Practice, practice, practice.
I think you are trying to jump right in before starting with the basics.
First try, just get a flat piece of plain mild steel. About 1/8" thick. Clean it to remove all 'stuff' that is not actual steel until the piece is bright and shiny and clean steel. No rust, no oil or grease or paint or anything that is NOT clean bright shiny steel.
Once you have your flat steel all prepped and your tungsten prepped (look up on what that all means if you are not sure), then with proper stick out (how far the tip of the tungsten sticks out past the end of the gas cup) start a single puddle on the steel. No travel and no filler, just one single puddle in one place. Hold the tungsten the proper distance from the workpiece, start the arc and get a puddle to form and then HOLD the torch still and stop the arc. Hold the torch still until the post flow gas has ended. Look at the tungsten tip, is it still bright and shiny? Look at the puddle, is it bright and shiny (maybe a LITTLE bit of color on the edges of the puddle)? If all that is good, do it again. And again, and again for practice. One step at a time.
If your weld puddle or tungsten tip are NOT bright and shiny, then you have a problem somewhere. You or the machine or the gas itself. Investigate and check things until you can that single puddle to be 'good'.
Once you can do or get that to be 'good', then start moving the puddle along by moving the torch along. Still no filler being used, this stage is just to practice and check you and the machine and the gas.
I think you have too many unknowns going on at the same time. New machine, possible gas question, tungsten grinding, stick out, stainless steel, thin stainless steel, thin stainless steel tubing, etc.
Simplify and start with the basics. Flat bar, plain mild steel, no filler and just get a puddle formed. Work up from there.