Yeah,Anything new with this?
1. I went to a lawyer and talked to them about my options. We're on a razor thin line on whether or not suing this guy would make any sense. He has some resources, but he also has some other lawsuits (shocked face), and it looks like he could easily file bankruptcy. Lawyer recommended that I go to the builder and ask him what he's willing to do.
2. I went to the builder and he's been working heavily with me on the water leaking (as expected). He's been very apologetic about it, and I think he's pretty sincere. I have no doubt that he'll figure out a way to fix the water leak (my smallest problem)
3. I talked to him about the structural issues. He looked at me like I was crazy (as did his entire team). If anything he seems to think this is overbuilt (I was shocked). We talked for about 5 hours about my structural concerns. He showed me all sorts of papers about benefits of grade 33 steel, and how using the type of purlins he uses, and using 26 gauge steel on the outside make everything so much stronger than is actually needed. After talking to him for that amount of time, it was pretty clear to me that he's in complete denial. He's been building for 25 years, and has been building like this for that long and "never had a building with any issues". I got absolutely nowhere on him helping me out with the structure.
Even if I wanted to sue (which I dread), I can't get a structural engineer, and I am not willing to take the risk to spend ~$30k on structural engineers, and lawyers, just for the chance that he'd file for bankruptcy. I haven't completely ruled out a lawsuit, but I think our path forward will be that we'll build this as strong as we can on the inside with wood. I'll built the inside as if it were a stand alone structure.
*Most Importantly* I won't be using this as our house. We're going to transition this into a VERY large garage and guest house. We're going to build another home higher up on my hill. As poorly built as this metal building is, I don't believe this tube steel could possibly fall and break through a strong wooden structure on the inside. I'm going to work with someone who has experience building wooden pole barns to make the inside structurally sound. I also got some really good advice from @readhead (unrelated to everything I've said so far) on how he would make the building more structurally sound. Depending on what my pole barn builder says, there's a good chance we'll add more metal diagonal supports, extra trusses (sister trusses, probably out of bar joist). There's a few other ideas, but I'm not going to waste the time and money to go after this guy. I'm going to let him do what he'll do to help, and just build the building how I was planning on, but add extra supports where I can.
Further advice is welcome, but unless I can find a local structural engineer fairy, who is willing to work on this with me for nearly free, I'd rather just make this a giant garage. If it falls, I have insurance.

