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ot but doesn't big block refer to being over square more than the actual dimentions of the block? of course if there is only one block you don't need to differentiate.

What is "over square" krusty?

Isn't a big block Chevy motor physically larger than a small block Chevy motor?

For Pontiacs, saying your car is a "big block" tips people off to the fact that you don't know your car very well!

Sorry for the off topic talk that I started here, Deafautotech!
 
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Another fine deaf woman, Marlee Matlin :drool:

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What is "over square" krusty?

Isn't a big block Chevy motor physically larger than a small block Chevy motor?

For Pontiacs, saying your car is a "big block" tips people off to the fact that you don't know your car very well!

Sorry for the off topic talk that I started here, Deafautotech!

no problems... i do enjoy go with my friend in 1968 firebird...
 
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Merkava 4: thank you for cheer me up....


All right i need go sleep as just depression and get ready for new day tomorrow to finish the 1968 firebird as power steering pump has bad leaking and i need put new pump in. then put new axle bearings and seals on it because my friend always like to burn out his 1968 Firebird...

Thank you for your advise and cheer me up...
 
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i am just feel like i am left out... just feeling....

I'm 37. When I was your age I was dating but most people I knew were getting married, having kids, etc. Most of those people are all divorced now including my brother. I felt pressured then to do the same but I don't get that now. If anything I hear "you're lucky" quite often. I'm not lucky I just chose not to get married and have children. It was a very sound decision on my part.

Go at your own pace. If that means picking it up with the ladies then go for it, if not go with what's important to you such as your work. For many, work is the only really satisfying thing in their lives.

My best friend was girl shy up until his late 20s (he never dated) then something changed and now he pulls in very fine looking girls that he meets on the internet and he aint no Brad Pitt. Sometimes I'm the one telling him he's "lucky."
 
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When I was in my 20's any and all relationships I tried to make work were doomed from the start. It wasn't because of the type of women I was choosing, but because I wasn't happy with myself, and I hadn't yet found out "who I was". Very few people I know are really prepared to be married and have kids in their early 20's. Almost everyone does get caught up or knocked up by then though, and only a few make it through with a healthy solid relationship.

Find what things make you happy in YOUR life, and what makes you happy being you. When you get to that point you will not let your partner define who you are, and you will have TONS of women wanting to date you because you will be you, not just a guy wanting a girlfriend.
 

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This is pretty awesome actually. Nicely put.

Find what things make you happy in YOUR life, and what makes you happy being you. When you get to that point you will not let your partner define who you are, and you will have TONS of women wanting to date you because you will be you, not just a guy wanting a girlfriend.
 

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When I was in my 20's any and all relationships I tried to make work were doomed from the start. It wasn't because of the type of women I was choosing, but because I wasn't happy with myself, and I hadn't yet found out "who I was". Very few people I know are really prepared to be married and have kids in their early 20's. Almost everyone does get caught up or knocked up by then though, and only a few make it through with a healthy solid relationship.

Find what things make you happy in YOUR life, and what makes you happy being you. When you get to that point you will not let your partner define who you are, and you will have TONS of women wanting to date you because you will be you, not just a guy wanting a girlfriend.

Very, very, good advice. :thumbup:

A lot of people who get married very young haven't found out who they are and if you don't know that, it's hard to know who you want or need to be with.
 

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Go at your own pace.

BEST piece of advice!

I have had quite a few weird experiences. Most of my friends have kids, and have been through multiple marriages. I proposed just once (and that was discussed elsewhere).
Enough friends with money (from million dollar trust funds by their first birthdays, to earned quite a bit of it) Those don't help. Although, this hasn't stopped some of their wives from hitting on me, and in one case, being ASKED to "date" ones wife:wtf:.
Competeing with my boss (and thankfully missing his psycho ex), being blown off by a gal who went to date a murderer (anyone remember the Iowa family religous slayings?), etc.

Now, I am 39 (your still young!), single, and almost debt free (mortgage should be done by my birthday next year). A few friends call me the 50 year old virgin, because I act older, look in my 20's (*****) and in a few cases, attract their daughters (18-21).

I have given up looking. When/if it will happen, it will happen. Until then just try to be content. A comedian said it best, your either lonely and want to kill yourself, or you want to kill someone else. Either way, your miserable.
Now I am saying, at least this way, your not broke!:lol_hitti
 

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I've been lookin' for a deaf-mute, nymphomaniac for yrs !
 
