even offered their services. Most of us are (or were) excited to help even after learning that the initial problem statement was a small part of the total problem.
The ball is clearly in Bill's court where things go from here.....It's just too bad we had so much momentum going a few weeks back and that so many hoped we'd be able to materially help.
Now here we have a long time poster who posts in the Gallery of his problems and dreams....Naturally we are all anxious to take him up on his request for help via donations, advice and a few good eggs even offered their services. Most of us are (or were) excited to help even after learning that the initial problem statement was a small part of the total problem.
The ball is clearly in Bill's court where things go from here.....It's just too bad we had so much momentum going a few weeks back and that so many hoped we'd be able to materially help.
And on that note...
On another forum Im on, a member there was killed in an accident on friday. The irony was there were a bunch of guys that were going to have a happy hour get together, that for a a number of reasons fell through and didn't happen. It has really opened our collective eyes that there is no guarantee of tomorrow. Make the most of today.
-Jeff
Getting up and getting things done hasn't been Bill's strongest suit up till now, but it does sound encouraging. It just seems that everytime Bill posts pictures he gets beat up by someone for not getting enough done. I would rather wait for the picture of a clean room or of a completed task so that the responses are positive and we can all smile and have a collective clap for the man who has asked for nothing more than our support.
He doesn't want to be treated with kid gloves but I believe that following through with a task will go a long way with the posters that feel the need for a negative comment toward his progress or lack there of.
Jeff, that is a sad story and have to agree that we all need to make the most of today.
In Bill's case spending every moment cleaning is not necessarily making the most of the day.
He doesn't want to be treated with kid gloves but I believe that following through with a task will go a long way with the posters that feel the need for a negative comment toward his progress or lack there of.
Jeff, that is a sad story and have to agree that we all need to make the most of today.
In Bill's case spending every moment cleaning is not necessarily making the most of the day.
markviii
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Every day's a blessing.
My best friend was diagnosed with two inoperable brain tumors (too close to the brain stem, apparently) last week. Her sisters thought she was having a stroke or something because she was suddenly having memory issues. They took her to the emergency room where an MRI was done right away after the emergency room doc gave her aspirin. When the results came back, they saw the tumors. She couldn't be scheduled for a biopsy until the aspirin was out of her system (because of possibility of bleeding). The biopsy was done yesterday. She'll be released to go to her sister's house tomorrow morning. We're waiting for the results so that a plan can be formulated to keep her as comfortable as possible for the duration. All the teachers/staff/students at school are praying. Every little bit helps. Miracles do happen.
I've been working more diligently on organizing my office and picture framing business records so my husband doesn't have to deal with it. I've let my filing and cleaning go lately while dealing with dad in hospice and apartment work. Bill's efforts have helped motivate me to get moving on these important things. I know Bill is making progress, too.
It's so easy to get trapped into thinking something can be put off until later. Since no one else knows about your "stuff", don't give others the additional burden of dealing with it when they have enough of their own stuff to deal with on top of a major loss (of you). That's my motivation now.
No one knows what the future holds.
Chris
My best friend was diagnosed with two inoperable brain tumors (too close to the brain stem, apparently) last week. Her sisters thought she was having a stroke or something because she was suddenly having memory issues. They took her to the emergency room where an MRI was done right away after the emergency room doc gave her aspirin. When the results came back, they saw the tumors. She couldn't be scheduled for a biopsy until the aspirin was out of her system (because of possibility of bleeding). The biopsy was done yesterday. She'll be released to go to her sister's house tomorrow morning. We're waiting for the results so that a plan can be formulated to keep her as comfortable as possible for the duration. All the teachers/staff/students at school are praying. Every little bit helps. Miracles do happen.
I've been working more diligently on organizing my office and picture framing business records so my husband doesn't have to deal with it. I've let my filing and cleaning go lately while dealing with dad in hospice and apartment work. Bill's efforts have helped motivate me to get moving on these important things. I know Bill is making progress, too.
It's so easy to get trapped into thinking something can be put off until later. Since no one else knows about your "stuff", don't give others the additional burden of dealing with it when they have enough of their own stuff to deal with on top of a major loss (of you). That's my motivation now.
No one knows what the future holds.
Chris
Kevin54
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I know very well what you mean Chris. I also know what it is like in the wake of a catastrophe of having to go through things that you have no idea of where it is, what it is, or what you need.
