OP I think you’ve got a good handle on this, based on your posts. What you’re describing is a Submariner system - batteries make the base of the system and power most normal loads, and the batteries are charged whenever you “surface” to run large loads or need to charge the batteries. Add some solar to your equation because batteries are really good at taking everything the generator can put out when between 20% and 80% SOC, but getting the batteries to 100% gets really, really expensive with diesel only - and you will need to get the batteries to 100% at least once a week. No matter how tree locked your property is, there’s space for 1-2kW of PV. Consider getting it up high, like a carport or awning, and you get bonus shade and snow protection ;-)
I’d second the recommendation for either Rolls or Crown for batteries, and IMO Magnum makes the best inverter and balance of plant equipment for this type of system - look at the MS4448PAE - it’s one of the only I know of that can natively charge from both a 120v source (your EU gen) and 240v (your eventual diesel set). Plus it’s got probably the best battery charger circuitry in the industry, which is good for your application. Magnum’s PV charge controller is also one of the best available.
My experience with designing off grid - the system design is driven by water and budget. Based on what you’ve said, I’d prepare for running a deep well pump off the main generator, which will help loading, and pump into a large underground storage tank, controlled by a float switch. Small battery powered booster pump to pressurize to the house. Whenever the genset runs, the pump is available as a load to fill the tank. Depending on static water depth, get a soft start pump and you can run it off the inverter as well.
Invest in one good power system, and run both the house and the shop off it. It ***** to have to fire up the generator every time you want to make a cut, and part of the beauty of living in a remote area like what you’ve found is the native quiet. With a modern inverter power system, you can power most loads off the system, but have the inverter start the generator when you kick on larger loads like the table saw and dust collector for a batch of cuts. Once the genset is running the inverter supports the generator while also charging the batteries.
For owner-builder construction, I’m a huge fan of ICFs and a pumper truck. BIg chunks of wall go together quick and simply, solo, and you can spend as much time as you want and need to get things straight, plumb and braced. Get your friends together to handle the hose, call out the pumper truck and you have all your walls poured by lunch time. Don’t forget to insulate under your slab, and run radiant tubing in the slab. Use a Combi-cor hot water heater and a Laing DC circulatory and you’ve got radiant heat and domestic H20 with near zero electric draw, plus you can easily add solar thermal later and decrease your fuel dependence.
Have fun, and enjoy your new property!