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You're still young... Only 23??? Too young to get hitched if you ask me. I've been married for 15 years in November. My wife and I were separated for two . Damn near getting divorced. How close??? Only one last court date and it would have been all over. We sold our house , split the equity, all the furniture. Everything.!!! I was giving her 350.00 a week in child support. The whole deal. We just couldn't let it go. So we gave it another chance. To tell you the truth, things are better now than they were before. Don't get me wrong. Not every night is blow jobs and candle light, but things are WAYYYYYYYYY better. hang in there. You'll find someone. It might not be as soon as you want, but it will happen. Have you looked into E-Harmony??? More of a relationship site than a getting laid sight. Unless you just want to get laid. I would stay away from craigslist. Too many horror stories on the news about that one. Enjoy your life. Don't sweat something like this. It's not worth it.
 
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When I was in my 20's any and all relationships I tried to make work were doomed from the start. It wasn't because of the type of women I was choosing, but because I wasn't happy with myself, and I hadn't yet found out "who I was". Very few people I know are really prepared to be married and have kids in their early 20's. Almost everyone does get caught up or knocked up by then though, and only a few make it through with a healthy solid relationship.

Find what things make you happy in YOUR life, and what makes you happy being you. When you get to that point you will not let your partner define who you are, and you will have TONS of women wanting to date you because you will be you, not just a guy wanting a girlfriend.

That what I feel like what you did that....

That is good advise to go with my pace..

I had talk with my parents as sit down and talk about myself with my parents. My parents told me to not worry about it even just enjoy a life and sometime I could meet a babe like go on harley ride or events... my mom said she would take care of it to find a babe for me... I told my mom to leave it to me.. Not all babes like to know my mom try to find me a date....
 

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You might feel lonely dude, but seriously I am a couple years younger than you....and Most of the time at this age relationships dont work. Ive dated some messed up girls..and done some things that I probably regret.

Take your time. Trust me you will be happy you did.
 

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Look at your life, what you do and what you like to do, and think about what it is that you like to do that adding a woman would improve, then enhance that activity to include more people and maybe you will like one of them.
 
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A good start would be to move out on your own. It will appear to them, like your looking for a replacement mom.

yeah but i am concern about my flat rate as last 2 months are great and i made good money but right now my work are slow... i just count the hours for last week are about 20 hours... BUT i has 2001 LS with 3.9L that has bad secondary timing tensioner as plastic broke off and cams are off timing. then i did test the head (left head side) for any valve bent. it do but very small leak. i did pulled it out and sent to machine shop then wait for machine shop to call insurance company to approval it...

i am moving out to my brother and his wife's rent house so i can go to work 16 miles instead 40 miles a way to work... BUT my brother are planning to sell it because they loose money on it... so i will be house watch and care myself while they sell it....
 
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freakin girls MESS UP EVERYTHING
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Hey I will be the first to tell you that being married is WONDERFUL, but is also a LOT of work. I married pretty young and can tell you that the two years of our marriage were pretty tough. Now that we are through our problems (mostly my immaturity @21) things are great. I would recommend not looking, but keep an open mind, and just enjoy being 23 years old! You are nowhere near too old to get into a relationship, and you WILL find someone. Don't let your hearing impairment keep you from looking. I would love to be able to turn a hearing aide off when my wife is grumpy!!! On a serious note, do not rush having kids, they like marriage are WONDERFUL but tale even more work than marriage.
 

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Live at home as long as you can. Buy tools, bikes,cars, whatever you gotta have for toys. Wives and girlfriends think you should be spending it on them.

If you go out looking for the woman of your dreams it rarely happens. I married at 29, divorced in less than a year. I felt I was running out of time? :headscrat Swore women were evil. Swore I'd never get serious with one again. Then one afternoon (seven years later) in the US Post Office, I met my current wife.
Life is very unpredictable.
 
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Live at home as long as you can. Buy tools, bikes,cars, whatever you gotta have for toys. Wives and girlfriends think you should be spending it on them.