This thread, along with all of the life changing events that we had go on this year, has made me all the more bound and determined to get rid of things and get things organized so whomever everything goes to does not have the task of going through what we had to endure the last two years or longer. Unneeded paper work which I still have tons to go through. We did manage to get a huge safety deposit box and put all the valuables, wills, insurance papers in it. Something that we have had intentions to do but have neglected to do so for a long time. Both the wife and I have decided to get rid of the things that we no longer need or want and to simplify and enjoy what we do have. I think even the wife and I have not so much neglected, but maybe taken each other for granted for too long because one falls into a daily routine rut.
As you stated, no one knows what the future holds. I'm also sorry to hear about your father and for your best friend. It is a hard thing to endure. I know Tom will be beside you all the way with helping when you need it.
markviii
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"I think even the wife and I have not so much neglected, but maybe taken each other for granted for too long because one falls into a daily routine rut."
So true, Kevin. That certainly sums up the truth in this house! Knowing each other for 44 years (yep, since we were 14) does not mean we know everything about each other nor can we finish each others' thoughts all the time (most, but not all). And we were just talking about finally doing a will and powers of attorney (including health). The packet (courtesy of our friendly attorney) has been on the corner of our desk for the past 28 years, gathering dust but under our nose daily - we put it off even while I was helping both sides of the family cope with health issues, death and powers of attorney. (Obviously we're not alarmists thinking our world will end tomorrow. Our attitude, on the other hand, alarms our insurance agent when trying to sell us life insurance. )
Enough wistful/wishful thinking... no one's going to do it for me. Back to organizing paperwork and tossing stuff. Today, two schools will benefit from a donation of old matboard and discarded frames from my frame shop. I found 2 old lawn mowers that need to be taken to the local high school for the small engine class to rebuild. Lots to do before next Tuesday (self-imposed, realistic deadline before the next garbage pickup on Wednesday). Oh, and take the glass bin to the dumpster at the local glass company (they let me put it in their recycle bin so I don't have to put it in my regular garbage).
Bill. Take care of that cough (make sure to continue wearing a mask while sorting) and take it easy on the heavy lifting. A heating pad and ibuprofen might help. My family's orthopedic doc always told us to strengthen our abdominal muscles to help alleviate the back problems. My dad had back surgery to relieve extreme pain from degenerated disks. We all went through the exercise rehab routine with him to give him support. He went on to compete in Senior Olympics for 20 years along with 3 bowling leagues. We learned a lot during that process and it's motivated me to keep in shape through the years.
Well, back to work.
Chris
So true, Kevin. That certainly sums up the truth in this house! Knowing each other for 44 years (yep, since we were 14) does not mean we know everything about each other nor can we finish each others' thoughts all the time (most, but not all). And we were just talking about finally doing a will and powers of attorney (including health). The packet (courtesy of our friendly attorney) has been on the corner of our desk for the past 28 years, gathering dust but under our nose daily - we put it off even while I was helping both sides of the family cope with health issues, death and powers of attorney. (Obviously we're not alarmists thinking our world will end tomorrow. Our attitude, on the other hand, alarms our insurance agent when trying to sell us life insurance. )
Enough wistful/wishful thinking... no one's going to do it for me. Back to organizing paperwork and tossing stuff. Today, two schools will benefit from a donation of old matboard and discarded frames from my frame shop. I found 2 old lawn mowers that need to be taken to the local high school for the small engine class to rebuild. Lots to do before next Tuesday (self-imposed, realistic deadline before the next garbage pickup on Wednesday). Oh, and take the glass bin to the dumpster at the local glass company (they let me put it in their recycle bin so I don't have to put it in my regular garbage).
Bill. Take care of that cough (make sure to continue wearing a mask while sorting) and take it easy on the heavy lifting. A heating pad and ibuprofen might help. My family's orthopedic doc always told us to strengthen our abdominal muscles to help alleviate the back problems. My dad had back surgery to relieve extreme pain from degenerated disks. We all went through the exercise rehab routine with him to give him support. He went on to compete in Senior Olympics for 20 years along with 3 bowling leagues. We learned a lot during that process and it's motivated me to keep in shape through the years.
Well, back to work.
Chris
Bronson
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Unsubscribed. I wish I had back the hours I have wasted reading every post.
