Ok, busy day. shifter had two issues. Alignment in vehicle, and the attachment at transmission wasn't tight enough. I pulled the old nut off, got a nut off the 02X we just bought for my daughter, slightly different nut, and put that on. I centered the shifter alignment in vehicle, centered the travel to get it where i wanted, then tightened the new nut down. It bottomed out, then i kept tightening and it sort of fell into a "groove" my words. And tightened down some more. Now it doesn't move at all. So with some more alignment inside car, i should be good to go to finish the shifter install and put the interior back together.
I'm making arrangement to work from home tomorrow (not supposed to) and will try again next week, after i have put some miles on it.