If you go out looking for the woman of your dreams it rarely happens. I married at 29, divorced in less than a year. I felt I was running out of time? :headscrat Swore women were evil. Swore I'd never get serious with one again. Then one afternoon (seven years later) in the US Post Office, I met my current wife.
Life is very unpredictable.

i am still buying a tools where i can get a good deal... i never buy new car as i like old truck where not too much of electrical problems....

that story are interesting... i am take a my time and do what i want to do for future... my brother think i am smart with money and work too much But same time he was surprised that i never did try to date a babe...
 

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Well, Deafautotech, there are a few excellent posts here that I hope you picked up on. It's sooooo easy to give advice, but so difficult to really empathize with whats going on in someone else's head. So, I will share with you some of my life lessons that I hope are appropriate.

Many people badgered me over the years to do this, do that, regarding college, careers, marriage, money, etc.. To the point that it made me sad and mad. Once I told them that I was happy where I was and please quit doing that, it stopped. Communicate to them in a nice, but assertive way to back off. You will feel much better and they will respect you.

My wife (high school sweethart of 32 years) always tells me not to wish to be in someone else's shoes.....something that happens at numerous life stages, like your peers finishing college, marriage, children, etc.. My wife is SOOOOO right. In almost all cases, 5 or 10 years down the line, the people I envied were in serious trouble, one way or another.

You imply that you are satisfied with your career. Let me tell you, MANY men envy you for that and are miserable in their own careers. Don't downplay that aspect of success in your life. Off topic slightly, but a very wise man told me in my twenties "Work hard to please yourself first. If you work hard ONLY trying to please others, you will always be unhappy." Of course, this doesn't mean to live your life too self centered.

Like others have said, don't rush the babe (er, woman is more respectful) thing. It's really easy to pick out the posts here that are from bitter men and you don't want to "be in their shoes".

It sounds like you are living at home with your parents in a responsible way...good for you. In today's economy, it's becoming more common. Cherish the time with your parents. Some day you will miss it and them.

Best Regards
 

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Which comment was that? What the hell are you talking about? :confused:
this one i think
Aren't there some fine-*** deaf women out there? My gut feeling tells me there are. Hell, I wouldn't mind dating a deaf woman myself, but I'd have to learn ASL first.

By the way, every single community college semester, the ASL classes get booked up faster than any other course on the class schedule. You gotta register for that class online and you gotta be waiting by the computer ready to pounce as soon as registration begins.
 

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Oh, jibber jabber, you people! Blah blah blah! How about actually helping the guy out, such as how to find this desirable babe he's looking for. His instincts were put there by God and/or evolution, however you believe. Let's get to the point already.

(1) number one rule; stay put. Your best shot at finding a mate (outside of computer match-making, that is) is to stay in a particular community. When it comes to dating the rule is "go deep" (as in networks) not "go wide" (as in, move frequently searching). It's a little like a job search. Single people who move frequently are some of the most lonely people around. If you have friends, tell them you're interested in a quality girlfriend. They may know someone. And people you meet thru friends are generally higher quality than the common wisdom suggests. Your friends will have an idea of who is "your type." Pay attention to their suggestions.

(2) If you are looking for a quality mate, skip the singles bars, obviously. The online dating services are actually a good idea because they attempt to match on values, ideologies, and attitudes...which are like psychological roots. These things don't change (or very seldom change, in adults) so your chances of a lasting relationship are much higher if you find someone with basic values matches (Notice I didn't say personality match, that's not as important. In fact some personality mismatches get along quite fine.). My beef with online dating is that it really puts the natural development of a relationship in a crunch; it's hard to be casual and natural when both of you are paying to meet.

3) Go to where the women are, and skip your first stereotypical ideas of where they are (buying makeup and clothes, watching oprah, getting into car accidents) and get to the next level. For example, there are TONS of eligible (mostly young) women in school (you didn't say what age range you're looking for). They are taking classes in psychology, yoga, business, & communications. Dude, if you took a course in communications, saying that "I'm deaf, which is challenging, so I'm trying to learn how to communicate better," I swear you could not beat the women off of you with a stick, they would swarm you, they would just love you to death. A deaf guy in a comm class? That's pure catnip. And you'd probably be in a class that's 90% women (that's how comm classes generally look).

4) You are what women are looking for...yep, that's right, you are a responsible guy who knows how to make and save money. That's right at the top of the list of what women are looking for! Study after study shows that men want youth/beauty; and women want a stable man who has enough money to help her nest (whatever she considers nesting, it will take money to do it). Frankly the women are a lot smarter here...they go for the important stuff, money and skill. We men get all hung up on appearances that go ****** after 15 years.