Bill, I haven't posted in here in a while, I was gone doing military stuff for a month. I read through all the posts I missed. There are a few things I wanted to say:
1. I'm disappointed that you didn't accept the help that was offered...but I can understand why you didn't accept it.
2. I know that you can get more done if you really push yourself.
3. I'm very happy to hear that Julie is coming on board to help you out.
4. I'm also happy to hear that you have a plan coming together.
and I have a few questions for you:
1. Why not focus on the basement when Julie is gone? By doing a hazardous waste run or two to get rid of the paint, and a couple of dump runs while she's at work, will get that area straightened out. Also, it would alleviate any worries that Julie has about you throwing her stuff away.
2. Are you being totally honest about how the house situation is? Is the roof problem that minor? or are you telling us what we want to hear?
And most importantly, while we all sit in our houses second guessing everything that you are doing, I respect the fact that you haven't given up, and are still working away at it. In the end, it is your house, and your problem, and you have the right to fix it or ignore it in any manner you see fit...as long as you can deal with the consequences of your decisions.
Carry on, and good luck...I haven't given up on you yet
1. I'm disappointed that you didn't accept the help that was offered...but I can understand why you didn't accept it.
2. I know that you can get more done if you really push yourself.
3. I'm very happy to hear that Julie is coming on board to help you out.
4. I'm also happy to hear that you have a plan coming together.
and I have a few questions for you:
1. Why not focus on the basement when Julie is gone? By doing a hazardous waste run or two to get rid of the paint, and a couple of dump runs while she's at work, will get that area straightened out. Also, it would alleviate any worries that Julie has about you throwing her stuff away.
2. Are you being totally honest about how the house situation is? Is the roof problem that minor? or are you telling us what we want to hear?
And most importantly, while we all sit in our houses second guessing everything that you are doing, I respect the fact that you haven't given up, and are still working away at it. In the end, it is your house, and your problem, and you have the right to fix it or ignore it in any manner you see fit...as long as you can deal with the consequences of your decisions.
Carry on, and good luck...I haven't given up on you yet
web
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First post in this thread... didn't read it all, just the first few and last few pages.
First of all, gotta admire this guy's bravery, fessing up on a public forum like this.
There's a very familiar pattern in there - I've seen parts of this in a lesser order of magnitude, in myself and some friends. I think I might know what's slowing your progress so much. So I'll take a shot at this.
You're juggling too many balls, and it's all too much. End result is you just sit at the computer all day, in a sort of paralyzed state of mind, not knowing where to start and feeling you have to do ten things at once, which obviously does not work. Not much gets done, it all keeps stacking up.
There's a few things you can do to work your way out of this, but you gotta set your mind to it. Only you can do it.
- Make a TODO list. Yes, that will be painful and it will look endless. Do it anyway.
- Subdivide the larger jobs into manageable portions. For example, don't list "clear up clutter on my entire lot", but tackle it one room at a time. Divide large rooms in sections, perhaps even one table/closet at a time.
- Stop running back and forth between 20 "half done" jobs. Nothing will get done, you will feel worse and worse.
- Work on one room/section at a time, until it's completely clean and finished. Yes, COMPLETELY. Stop at nothing to get it done, even moving stuff to other unfinished rooms is fair game. But do not start or work on any other jobs or projects, focus on one thing at a time. Ignore the rest completely. Then show us pics, let us admire that one squeaky clean room of yours, and encourage you to go on. Have no shame, pick the easiest one that maybe takes just a single day - it doesn't matter. You'll need that feeling of SOLID progress, to tackle the rest.
- But... never EVER move stuff to a "finished" room that doesn't belong there. Keep "finished" rooms clean at all times. Not even temporarily. No excuses. If you can't handle this rule, you might as well stop now. This will be easy at first, because you have a long list of unfinished rooms and sheds to shift stuff around to if necessary. But sooner or later this will force you to throw more and more away. So it slowly becomes harder, but at that point you will have many finished rooms, a much smaller TODO list and all of us as encouragement.
- If a job turns out too big, split it up into manageable sections.
- Whenever you feel bad about the jobs not done yet, go to a finished room and admire your work that IS done. Maybe take some more pics for us to admire. You'll feel so much better. You will no longer need camping trips to get away from the mess... you will have that much needed oasis right there at home.
- When something new comes up that needs to be done, and it's less than a day of work, drop everything else and tackle it immediately. It will feel so much better than adding it to the pile. Try what you can to stop the pile of work growing.
- Stop worrying about postponing the stuff you're not working on that day. If you weren't organizing jobs like this, it wouldn't get done either, so what's the difference? Let it go, and work on that one thing you've decided to work on today.
