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@zmotorsports) Mike. I am offended at the thought you think you can offend me.

No offense take what so ever.
I believe we are saying the same thing in different ways. People choose to be offended and I am not one to give that kind of power over me to others...
nothing you typed is offending.
I am happy for you and your wife having alignment on retirement. We too, my wife and I have alignment just in a different sense otherwise I don't think we would be together.
Stress, anxiety and fear can cause lots of issues especially when we beat ourselves up as we aim at perfection and or goal setting and accomplishment. "Everyone has a plan until the get punched in the face." Mike Tyson. Work flow can add to the forementioned and double down on us. I don't need others to beat me up turning down a job...heck I am really good at beating myself up at not meeting my own expectations. Thus expectations are just premeditated resentment...like the guy with the FJ40. He had an expectation and now he has his resentment. If I was was you I'd ask him if he has a "Tough **** Card". I'd put a hole in it for him. I have a punch if you need to use it.
Since my retirement I cannot count how many people have the latest great idea for me to manufacture and do the work while they reap the reward. I put them to bed one at a time...you want my time?, the fewer days I have left with every rotation of the big and little hand? That time? You are going to have to pay...and that is if I decided to do it...and it will be on my schedule not yours.
On the flip side there are those who I cater too who have been there for me when I needed them. Mostly from the racing community and life long friends. Their little projects are more of an excuse to get together and have a beer and accomplish at least one thing...their project and share life experiences in the process.
Mike with the skillset and talent you have naturally or learned you are good friend to "USE"...note I did not say have. There is a difference. I weed the "users" out in a hurry. Friendship is a 2 way street and mutual. Some confuse business with friendship. My brother always comments about the relationships I develop with my customers (I did sales too). Yes we got along great. Lunches, laughing while getting a million dollar project off the ground, developing each other skillsets and so on. But what he is seeing is the mutual extortion of 2 people accomplishing something. They extort my talent and I extort payment in the simplest of terms. Of all the people I have worked with daily for years, my customers, I only stay in touch with a few of them...those were the relationships where we became friends based on mutual beliefs, goals, family value, work ethic and hobbies. The rest...they are extorting somebody else now while being extorted themselves all in a good way.
More and more I take time to smell the roses. For the last few weeks with the cooler weather moving in I shut down the shop just before sunset and watch the sun go down. Sitting in the chair in front of the building thinking I have to be the luckiest person in the world. And practice a little gratuity in the process knowing full well I have crawled through a few minefields covered in broken glass to get to where I am without regret. Well 1 regret: I should have bought the 2005 Ford GT at invoice when I had the chance on Dec 26, 2005.
We all go through the moments where we get wrapped around the axel...that is when it is time to grab a personal project and get it done. I find myself every time I finish something for myself...or a project for somebody else that I have to learn something new.
Funny my buddy Jerry and my buddy Tim, both are gone but their creations remain. Jerry's shop and Tim's scattered collections of cars and street rods continue on. Someday I'll be gone and all the Nuts and Bolts I restocked this week will still be here...scattered I am sure on projects accomplished or from the GJ Auction...LOL. It was an interesting conversation with myself while stocking the Hardware.
I read you post while eating lunch in the shop. You did not offend me Mike...not 1 ounce and felt the need to come up to the house (where we have internet, the shop doesn't by design) and set the record straight. I have the utmost respect for you! And throw in a little admiration too.