(5) Learn how to flirt. It is a skill, and easily picked up. Sounds exotic but the rules are very basic and are not very '****.' There are books on it, go order one on Amazon and read it in private (don't let ANYONE see that you own the book however, that will really damage your rep). As you can see by my photo in the Avatar, I am not a handsome guy. When I concentrate on flirting, things go very well for me. But there are rules to flirting and if you have been out of the game, get a book on it, I kid you not. No more complicated than tuning up a car...

(6) Benjamin Franklin had some timeless, forthright, and good advice on dating, particularly as pertains to older vs younger women. It's good reading. (And old Ben was very handy with the women, despite his looks!)

This will get you started. Depending on the amount of flak I get for this posting (I expect a ton), I may or may not offer more later.
 
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right now I am starting to feeling like something are missing like my brother (i only has one brother) got married 2 years ago but keep contacts him most of time by emails. BUT most of my friends that i has them since i was in preschool to high school (Indiana school for the Deaf) are either get girlfriend or boyfriend OR even got married (with baby??). Some of my deaf friends still in college which good for them to keep learning and earn a degree.

I was married at 22 and divorced at 30. Putting it bluntly, you have tons to learn about yourself between those ages, let alone the person you're with.

i already graduated from Ivy tech with A.A.S degree for 3 years in program for automotive technology. but same time i was in part time mechanic since high school's internship (two jobs between sept 2003 to may 2007) then i worked full time at one job until may 2009 before closed the dealership. next month after laid off, i got a new job and love it. i have giant toolbox with tons of tools that i paid off even keep buy tools that i need for work at ford dealership...

Looks like you chose the right career, pursued and achieved the appropriate education, have become successful and exhibit a fantastic work ethic. This puts you somewhere in the top 10% of those in your age group. You've made all the right moves and you have a cool toolbox full of very cool tools that you know how to use to boot!

But problem is i dont even try to date a babe. most of time i do are either work at job (or side jobs on weekends) OR on my harley and enjoy a day...

Enjoy a day on your harley??? Sounds to me so far, that if I was wondering about the secrets of life, I might be better off asking YOU for answers, lol.


i am feeling like i have something missing! Even my friends keep asking me when i will date a babe or get marry... same with my parents that ask me when.... i just act like i am busy. i dont understand why i do this... my brother doing really good and got married then have a life while i am focus lot on my job and make all money i can earn... i has good money and i am not worry about it BUT i just keep act like i keep saving all money to bank even not spend much like other people do... i only pay or buy what i have to or need it (not want it)... i know most of my friends has tight budgets to keep live through month to month.

Two separate issues there, I think. The first is that the people around you who care for you are often the ones who erroneously feel (with your best interest in mind) that they have a good idea of what is best for you. They love you; listen to them, but make your own assessment when it comes down to it.

The second issue isn't an issue at all, especially these days. Keep saving your money and continue to buck the trend and resist spending.

do i forget something or that is happen to everyone. i dont like to be single for rest of my life but i prefer to live a good life than through very tough time...

Forgive me for chuckling here during a serious moment. I think everyone feels this way at some point whether it's money or love, career -- whatever.

Take your time, keep doing what you're doing. Babes dig a guy who's comfortable in his skin, knows how to have fun, works hard and has clear vision for the future. Most guys who have gone out "hunting" for a babe, have returned empty handed or worse.

The way to find a good woman is to keep doing what you're doing, have fun, be confident. I guarantee one will find YOU. Maybe not tomorrow or next week, but it will happen.

Then again, five years ago, I found the most amazing woman (the one I am to marry come November) on match.com. Prior to that I found 25 or so women I would never have married in the same place.
 

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HOLY ****! I just now, after all these years figured out how to say your user name! I didn't know you were deaf, so I was pronouncing that part of your name (DEEF) and wondering what it meant.

Wow am I dumb! :lol_hitti

I bet you did'nt feel half as dumb as I did when I figured it out.

From the slightly odd but charming way the words were strung together, and the username, I got the impression that it might be somebody, possibly of European origin, who worked in the photographic industry, with a handle pronounced "De Photo Tech" !!!

Andy, I hope you don't take offence at this post, as I have since come to have huge respect for you, both as a person and as an autotech.:beer:
 
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