- STOP BUYING STUFF. Again: do not add to the pile. Dig out the tools you have, if you need them for the current job, but don't buy replacements until you've had to throw old defective tools away. Only buy tools that you don't have, and are absolutely essential to complete the essential job you're working on NOW. Not for something way down the TODO list, only for the current job. No excuses, just stop shopping, stay away from temptation, and don't worry about missing deals you didn't need anyway.
The computer:
- Don't start your day behind the computer. You WILL stay at it for way too long, even if you try not to.
- Don't leave it on when you go away to do something, turn it off and leave it alone for at least half a day. Ask yourself if it's really important to check mail/forums/anything five times a day. No it's not, nothing bad will happen if you skip even a whole day. So try it, and you'll be amazed how much you got done that day. Reward yourself with some computer time in the evening perhaps, but no earlier or it will eat up most of your day. Another day down the drain...
Well hope this helps... in the end it's about what works for you, but don't fool yourself there - you may need to be stricter with yourself than you are now. Good luck.
First of all, gotta admire this guy's bravery, fessing up on a public forum like this.
There's a very familiar pattern in there - I've seen parts of this in a lesser order of magnitude, in myself and some friends. I think I might know what's slowing your progress so much. So I'll take a shot at this.
You're juggling too many balls, and it's all too much. End result is you just sit at the computer all day, in a sort of paralyzed state of mind, not knowing where to start and feeling you have to do ten things at once, which obviously does not work. Not much gets done, it all keeps stacking up.
There's a few things you can do to work your way out of this, but you gotta set your mind to it. Only you can do it.
- Make a TODO list. Yes, that will be painful and it will look endless. Do it anyway.
- Subdivide the larger jobs into manageable portions. For example, don't list "clear up clutter on my entire lot", but tackle it one room at a time. Divide large rooms in sections, perhaps even one table/closet at a time.
- Stop running back and forth between 20 "half done" jobs. Nothing will get done, you will feel worse and worse.
- Work on one room/section at a time, until it's completely clean and finished. Yes, COMPLETELY. Stop at nothing to get it done, even moving stuff to other unfinished rooms is fair game. But do not start or work on any other jobs or projects, focus on one thing at a time. Ignore the rest completely. Then show us pics, let us admire that one squeaky clean room of yours, and encourage you to go on. Have no shame, pick the easiest one that maybe takes just a single day - it doesn't matter. You'll need that feeling of SOLID progress, to tackle the rest.
- But... never EVER move stuff to a "finished" room that doesn't belong there. Keep "finished" rooms clean at all times. Not even temporarily. No excuses. If you can't handle this rule, you might as well stop now. This will be easy at first, because you have a long list of unfinished rooms and sheds to shift stuff around to if necessary. But sooner or later this will force you to throw more and more away. So it slowly becomes harder, but at that point you will have many finished rooms, a much smaller TODO list and all of us as encouragement.
- If a job turns out too big, split it up into manageable sections.
- Whenever you feel bad about the jobs not done yet, go to a finished room and admire your work that IS done. Maybe take some more pics for us to admire. You'll feel so much better. You will no longer need camping trips to get away from the mess... you will have that much needed oasis right there at home.
- When something new comes up that needs to be done, and it's less than a day of work, drop everything else and tackle it immediately. It will feel so much better than adding it to the pile. Try what you can to stop the pile of work growing.
- Stop worrying about postponing the stuff you're not working on that day. If you weren't organizing jobs like this, it wouldn't get done either, so what's the difference? Let it go, and work on that one thing you've decided to work on today.
- STOP BUYING STUFF. Again: do not add to the pile. Dig out the tools you have, if you need them for the current job, but don't buy replacements until you've had to throw old defective tools away. Only buy tools that you don't have, and are absolutely essential to complete the essential job you're working on NOW. Not for something way down the TODO list, only for the current job. No excuses, just stop shopping, stay away from temptation, and don't worry about missing deals you didn't need anyway.
The computer:
- Don't start your day behind the computer. You WILL stay at it for way too long, even if you try not to.
- Don't leave it on when you go away to do something, turn it off and leave it alone for at least half a day. Ask yourself if it's really important to check mail/forums/anything five times a day. No it's not, nothing bad will happen if you skip even a whole day. So try it, and you'll be amazed how much you got done that day. Reward yourself with some computer time in the evening perhaps, but no earlier or it will eat up most of your day. Another day down the drain...
Well hope this helps... in the end it's about what works for you, but don't fool yourself there - you may need to be stricter with yourself than you are now. Good luck.
novaboy009
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BlueSuedeShoe
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Yes Web, thumbs up from me too!
JC23
Well-known member
OK, Bill. What's up?
Been reluctant to post as progress is slower than people like, but progress is being made. I don't need kudos as I am trying to be self actualizing, but here is what's up today. I now have 7 dumpsters and they are all full and at the curb for pickup today. There's a pile of boxes of books on the front walk, ready for sorting and disposing. Same with 6 HD trash bags full of clothes to be sorted and taken to the laundry. Nothing is coming back in until it has a permanent place. The spare bedroom is 1/2 empty and the 2 metal closets in there are being used daily for her work outfits. The stairs is half full as it is the conduit for taking stuff out from upstairs. If it gets on the stairs it is immediately taken outside. I cleaned up the front vestibule and foot of the stairs so the french door to the vestibule can be closed.
All the leaves are dropping from our too many trees so she bought us a Billy Goat leaf vacuum. I've been using it and got all the leaves up twice. I rake out all the beds and then run the vacuum down the walks and roads. One more leaf fall and it should be finished for the year.
I've made a big decision on the dogs. We have one dog too many. Before any of them come back I've decided that we will let one go. I've contacted the rescue that we got one of our past dogs from and they will find her a good home. It's hard to let go, but she will have a better life with a family that has more time and attention to devote to her. It is better for her, and that is the point. I am also thinking about re-homing one of the birds. I am starting to realize that I don't have the time to enjoy them and someone else should. It will give me more time to devote to the remaining pets. It is time to simplify in all areas. Simplify and refocus.
Today I have decided to remove all the contents of the spare bedroom, with few exceptions (Dressers and closets will remain. If we haven't used items, we don't need them.
Photos when that room is cleaned out.
I hear the garbage truck coming, so time to go out a fill a few more dumpsters.
And BTW, Web's post was so right on the mark. I ate it up. I soaked it up. I am following it and referring back to it. I may print it out and post it on the bathroom mirror.
All the leaves are dropping from our too many trees so she bought us a Billy Goat leaf vacuum. I've been using it and got all the leaves up twice. I rake out all the beds and then run the vacuum down the walks and roads. One more leaf fall and it should be finished for the year.
I've made a big decision on the dogs. We have one dog too many. Before any of them come back I've decided that we will let one go. I've contacted the rescue that we got one of our past dogs from and they will find her a good home. It's hard to let go, but she will have a better life with a family that has more time and attention to devote to her. It is better for her, and that is the point. I am also thinking about re-homing one of the birds. I am starting to realize that I don't have the time to enjoy them and someone else should. It will give me more time to devote to the remaining pets. It is time to simplify in all areas. Simplify and refocus.
Today I have decided to remove all the contents of the spare bedroom, with few exceptions (Dressers and closets will remain. If we haven't used items, we don't need them.
Photos when that room is cleaned out.
I hear the garbage truck coming, so time to go out a fill a few more dumpsters.
And BTW, Web's post was so right on the mark. I ate it up. I soaked it up. I am following it and referring back to it. I may print it out and post it on the bathroom mirror.
JC23
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Thanks, Bill.
Maybe you can break down Web's great post and put different parts of it in different locations. Kinda like eating an elephant.
But what about heat and sewage?
Maybe you can break down Web's great post and put different parts of it in different locations. Kinda like eating an elephant.
But what about heat and sewage?
Trey T
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Wow, that's an imagery of one's life and their character. I hope you get out of this slump and relieve yourself from the mess.
I lurked through the thread and it doesn't seem like you, the OP, did NOT make much of a progress at all.
1. Stop buying more tools or junk!
2. Get rid of your lumbers and unnecessary tools!
I have to say, a clean home does really help the relationship w/ the person you're living with. I BELIEVE LIFE SHOULD BE EASY IF YOU MAKE IT TO BE.
I lurked through the thread and it doesn't seem like you, the OP, did NOT make much of a progress at all.
1. Stop buying more tools or junk!
2. Get rid of your lumbers and unnecessary tools!
I have to say, a clean home does really help the relationship w/ the person you're living with. I BELIEVE LIFE SHOULD BE EASY IF YOU MAKE IT TO BE.
98TJ
Well-known member
Nighttrain
Well-known member
Bill, it's progress in the right direction. good on you for finding another home for those pets. It's good to hear that you are saying that they deserve another home.
Keep in the fight buddy!
Keep in the fight buddy!
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